Whether a marriage is happy or not is like knowing whether one is drinking water or not.

My husband is not a romantic person. We didn't get married without any betrothal gifts, wedding dresses, or new houses. We just took the time to go back to our hometown to apply for a marriage certificate, and had a meal with our parents, brothers, and sisters. Almost twenty years have passed like this, and I also feel that I am very happy now. I have never felt that the lack of a wedding means a lack of happiness.

My husband has sent me flowers three times since he met me. The first time was when we first met, he bought me a bouquet of flowers. I was really happy when I got the flowers, but then they turned sour. Shopping and eating with bouquets of flowers are really annoying and cumbersome. When the happy mood subsided, I complained in my heart that I had nothing to do to buy flowers. It was a waste of money and trouble.

The second time I bought flowers was after I got married. When I got home after get off work and was cooking, my husband came back with a large bouquet of flowers, forgetting what they were. I just feel so strange, why buy flowers? The answer is that I want to buy it. Well, although I am not satisfied with the answer, I am in a good mood. But I left for work before dawn every day, and when I came back from get off work, I didn’t have much time to appreciate them, so the flowers slowly withered. I forgot when I bought it the third time, but I remember this time.

After we got married, we also had a running-in period, which was different from when we were in love. At that time, there were more frequent quarrels. It was really a small quarrel every three days and a big quarrel every five days. But when it's good, it's really good. You and I mix the honey with the oil.

This is how the two people's personalities slowly blended in. After this period of getting used to each other, we rarely quarrel. We all know where each other's bottom line is and don't do anything inappropriate. Maybe my parents are not around, and only his parents are around. There are no two family conflicts, and the adjustment is faster. Moreover, I am a person who has a temper that comes and goes quickly. My husband knows this problem of mine. When I lose my temper, he will stay angry with me, and then he will argue with me when my anger subsides. He also picks the time when I am sleepy and want to rest. At this time, he can only say what he says. Every time afterward, I would tell him that he was such a thief, but he would just laugh and say nothing.

My husband is not a macho man. When it was inconvenient for me to do housework, he would cook, wash dishes, and boil brown sugar water for me. When we have free time, he always arranges things like going out to play, watching movies, etc., and I just talk but don't do anything. He is also very capable of making things by hand. He made all the lockers at home in his spare time. He also takes his daughter to learn painting together and provides very patient guidance.

I don’t know if it’s romantic or not, but happiness is really happiness. So when I hear people say that so-and-so is a good couple, I just smile, because I know that our family is what others call a couple.

There is no way to compare happiness, because they are all the same.