I am from Luotian, Huanggang. I asked my classmate (from Wujiashan Rainbow Town) and he said that the place in Wuhan is similar to our place. The man first has to calculate the date and then go to the woman (to send the date). ), the seventh aunt and the eighth aunt came to see how you are doing. Nowadays, it is common to give money (28888 for those who are rich, at least 5888 for those who have no money). Generally, if possible, you can negotiate a suitable time to get married (not determined), but you still have to calculate the date and send the invitation... Take a look at the following

1. Picking an auspicious day (picking a day)

2. Giving a big gift (about three to four weeks ago)

3. Posting (about three to four weeks ago)

4. Going to the top (the night before the wedding)

5. Dowry

6. Picking up the bride (the day of the wedding)

7. Going out (the wedding day)

8. Passing the door (the wedding day)

9. Returning (the wedding day)

1. Choosing an auspicious day (picking a day)

To choose a day to get married, choosing a day is the most auspicious day based on the time and horoscopes of both men and women. Usually it refers to choosing an auspicious day for ceremonies such as "registration" and "bride pick-up". If these ceremonies are not held on the same day, the date of picking up the bride and passing the wedding ceremony will prevail.

2. The grand ceremony

The most solemn engagement ceremony takes place approximately fifteen to twenty days before the wedding. The groom's family will choose an auspicious day and send gifts and various gifts to the bride's family.

To this day, because this traditional wedding etiquette is cumbersome and time-consuming, the full set of "Three Books and Six Rituals" is rarely used. Most of the time, the complex is simplified. The most widely valued one is the great gift. One ring.

Items: The groom’s family (extreme gift) The bride’s family (return gift)

The gift usually has an auspicious amount determined and is stored in a red envelope. Must have tea and fruits

One load of gift cakes (wedding cakes). Since there are more Western cakes now, there is no need for one load (i.e. four hundred). When passing the ceremony, it is enough to bring eight symbolically to represent your feelings. Two pairs of dragon and phoenix gift cakes need to be prepared, one pair for both men and women. Others are replaced with Chinese cake cards and Western cake cards, or with Lishi. Half or a portion of the man’s gift (can be replaced by rishi)

Seafood can be divided into four, six or eight styles. Usually each style is divided into two packages, regardless of the weight. It’s up to the person to be rich and frugal, but there must be Nostoc, others include: scallops, abalone, mushrooms, squid, shark's fin, oysters, sea cucumbers, dried shrimps, fish maw, etc., which can be replaced by Leeshi. One pair each of lotus root, taro, and pomegranate

Three animals, two pairs of chickens or geese, two males and two females (if the parents are incomplete, one pair is enough), three to five kilograms of pork in two pairs (that is, one piece is connected and two are separated) ﹞, it can also be replaced by profit. Double Happiness Curtain

Fish A pair of fish, big fish or dace, whichever has a fishy smell. Suits, trousers (long life and wealth) or clothing materials and belts for the son-in-law

Two pairs of coconuts, whichever one has a father and a son, two pairs if the father is still alive, otherwise one pair is enough. Cypress, Rishi, taro, ginger

Wine, two pairs of foreign wine or rice wine, four bottles of silver bag (with Rishi inside), one pair of shoes (we will grow old together), two pairs of socks, two envelopes of Rishi ( It says: Five generations live under one roof, hundreds of sons and thousands of grandchildren)

Sijing fruits include dried lychees, dried longans, dried walnuts and peanuts in shells. Betrothal money, tea, fried dumplings and Dafa sponge cake

Fruit means fresh and vigorous lettuce

Tea and sesame because tea trees cannot be transplanted and need to be planted with seeds , so using tea leaves as a gift to wish your son a fruitful and unyielding son implies a woman's unswerving loyalty, which is known as the "Yoump Tea Ceremony". The large sugar cane at the door

The post box, commonly known as the gift box, contains two pairs of lotus seeds, lilies, green thread, cypress, betel nut, sesame, red beans, mung beans, red dates, dried walnuts, dried longan, and red beans. Rope, money, betrothal money, gold ornaments, a pair of dragon and phoenix candles and a couplet. One betel nut (the remainder will be given back to the husband's family, pointing from one to the other). But keep everything simple and replace it with a piece of betel nut. Write "If you give too much, you will get a lot of money." For example, "pork gold" replaces pork, and "clothing gold" replaces clothing. However, some important gifts should be brought in person as much as possible, including: a pair of dragon and phoenix cakes, several Tang cakes (about eight), a pair of dragon and phoenix candles, a couplet and fruits, etc. The items in the betrothal gift imply good luck, and the quantity must be in pairs, and odd numbers are avoided. When a bride’s family receives a betrothal gift from a groom’s family, not all of it is accepted. The items that belong to the groom’s family’s blessings need to be returned with gift cakes. In order to avoid rushing around for shopping, you can buy some hardcover gift boxes sold by Chinese bakeries so that you have all the important items needed for the gift. Handkerchiefs are not allowed as gifts, as they may imply breaking up.

Wedding cakes

According to Chinese tradition, sending wedding cakes is a part that should not be taken lightly. It shows the importance and grandness of the wedding. The groom's family will send gift cakes (bridal cakes) when celebrating a grand ceremony, and the bride's family will distribute them to relatives and friends to celebrate the occasion. The so-called "marry cakes" are sent to announce the good news to relatives and friends that their daughter will get married. The number of cakes distributed can be determined according to the relatives, elders and children, and can also be divided into four, six and eight styles, depending on the meaning of pairs.

There are currently 30 to 40 types of Chinese gift cakes. The most popular ones are: Colorful Egg Crisp, Egg Yolk, Lotus Paste, Red Damask Lotus Paste, Yellow Damask Bean Paste, Terminalia and Peach Crispy Egg Yolk, Lotus Paste Chicken Cake, egg yolk, crispy egg white, coconut mountain

Tips: All numbers are in even numbers, which means good things come in pairs; Traditionally, some relatives and friends who are far apart and do not need to send invitations to drink can be sent separately. For gift cakes, the smallest pie is usually two, commonly known as "double flat"; those who are closer to each other can have half a catty (six) or two catties (eight). Currently, six is ??the most common pie. Tang cake coupons are also mostly from half dozen shops.

3. Bed placement

In addition to being important for health and harmonious marriage, the bed is also a tool for safely nurturing offspring, so it is also considered very important.

Except for a new bed, all other bedding items for the groom’s family are sent to the groom’s family as dowry from the bride’s family.

Select an auspicious day, and a lucky man will move the new bed to the appropriate position a few days before the wedding. Before the wedding, the lucky lady is responsible for making the bed, placing mattresses, bedsheets, dragon and phoenix quilts, mandarin duck pillows, Baizi tents and other bedding on the bed, and placing various auspicious and fruitful things on the bed, such as acacia beans (red beans and red beans). Mung beans), a pair of Daji, red dates, fresh and dried lilies and lotus seeds, longan, dried lychees and Lishi.

On the night of the wedding, after the couple enters the new house, they can let the children eat the wedding fruit on the bed, which is called "pressing the bed", which means hundreds of children and thousands of grandchildren. If you want to add a lively atmosphere, the groom's brothers can make a fuss in the new house. In ancient times, it was believed that "the newlyweds will not make trouble if they don't make trouble, and the more trouble they make, the more they will make trouble."

Tips: Choose a good-luck woman to make your bed. A good-luck woman should be an elder whose parents and children are alive and in a harmonious marriage, and whose children have grown up and are economically capable in society ( The most important thing is that there are no cases of miscarriage or miscarriage); After the bed is installed, no one is allowed to enter the new room and touch the new bed until the couple enters the room on the wedding night; Pregnant women and those with filial piety are not allowed to enter within the first month of the wedding In the new house, women who are menstruating are not allowed to enter the new house after the bed is set up and on the night of the wedding (except the bride);

4. Above

On the eve of the wedding, both men and women choose an auspicious time (the man Half an hour (i.e. one hour) earlier than the woman, the head-dressing ceremony is performed. The top symbolizes that the newlyweds have entered the "adult" stage. This ceremony must be held by the "lucky man" and the "lucky woman" in the respective homes of the man and woman.

When the auspicious time comes, the newlyweds should put on brand-new pajamas and underwear respectively. The woman should choose a table by the window where she can see the moonlight, light dragon and phoenix candles and With a stick of fragrant fragrance, along with lotus seeds, red dates, three bowls of soup balls (six or nine in each bowl), fruits, roasted meat and chicken, you sincerely pay homage to heaven.

Both men and women must prepare rulers, mirrors and scissors, the so-called "leading mirror and scissors", which means the successor of the bright future, and let the "good luck man" and "good luck woman" take their place. The newlyweds combed their hair and said:

One comb to the end

Two combs to the white hair and eyebrows

Three combs to the children and grandchildren.

Comb the four combs until the four silver bamboo shoots are evenly aligned

Then tie the hinoki cypress and red rope on the heads of the newlyweds, and finally shout "Gao Sheng" before standing up.

Tips: The newlyweds must bathe with pomelo leaves before getting married; the newlyweds must wear brand new pajamas and underwear; if you are remarrying, you do not need to get married again, because you have already " "Adult"; The above is already a very simple ceremony, so there is no way to simplify it; the groom is handled by men, and the bride is handled by women. But it must not be done by parents or eldest sister.

6. Welcoming the bride

Nowadays, receiving the bride is the climax of the entire wedding. The groom, accompanied by a group of brothers, carries bouquets to welcome the bride. When arriving at the girl's house, the first step is "entry". If you want to successfully receive a beautiful woman, you must pass a series of intelligence and physical tests, but the most important thing is the generous "opening bonus".

After the sisters receive the opening gift, they should give 10% to 50% of the gift back to the male brothers, with "Sisters Tea Money" written on it. After the groom successfully enters the ceremony, the sisters should also entertain the brothers with refreshments.

After the door opens, the bride should be led out by Sister Dajin or the bridesmaid and handed over to her father, who will then hand it over to the groom for a formal meeting ceremony.

New brides should first worship heaven and earth, then worship ancestors, and then serve tea to their parents (put red dates in the tea in advance, depending on its meaning). The bride should immediately bring and express the gold jewelry given by her elders. gratitude).

The bride prepares two red packets, namely "Wei, Wang, Jin" and "Mantang Lucky Packets", and gives them to her aunt after passing through the door.

Tips: The groom should bring his own bouquets to the bride, but the bride is not allowed to make her own bouquets; this is the time for "opening the door". Usually the groom will compromise on a price with the sisters in advance to avoid the two parties not giving in or arguing on the wedding day, which will affect the atmosphere or make the occasion unlucky; if the couple gets married earlier than their brothers or sisters, it is commonly known as "climbing the head" , it is necessary to hang their trousers high and let the newlyweds pass through the crotch before going out to show respect for the brothers and sisters.

7. Going out

In the open air, the bride or the bridesmaid will hold up a red umbrella to protect the bride, which means spreading the branches and leaves. Sister Da Jin and other sisters walked behind the newlyweds. As they walked, they scattered rice and red mung beans in the sky, on the top of the umbrella and on the top of the float to "feed the golden rooster", which means that after the rooster pecks the rice, it will not peck the bride. Before getting on the float, the bride should bow to her relatives and friends to show her gratitude.

8. Passing through the door

Going through the door means that the bride formally enters the groom’s family after leaving the bride’s family, and meets the aunt and other elders of the groom’s family. The important procedures are as follows

1) The newlyweds enter the groom's house;

2) The aunt comes out of the room to meet the new couple in the hall (the aunt is not allowed to directly see the new couple entering the door in the hall to avoid conflict);

3) The newlyweds first worship heaven and earth, and then worship their ancestors;

4) The newlyweds offer tea to Weng Gu and kneel before them. Weng Gu will say some blessings, give benefits to the couple, and give jewelry and gifts to the bride. The bride should put it on immediately after receiving the ornaments to show her gratitude;

5) The newlyweds serve tea to other elders and relatives;

6) The newlyweds do not need to offer tea to the groom’s brothers or Relatives and friends serve tea one by one and shake hands with each other;

7) The newlyweds should stay at home to have lunch with Weng Gu and other elders. The bridegroom must prepare nine dishes, symbolizing longevity;

8) If the groom's house is small and narrow, the best man can go out for lunch with his brothers and sisters (the bridesmaid stays at the groom's house to accompany the bride).

Tips: The person who accompanies the bride to the groom’s house must be an unmarried woman (except Sister Dajin), but the bride’s brothers are not allowed to accompany the bride to the groom’s house; prepare soft cushions for the bride to kneel down; if the bride receives accessories It should be worn immediately; lunch can be reduced to eight dishes (for prosperity) or even six dishes (for sixty-six infinite), but seven dishes should be avoided as it will bring bad luck. The newlyweds can return immediately after lunch, and then serve wine in the evening.

9. Return to the door (three dynasties to the door)

Refers to the third day after the wedding, the groom accompanies the bride to visit the bride’s house together with gifts

Return to the door gifts” "Original roasted pig" (representing the bride's chastity), two boxes of Western cakes and wine, a pair of chickens, two fruits, two baskets of lettuce (the weather is booming), two boxes of longevity noodles, pork belly and pork, etc.

The bride's family immediately Use this gift to worship ancestors and then distribute it to relatives and friends. However, the head, tail, hands and feet of the roasted pig and half of the pig's tongue (symbolizing the good head and tail) are placed on the roasted pig basin together with the red chips to express a return gift to the groom's family.

Tips:

; Everything can be replaced with cash, except roasted pig;

; Nowadays, newlyweds generally choose to return home immediately on the wedding day , or come back the next day. But remember not to exceed three days. This means that the groom’s family is dissatisfied with the bride and will not allow her to return to her parents’ home