There is a serious imbalance between men and women. There are too few girls in rural areas. Most people consider going to the city to make a living. Almost all older young people are not married, and many have a sense of loss and anxiety, as if they have lost confidence in marriage. I heard a 40-year-old elder brother say that when you get married now, the gift money is too much. After so many years of hard work, the gift money may not be enough. I am afraid that this kind of pain can only be understood in the heart. True, although incomes in rural areas have increased, they remain relatively low. After getting married, I spent so much money to buy a car, a house and a wedding banquet. After decades of hard work, we can really go back to the days before liberation.

In fact, there is another reason. There is a serious imbalance between men and women. There are too few girls in rural areas. Most people are considering moving to the city to make a living. It's really not easy to find a good girl in the countryside. Although the country is now developing rural areas and narrowing the gap between urban and rural areas, problems still exist to a large extent. Generally speaking, girls don’t want to stay in the countryside and get married, then have children and take care of men and live such a life.

In addition, feudal ideologies in rural areas, such as raising children to prevent old age, lead to lower birth rates of girls. Due to the above reasons, it is becoming increasingly difficult for these older men in rural areas to leave their single families. The eldest brother, who is in his 40s, also said that he has always heard that there are some clothing factories and electronics factories in the city, and there are many rural girls there. He had been there himself, but many girls were already married and middle-aged men like him had no chance.

Finally, if a person is not married in his thirties, people can still say that he is enterprising and committed to his career. However, if he is not married at the age of 40, he will inevitably have some gossips and even become the topic of other people in the village after dinner. This made him feel sad. Marriage only gets more difficult as you get older. In addition, when a person's life is inevitably lonely and empty, why don't you want to find someone to accompany you. After a long period of time, it is easy to feel inferior and afraid to talk to other women, which still has a bad impact on a person's life.