Now when conditions are good, people are more willing to go to restaurants for parties. Whether it is guests or host families, they eat more easily and casually. Leave after eating, and you don't have to clean up the dishes and chopsticks. After dinner, you can sit in a cafe or sing a song in KTV. Finally, find a food stall to eat a snack, and the happy day is over. Go home, take a shower and have a good sleep. It smells good.
More people begin to pay attention to privacy, and home is a very private place. Some people wear masks outside all day, and what they want to do most when they get home is to relax. I used to be a salesman, so I should keep a good temper whether I am angry or not outside. The indicators are also under great pressure. The first thing to do when you get home is to change into work clothes, then take a bath, and then do something you like to cheer yourself up. Otherwise, you will face work when you go home. I really feel suffocated. So I seldom invite my friends to my home. I still like to drink and brag outside. The atmosphere in the market is very cordial.
On holidays, I will invite my relatives to get together at home, which is a warm moment. And they are all family members, so they are not particular about it, and they are comfortable in any way. I believe many people are in the same situation as me.
Friend, will you invite your friends to your home?
Nowadays, many people live in buildings, most of which are paved with tile floors. Home is a relatively closed and independent self world. Generally, the hostess will clean up the windows at home, almost spotless. Every time a family goes in and out, they have to change slippers and household clothes. If you often invite friends home, it will add a lot of trouble to the hostess.
For example, every time a guest leaves, he should not only brush cups and wash dishes, but also clean up the tea sea and floor. So, there is nothing to talk about at home. Try not to invite friends to chat at home. Over time, it becomes a habit.
As a result, the custom of inviting friends to be guests at home has gradually changed and drifted away.
This mainly has several aspects:
First, the feelings between people have faded. With the growth of age, people can gradually see through the essence of some problems and begin to wake up.
Second, feelings and communication are based on reciprocity. Nowadays, many people's income is declining, and people's negative energy is getting bigger and bigger. The more exchanges, the greater the unbalanced deficit. Excessive consumption of human energy, physical strength, financial resources, etc.
Third, the environment leads to a growing sense of vigilance among people. Even in public, people who like to observe and ask are nosy. If someone comes to the family, everyone will soon know that some people will have doubts and suspicions about so many relatives and friends in this family. hahaha.
Fourth, people have no privacy in the Internet age, so people pay more attention to privacy. Home is a quiet harbor for families. Nowadays, families can't hide any secrets. There are cameras everywhere in the street, so people cherish their quiet happiness more.
At present, there are few sincere friends, few kind and inorganic people and many troubled people. People who like quiet don't like inviting people home.
Six, the work is too busy, and some people have no time to rest on weekends. So everyone likes to be close to nature on weekends and has no time to greet guests.
Seven, everyone has their own ideas, all feel that they are the best, and everyone has his own interests. They had to live alone in order to avoid quarreling.
Eight, I spent a lot of energy on the Internet, and naturally I didn't have much motivation to treat people.
Nine, people are more aware of the crisis, the economic downturn, the epidemic is protracted, and too many municipal activities make some people yearn for solitude.
Ten, people's various constraints are getting bigger and bigger, and most of them are instant freedom. With more constraints and greater pressure, people are more likely to be lax. Naturally, things have come to this.
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There are three main reasons.
First, now people's income has generally increased, they can go to restaurants to eat, and people don't want to disturb them at home.
If it takes a lot of time and energy to entertain a friend at home, you need to arrange the menu first, and then go shopping according to it. You must choose carefully what you buy.
It takes a long time to pick, wash and process a dozen dishes at home, and it takes at least half a day to cook a dozen dishes.
Although it saves some expenses, it brings too much trouble.
Secondly, a lot of time and energy should be spent on health.
In order to receive friends, you need to clean all the places in your home, and some things may need to be rearranged, which is more troublesome.
After the guests leave, they have to wash dishes, brush dishes and mop the floor.
My hands are greasy and uncomfortable when washing dishes. Cleaning the oil stains on my hands requires chemicals such as detergent, which will hurt my beautiful hands.
Mopping the floor is also a tiring job. Sometimes the floor is stained with oil, which may not be clean.
Third, it brings mental stress, and may also cause family property losses.
Originally, the family was a small closed unit, and many friends came at once. The home is chaotic, noisy, nervous and confused.
In addition to being upset by the chaotic crowd, I am also worried that the guests are not considerate and have offended others.
Some friends take care of children, and children may also cause property losses to their families, such as breaking dishes and spoons. Some children also have bad habits and may take away valuable things or money.
I have experienced such a thing personally.
I invited some friends to have dinner at home, and the adults took care of the children.
When adults are drinking in the living room, children get bored and go to my big bedroom to watch TV.
There are three or four children watching TV in the big bedroom. One of them is a little girl of 1. 12 years old.
That afternoon, a colleague just paid me back 200 yuan, and I put it in the drawer of the bedside table.
The drawer of the bedside table is unlocked. I put it in a big book in the drawer.
I drank for a long time that night and didn't finish until around 9: 30 in the evening.
After the guests left, I cleaned up the pots and pans, about 10:30.
When washing dishes, I vaguely felt that my 200 yuan might be taken away by my child, and I was very uneasy.
After washing dishes, I went into the bedroom and quietly opened the bedside table to see if the 200 yuan was still there. As I expected, 200 yuan was really gone.
I dare not tell my wife. If I tell her, she will talk for a long time.
I didn't tell anyone about it, but the next day there was a bad news.
That night, the 12-year-old girl who was watching TV in her room never came home, and her parents could not find her whereabouts.
It was this time that the little girl took my 200 yuan and ran away from home. As for what she met outside, we can't know.
It was not until two years later that the little girl came home again.
It is a trivial matter that I lost 200 yuan, but this little girl went astray because she stole my 200 yuan. Two years later, she was sent home by the police, and her life was completely ruined because she stole the money from 200 yuan.
Until now, the little girl is over 30 years old, still wandering outside, with no family, no job and wandering around.
When guests or friends come home for dinner, it will bring a lot of trouble and may also bring unexpected hidden dangers. When economic conditions permit, most people choose to enter restaurants to entertain guests, which only costs a little money and saves other troubles.
Going to a hotel to entertain guests is ostentatious, dignified and can win the favor of guests and friends. There are many advantages, but only one disadvantage. Why not?
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Not inviting friends to sit at home is a self-deprecating, low-key and pragmatic way of doing things, which is understandable!
This year, not 30 years ago! Thirty years ago, many people still lived in collective public houses. Although the area of each household is slightly different, the gap is basically not big. And at that time, many of them were bungalows, even 3-4-story buildings, and the area was not large. More than 60 square meters is good. So the living conditions are similar, and the furniture is basically the same style, except for 1-2 pieces of household appliances. So, it doesn't matter if you come home. You don't feel shabby or ostentatious. Besides, there was no teahouse at that time!
Things are different now! Now, not only the size, location, home decoration, etc. Different families vary greatly, and the furnishings, cleanliness and hygiene of the family also vary from person to person. I summed up the following reasons:
1. Although, on the whole, the living conditions of all families have improved, but it is only bigger, not the biggest, which is far from satisfactory. Therefore, for those small families, bring friends home, maybe friends can't sit down, maybe they are embarrassed to take them home!
Nowadays, many people don't have much money, but have a little money. Therefore, there will always be a lot of things added at home. Plus, if there is a baby at home, toys are thrown everywhere, and outsiders can't stretch their feet when they get home!
3, now some people, although the owner goes out, smart and beautiful, but the home is not necessarily so beautiful! In addition to daily chores, the couple also play mobile phones, chat and play games in their spare time. They are not surprised that the house is in a mess. Just watch. Anyway, they are not going to bring their friends home to play!
4, there are also some people, the home is too clean, it seems that there is cleanliness addiction, the host does not want to take friends home to sit, and friends do not want to be disciplined!
5. There are other families with strong economic strength and splendid families, but they inadvertently show that they are not in line with their income! Bringing friends home is undoubtedly a bit ostentatious. Everyone knows better. If the discipline inspection department is interested again, it will be even worse! So let's talk about something outside. Just keep a low profile ......
To sum up, nowadays people seldom invite friends to come and sit at home: first, because of small area, poor conditions and self-knowledge; Second, I am lazy, my home is like a kennel, and I am afraid of cleaning up; Third, I am afraid that after the guests come, the home will be cleaned again; The fourth is to keep a low profile, and be careful not to make public everywhere!
That's my answer. What are the other reasons? Welcome to leave me a message and exchange comments together!
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Now the living environment has changed, and most people live in buildings. The interior decoration of the house is also different from the past. The floor is paved with tiles and wooden floors, and some people have carpeted it. It is the habit of most families to change slippers in the door. From the point of view of hygiene, no one wants to cause trouble to other people's homes.
There are no special circumstances now, no one visits other people's homes, and no friends will be brought home. This has formed a kind of * * * knowledge, and no one will be surprised.
Nowadays, friends usually go to restaurants or teahouses, which has become a habit and a kind of knowledge, and no one will feel welcome.
Speaking of which, I still miss the days when I used to live in a bungalow. My friend went to the door and asked me to sit in the door, have some wine and tea. Very casual. Sometimes neighbors are holding rice bowls and chatting and eating by the door, and they don't feel affected at all.
Those days have become memories, and it's hard to have them again.
The economy is developing and the society is progressing, but the relationship between people is alienated and the vigilance is becoming more and more serious.
From the quadrangle with many sub-rooms to the closed small building now, people have lived for decades, don't know their neighbors' surnames, and don't even say anything at ordinary times, which have a subtle influence on ourselves. After a long time, we have no desire to go to a friend's house, and we are not in the mood to invite friends to be guests.
Few people invite their friends to their home. Why? I am a person who seldom invites friends to my home for three reasons.
First, today's friends and brothers are not the kind of friends and brothers they used to be, and there are few real friends. As the saying goes, "the world is bustling, all for profit; The world is bustling, all for profit. " Most people you contact can't afford to get up early, so forget it. Everyone is busy.
Second, today is different from the past. There are too many places to sit now, such as lounge, bar, restaurant, teahouse, boulevard and winding paths. Everyone's preferences are different. Some people like this, others like that.
Third, what kind of place is home? It is a place to rest and rest, a place for a family to live, and a private space of their own. Just inviting friends over. Accidentally, the noise is too loud or messy. You can't say anything when you are tired. Why bother? On the contrary, it's much easier outside, just sit down and then disperse.
Today's times are the best, and people are very busy. Instead of sitting at home, find a familiar place and leave. The atmosphere is not awkward, and it is not troublesome for each other! Why do few people call their friends home? Let me talk about my own reasons first.
In fact, I really like the excitement, especially when a few friends go out to have a farmhouse or something. I always hope to have a spacious place so that I can use it to entertain my friends. When renting a house before, there was only one single room. I want to call, but I'm not allowed. This place is too small.
Later, when I got a house, I bought the one with a bigger living room, so I called my friends over to chat and cook at three o'clock. I think life is very interesting.
It's just that I became more and more lazy, and I felt that I had to clean up before my friends came (it was too dirty, and I was proud).