When I read this piece of writing, I was particularly flustered and utterly confused. Is it that the housewife's fate is that her husband cheated on her and her children dislike it?
I got up the courage to open the picture and looked at it. It says that my mother only knows how to watch idol dramas and play mahjong. She does nothing all day and says she is tired every day. Everyone else's mother will play badminton with her children, but his mother can't do anything!
Seeing this, my uneasy heart finally calmed down. If I were you, I would feel that such a mother is useless. I also envy other people's mothers. There is still a difference between housewives and housewives!
I believe that there are some mothers who play mahjong, watch TV and even play games with their mobile phones at home every day under the banner of taking care of their children, and they keep talking to their children to read books and learn to do their homework.
But I believe that more mothers are devoted to their families. Women are weak, but mothers are rigid. These mothers study recipes every day for the nutrition of their husbands and children, read books on children's psychology every day to educate their children, and watch them around for 24 hours for their children not to get hurt. Even when they are asleep, children get up as soon as they make a noise.
They play games, study and grow together with their children. I don't believe such a mother. Such a housewife is of no value to the family and children!
I saw a street interview before, asking how much salary I can get for such a job, such as washing and cooking, knowing children's psychology, taking care of children's daily life, and taking care of them 24 hours a day.
Many people say that you should start at least 1, yuan, and the minimum is about 8, yuan. But the reporter told them that this profession is mom, and many people were silent.
Yes, many people think that housewives are very relaxed now. Isn't it just taking care of a child? In the past, a woman had to go to the fields to do farm work after giving birth to five or six children, and no one complained!
Yes, that's true, but times are different. At that time, children were fine as long as they had food. At that time, there were fewer people stealing children. At that time, there were no vehicles, and there were fewer security risks.
it's different now! With the development of society, on the basis of stable life, children's education, safety and all-round development are now paid more attention. Children's fathers are generally busy, and these problems naturally fall on the role of their mothers.
I was a left-behind child since I was a child. My memories of my parents were after the fourth grade of primary school. Now I dream more about the old house I lived with my grandparents, and my childhood memories are all at my grandmother's house.
It's not that my parents don't love me. They love me very much. They just have no way to survive. They have no education and can only do coolies. They don't want us to suffer with them. They think it's better for us to follow our grandparents who are stable at home.
I am lucky. My grandparents are very kind to me, as are my uncles and aunts, but my childhood without my parents always feels lost.
It is for this reason that I always take my son with me. My husband's salary is not very high, and he often changes cities. His salary can only be just enough for the family, but as long as there are special circumstances, he needs the kind in borrow money to spend.
people have been persuading us to leave our children with his grandparents, so that we can work easily and have money left. My husband and I don't agree. As long as we are together as a family, it doesn't matter at all. We are really happy to see our son so cute.
My son just turned two years old, and something happened at home, which made the financial pressure even greater. At that time, he happened to have a suitable job, so he negotiated with his husband and sent the child to nursery school. At first, it was really pitiful. Every day, he sat alone in the corner, holding his little bottle, and cried when he saw me.
But at that time, my salary plus bonus was 7, yuan per month, which would ease my economy a lot. But after half a year, my body couldn't stand it.
I had to get up at 7 o'clock every day to wash and dress my child, send him to school and go directly to work, and pick him up at 5 o'clock in the afternoon. I couldn't go back until I got off work at 8 o'clock. I didn't want to move when I got home after a tired day, let alone interact with my child.
during that time, when I was tired and in a bad mood, I would get angry with my husband, and my son became strange. I felt that my life had changed completely and there was no warmth. Is this still the home full of love?
But I persisted for another year, taking my children to work. After one year, my husband insisted that I wouldn't go to work. Let me take good care of my children and watch their changes, and I agreed to the changes in the family atmosphere.
After I lost my job, I spent more time with my children. I was not so tired, and my mentality was much better. I became more and more good-tempered with my husband and more patient with my son. Slowly, my home became warm and full of love and joy again.
I was especially free after my son went to kindergarten during the day. At that time, Wechat business was very popular, so I slowly became a Wechat business, thinking that I could pass the time and reduce the economic pressure.
At that time, I heard that it was easy to make money by advertising every day, but after contact, I found that it took time and energy to invest in whatever I did.
If I got the goods, I would be anxious if I couldn't sell them. I try to sell products every day and spend most of my time and energy on it. I gradually find that I spend more and more time with my mobile phone every day and less time with my son.
Gradually, my son was only accompanied by phablet, and he gradually didn't need my company. Our communication became less and less, and our eyesight decreased, so we realized the seriousness of the problem.
As a result, the money was not earned, and the children were delayed. Later, my husband always advised me to take care of the children wholeheartedly. People's energy is limited, and they think about everything but end up with nothing.
Many people say that the tragedy of housewives is that they revolve around their husbands and children every day. Finally, their husbands cheat, and the children don't need themselves when they are older. The result is very sad.
I was really misled by these remarks before, and later I found that men cheat for many reasons, such as playboy men and greedy men. Even if you are perfect, they always miss other women.
Nowadays, many people have incorrect views and destroy other people's families under the banner of love. There are also many such people.
Do women with good careers, beautiful women and women who love life make their families perfect? Won't the husband cheat? Not necessarily!
When two people were together, it was because they had the same language and the same hobbies. If one of them kept making progress and the other half stood still or even retreated, their distance would get farther and farther and their feelings would fade.
Therefore, the ultimate cause of marital problems is whether the three views are consistent and whether they are moving forward together, not depending on what occupation, whether they are strong women or housewives.
I began to prepare a loving breakfast for my husband and children, and put on a light makeup every day. Every day when my children go to kindergarten, I read books at home and go out to play with them every day. Even if it is just pressing the road, their personality is getting better and better.
My son is now five and a half years old, and he is in a large kindergarten class. Every time the teacher and other parents say that your child has been well educated by you, I feel happier than praising myself.
I'm doing my son as my own career now. The so-called dragon begets dragon, and phoenix begets phoenix. My husband and I don't have such good genes, and we don't expect him to be particularly excellent. I just hope that I can accompany him well when he still needs me and cultivate a correct outlook on life for him.
To run a marriage and a family, both husband and wife need to work together, not one person's business. Even if a woman is perfect and her husband doesn't cooperate, this family will lose points.
I am a housewife, and I am proud, but I study and grow up with my children every day.
I am a housewife, I don't feel inferior, and my family recognizes my efforts.