? The advantage of few people, the pizza ordered will soon be served, looking at the attractive pizza in front of you, smelling the attractive taste, and looking at the children-"get to work"! The two quickly put on gloves and reached for the pizza. At the end of our big meal, we approached three people outside the store, because the children who came in shouted loudly-the words "I want to eat steak" attracted all the customers in the store, and I couldn't help looking out?
? It turned out to be an old man with a boy. The boy is about four or five years old, wearing a bright yellow T-shirt, dark khaki cropped shorts on his legs, a crew cut, a round face and big black and bright eyes. At first glance, he is a clever boy. Grandson skillfully came to the counter, shouting "I want to eat steak" and reaching for the menu, seeing that this posture should be a "little old customer". Before my grandparents behind me went to the counter, the little guy came to my seat with the "all-in-one" menu, climbed into the seat, adjusted his sitting posture, sat at the table and began to look at the menu with great interest. This is still a courageous child! I was just thinking. At this time, the grandparents behind the children came to the table in tandem. Both old people are about 60 years old, with gray hair and ruddy complexion. The old woman wore a plain floral shirt and light trousers, and a half-length curly hair was casually pulled behind her head. On her round face, her eyes are half narrowed. When she walked forward, her eyes had fallen on her grandson. Grandpa followed, wearing a light navy T-shirt and a pair of gray pants. He walks with a slight hunch, but his face looks energetic, especially his eyes, which are very similar to the children in front of him. Grandpa came and sat down and asked, "What to eat?"
? As soon as the boy saw Grandpa sit down, he quickly handed him the menu and replied, "I want to eat sirloin steak, black pepper pizza, and that noodles ..." But he had climbed back into the seat uneasily, because it was a couch-like seat against the wall, lying prone to emphasize what he wanted to eat. Grandpa watched and discussed with him, and grandma leaned in to see it. Grandpa smiled and said nothing. After hearing what Grandma said, Grandson immediately shouted, "I want to eat steak, not noodle soup, but also fried noodles without soup …" Grandfather turned over and said, "Let's stop eating steak, have a pizza and have another drink …" Before he finished, Grandson interrupted him again. Want to eat, yes, and juice! "Grandma looks helpless." Alas, I'd better make it for you ... "Grandpa repeatedly flipped through the menu. ......
After about five minutes, grandpa took the menu to the counter to order food. The little boy jumped down from his seat again and followed his grandfather closely to the counter. He watched his father go with him. Grandma sat in her seat and called grandpa "sigh-sigh-",probably because there were other people in the shop. Grandma didn't make it clear when she interrupted her twice, judging from grandpa's reaction. ......
? By this time, we had finished the "battle" and walked out of the store. When we passed the counter at the door, we only heard Grandpa pointing to the menu and saying, "I want this, this, this ..."
? As for what I want in the end, I don't know, but on the way back, I kept seeing that picture in my mind.
? First of all, I'm sure this is a smart child, and I'm sure this is a kind grandparents. I am more sure that this is a warm family. Grandparents love this child very much, but they always feel that there are some discordant places in this seemingly warm picture. What is this?
? I think it should be the way of love.
? Although we can't go deep into their lives, it's no small matter. Grandparents love this child deeply, and their love obviously lacks a sense of rules and has reached the point of being spoiled.
? When the children enter the door, when no one is watching, grandparents just smile and follow, without any words; When the child climbed to the seat and crawled around, his grandparents didn't stop him; When the children insisted on what to eat over and over again, grandparents did not give guidance. From beginning to end, only grandma whispered a few different opinions. For a four or five-year-old child, it is a critical moment to form a sense of norms. Whether it's shouting in public, climbing into the seat casually in shoes, or focusing on yourself and emphasizing the content of ordering loudly, these should be the best educational opportunities to cultivate children's good behavior habits, but in this process, an old couple turned a blind eye. I just kept silent. Behind this silence, I don't know what kind of mentality it is, whether I don't want to disappoint my children, or whether I am afraid that yelling in public will cause discomfort to everyone, or what other reasons. But in any case, we should understand that children are a blank sheet of paper, and it is our parents who help them draw pictures on this blank sheet of paper. In public places, there is no sense of public planning and public order cannot be observed. As a child, he is unconscious, but as an adult, he can realize. When all the customers in the store start to look askance, it means that it has caused discomfort. This kind of behavior obviously does not conform to such an environment. If adults can patiently remind children again and again, the seeds of rule consciousness will slowly be planted in children's hearts and grow into "little gentlemen" who abide by social morality. When the child climbs up and down the seat in his shoes, he just wants to play. He doesn't know anything else. Although the seat is unoccupied, he wants to let the children know that the seat is not a playground and should not be done. Besides, this is a restaurant. Will the dust on the little shoes pollute the rows of seats? This is also an observance of social morality. If children go on like this, they will expand from one hour. Will they learn to abide by the relevant order of the school in the future? Will you obey the class order? And then go to society? It's really hard to say
? Because we all know that it is much faster to form a new habit than to change an old one. If such a clever and lively child continues like this for a long time, will his cleverness and liveliness be brought into full play? Will he be silent in the whirlpool of constantly correcting his bad habits and constantly lose the best opportunity?
? In the process of ordering food, the children ordered a lot. On the one hand, they ordered too much. On the other hand, they didn't expect their grandparents to come with them, and they didn't care about others. Grandparents' love is for children, but children take it for granted and have no gratitude at all. What a terrible thing it is. Just like a sad story I read about "a bowl of beef noodles" before.
? China has been a country of etiquette since ancient times, and the culture of filial piety in Confucian culture has a long history. Filial piety is the basic moral standard of ancient China society. The so-called filial piety culture is about the cultural tradition of honoring parents and elders and respecting the elderly. Filial piety has a special position and role in China's traditional moral norms, and has become a fine tradition of China's traditional culture. Filial piety, in a narrow sense, is a kind parent; Broadly speaking, it is what Confucius said: "first kiss, then middle, then gentleman, and finally body." Filial piety, which regulates the parent-child relationship, has now expanded into a code of conduct with universal social significance and become the basic content of social education. However, this scene in front of us, at the moment when children can be educated by this norm, has been ignored by us. Will these children be missing?
? Think about the events that are often reported in the news. A person's mental growth begins at an early age, and so does his awareness of rules and norms. When we all ignore these education on the grounds that children are still young, when one day children have problems, we will still blame them, "How can you do this?" Don't you know that in the child's mind, he has never been taught that "he can't do this." Since he has no education, what reason do we have to blame the child?
? From a psychological point of view, many problems occur in the process of growth or after growth, and their roots are in infancy. Just because there were no problems at that time does not mean that there will be no problems in the future. If we all realize the importance of children's infancy, when we grow up, then we may avoid facing more "incredible events such as Ma Jiajue, Yao Jiaxin and Peking University's mother-killing".
Maybe, you just make a mountain out of a molehill, and you can't blindly touch the elephant and see the leopard, but this is no small matter. The proverbs handed down to us by China's ancestors are still reasonable.
? Looking forward to, looking forward to, every day in the future, such scenes are less and less. .......