Characteristics of paranoid personality

1. distrust

Speculate that others are plotting against themselves;

Always on the defensive, paying special attention to what is happening around him, never showing his heart and full of doubts;

Questioning the loyalty of others or even close people is often jealousy;

Actively looking for evidence to prove his guess in various details, but unable to look at the overall situation;

Once provoked, they will be prepared to take excessive revenge;

It is easy to feel offended if you are always worried about your rights and interests being violated and the problems that appear in front of you.

stubborn

Be rational, be indifferent, be logical and resolutely resist other people's excuses;

It is difficult to show warm or positive emotions and lack a sense of humor.

How to get along with paranoid personality?

What can be done:

1. clearly express your motives and intentions.

Paranoid personality always has doubts about others and suspects that others have a tendency to plot evil. So don't show him "signs" that can confirm his guess. It's best not to communicate with him in an ambiguous way, and the information you convey should leave no room for distortion. Especially when you have to criticize him, be firm, clear and affirmative.

2. Strictly follow the procedure

In the face of paranoid personality, you must strictly abide by the "rules of the game": don't keep him waiting, pay attention to polite language, don't say the wrong thing when introducing him to others, and avoid interrupting him unless necessary. Because all the polite mistakes of the other party may be interpreted as ridicule or contempt by the other party.

Keep in touch regularly.

Frequent contact with paranoid personality will bring us great pressure, so if the other person is someone you can stay away from, do it and try to avoid him. However, if the circumstances of life make you have to face this paranoid personality, and your boss, neighbors, colleagues and parents are paranoid, then in this case, escape is not the best choice, because your deliberate escape is a thing or a guilty conscience in their eyes. In this case, you need to keep in touch with them regularly, but not too closely.

4. Take laws or regulations as reference.

Paranoid personality thinks that they are law-abiding, and most of them will show their fascination with laws and regulations. They are keen on judicial affairs, so they often know more about laws and regulations than ordinary people and know how to use them to achieve their goals. So if you want to confront him in this respect, you must be fully prepared and don't make a move. It is best to consult relevant experts in advance.

5. Give in and leave boundaries.

Paranoid personality also needs to maintain its morale through success. If you hit him thoroughly, he may become angry from embarrassment. Knowing how to make concessions on some unimportant things, but at the same time drawing insurmountable boundaries, and never compromising on principles, is conducive to harmonious relations. For example, if you don't hurt yourself at work, you might as well let your paranoid colleague have some privileges that they take for granted, but if he crosses the line, he will pay back the money.

Looking for external allies

Paranoid personality, which can't escape from work or private life, often makes people tortured, exhausted and sometimes puts you in danger. But you can get advice, support and comfort from others, especially when these people have to deal with the same paranoid personality.

note:

1. Don't give up the opportunity to clarify the misunderstanding.

Because paranoid personality is exhausting and often irritating, people often give up explaining after misunderstanding, thinking that it's not my fault anyway and they should clarify it. This attitude may cause problems for two reasons:

For your benefit, if there is a chance to clarify the misunderstanding, why not?

From a moral point of view, putting all the faults on paranoid personality is tantamount to depriving him of the opportunity to improve and change his pessimistic view of interpersonal relationships.

Don't attack his self-image

Some paranoid personalities make us fly into a rage and make us want to scold them. Humiliate them with hurtful words, you may be able to vent, but it will also arouse his anger of defeating you more and more, further confirming his doubts about you. You hated him from the beginning and looked down on him. He doesn't believe that you are right. So it's best not to have an attack. If you have an attack, please make sure that your accusation is only directed at a specific behavior of him.

Don't be caught by him.

At work, paranoid personalities will try their best to find opportunities to attack you once they identify you as an enemy. Your smallest mistakes, improprieties and mistakes will make him ecstatic, and he will use them to accuse and slander you. In front of him, you should be watertight, speak appropriately, cherish words like gold, and once you are with him, turn yourself into a full-fledged robot.

Don't speak ill of him.

With that kind of over-sensitivity to exploring imaginary enemies and positive willingness to confirm their guesses, paranoid personality may know that you have spoken ill of them in one way or another. Moreover, if one of your opponents knows the harmful ability of paranoid personality, he is likely to embellish what you said, tell it to paranoid personality and point the gun at you.

5. Don't talk about politics

Another topic that needs special caution when dealing with paranoid personality is politics. Talking about politics is impulsive, and when there are differences, the dialogue often becomes filled with smoke. In most cases, when a group of people are talking about politics and have differences, people will try to stop tit-for-tat to avoid creating an overly tense atmosphere. But in the eyes of paranoid personality, dialogue is regarded as an absolutely uncompromising battle, so don't expect them to try to reconcile, they will only cling to indisputable arguments.

6. Don't turn yourself into a paranoid personality.

In the face of paranoid personality, you should be careful not to get yourself into this situation: avoid being too angry, provoke quarrels and exaggerated revenge for unimportant offenses, and then show yourself paranoid personality. It is not easy to do this, because they will make us feel irritable and depressed, and anger will make us more and more alert to their every move, and we may explode at any time because of the slightest misunderstanding. In a sense, paranoid personality has turned us into paranoid personality.