Before engagement, parents of both sides meet to choose a date. The man will entrust the matchmaker to go to the woman's house in advance, and negotiate with the woman's house to choose the engagement date and then choose the wedding date. In addition to choosing a good date, the highlight is the preliminary negotiation between men and women on the amount of dowry, the geometry of gold and silver jewelry, the number of tables and the price of the wedding banquet. It's all about money anyway.
On the day of engagement, it is also the day to send the wedding day, which is also called "sending the day" in Lishui dialect. The man wants to hire a matchmaker and take some cigarettes, wine, meat and vegetables to the woman's house for dinner. After dinner, the matchmaker will finally reach a * * * knowledge on the basis of the original preliminary negotiation results, and write it down in red paper and black.
After the engagement, the man will honor the contents negotiated by both parties in the following days and put them into practice wholeheartedly. According to the custom of Lishui, generally speaking, houses, decorations, furniture, bride price, banquets, gold and so on. The man needs to be responsible, while the woman needs to bear a lot, such as household appliances, indoor supplies, the groom's full dress and so on. Both men and women should do what they can. If the other person has money, it doesn't hurt to have a little more.
Matters needing attention in engagement:
1. There are many things to prepare before engagement. Things that the man needs to buy for the woman must be prepared in advance, such as two sets of dresses, engagement jewelry and some household appliances. , depending on the local wedding customs.
2. Engagement gifts should also be prepared in advance, and the number of gifts is also prepared according to wedding customs in various places, but what can be said is that after all, the number of wedding gifts should be an auspicious number. Moreover, the return can also go back and forth according to the economic conditions of both sides, not necessarily.
Make sure the time and place of engagement before engagement, so as not to delay the auspicious day and affect everyone's mood and the smooth completion of engagement. Although I feel uneasy and nervous before getting engaged, many aspects and details of the engagement should be verified and arranged by myself to avoid being in a hurry on the engagement day.