Therefore, to communicate with people who are better than themselves, we need to seek the similarities and differences between the two sides, which is the first step to open communication and find a common language.
Here, let me give you an idea first. In Taiwan Province psychologist Huang Guangguo's masterpiece "Human feelings and face: China people's power game", China people's interpersonal relationships are divided into three categories: instrumental relationships, mixed relationships and emotional relationships.
The typical instrumental relationship is a stranger relationship, which follows the "fairness law" in communication-"come together and leave when you are not"; The typical mixed relationship is acquaintance relationship, which follows the "human law" in communication-"repay kindness with evil"; The typical emotional relationship is the family relationship or the relationship between relatives and friends, which follows the "law of demand"-"from each according to his ability, to get what he needs". ?
When we can foresee what we have done, the pleasure that others may have, this imaginary pleasure that belongs to others, may also reach the same intensity in our own hearts. We can feel the subjective pleasure of others (imagine that you will feel this way when you surprise others). In this way, happiness is doubled (help others, imagine others' happiness).
On the contrary, this rule also applies when others are not as happy as expected because of our "good deeds". Finally, I want to say that when dealing with people who are better than ourselves, being kind to others and actively helping others will give others a chance to be themselves, and at the same time give others a chance to be themselves, which will make our interpersonal pyramid thicker and our lives happier.