I don't know what these famous places in this city are all about, but I know my hometown very well. Whenever such a banquet is held, many villagers, relatives and friends can't escape. No matter how rich or poor, you have to pay a little money, and you have to go to the master's house by the way. (Unless you are the only one at home, and you are an old bachelor (still single in your 40 s and 50 s), your life is basically stereotyped or you are so poor that you have nothing at home. Of course, if it really comes to this, there is no need to hide. Not only will the villagers not blame you for not taking part in their tricks, but they will also blame you for not getting a suitable gift, that is, many relatives within the five clothes. I believe that most of them may have broken their blood relationship and will not invite you to join their tricks.
People in China have always attached great importance to human feelings, especially in rural areas where traditional secular places gather.
Since there are rich and poor people, the amount of money, that is, the gift money, has to be mentioned. I don't know what the atmosphere is in other friends' hometown, but my hometown is generally like this.
Ordinary villagers with the same surname should at least have basic friendship gifts (at present, 100 yuan starts, and it is estimated that it will climb to 200 soon); If it has nothing to do with the main family, then different gifts should be given according to the distance (at least 200 yuan, and so on). If you can't get the gift corresponding to the distance of blood relatives, it is easy to embarrass the main family and it is likely to break up. If you are classmates or friends with your family, you should take care of their basic face (three or five hundred is not too little, and one thousand is not too much).
This is a true testimony of human feelings.
There is a good saying,' it is indecent to come without going!' However, not every household is thriving, and there are many relatives and friends. Some of them have fallen into poverty and the door is empty. So for this part of the family, the annual gift is undoubtedly that Shui Piao was beaten and the leek was cut (although the word leek is a bit exaggerated here, it is really vivid).
After all, for these special portals, buying banquets is a loss-making business, which enriches the pockets of people who contract banquets. Why bother? !
Because in my hometown a few years ago, there were about 600 white banquets and 800 red banquets (excluding alcohol and tobacco). There are usually about eight people at a table, and there may be two or three children at each table. Giving gifts according to per capita 100 is doomed to lose money. I wouldn't do it at all if I didn't have a few rich relatives to send me some gifts of 800 or 1000.
This is just a practical analysis of families who can buy banquets, but have to give them up because they are not cost-effective. Many families do not have the corresponding conditions to make banquets.
For example, in some families, children may not get into college, get married or buy a house. Naturally, it goes without saying that they have children. The old man doesn't want to celebrate his birthday (it is said that he is afraid that he will not live long after his birthday), and his brothers and sisters are not harmonious. They are not going to pay for the anniversary monument of the late old man.
There is no doubt that this will cause inequality with those villagers who feast on everything. The money sent by these tricks is equivalent to beating Shui Piao for nothing. There is nothing more than superficial intimacy between folks or relatives. Of course, some relatives and villagers may need to ask them to help them cope with things that one person can't cope with in one day.
Human feelings, for many ordinary people who don't do banquets or don't have some conditions to do banquets, are more for such a comforting effect, only to know that they are leeks and have to be cut.
In their minds, the road ahead is dark. Who knows who needs to be invited to do things one day? As long as there is a thick human feeling, it is easier to ask if you need help, and the other party is embarrassed to refuse. If you don't have basic feelings for each other, buy something to please you when you need help from others. People will accept your request if they are happy, and refuse you if they are unhappy, making you spend thousands or tens of thousands to solve a difficult problem, and even watching jokes behind your back.
But this analysis is relative, not absolute, because my family is a special case.
10 years ago, the sons of two uncles got married and the daughters got married. I informed my father. But my family is in financial difficulties, and I can't get the right gift money to attend, but I can't be rude. Finally, my father borrowed seven or eight hundred dollars to get the basic gift money and took part in their major activities.
Later, when the Spring Festival came, two uncles came to my house in the name of visiting my sister (grandma would take care of my house). Faced with the real situation of my family, they kept quiet and deliberately stuffed my dad's gift money and money into it. Two uncles also specially added 200 yuan to help my family.
In this way, the borrowed money was returned to others in time. But my family and my uncle's family are not particularly close relatives (my grandmother is only my uncle's cousin), and the gap between the rich and the poor is too big. With the death of grandparents, this old relative broke up in some realistic compromises between my parents and brothers.
At this point, it is time to end. It not only writes about the complexity of human feelings, but also the real situation behind it, pointing out why many people will make money at a loss to safeguard human feelings in such reality.
At present, some people can't keep up with their earning power, but the human expenditure is on the rise, and many eyes are no longer groundless, but really around us.
Is it hidden? Or face it squarely? Let's just say it depends on someone. As long as you or your family have the ability to achieve the fundamental role of maintaining human feelings, you can handle it at will. If you can't, you really have to bite the bullet. After all, China is a realistic environment that pays attention to human feelings.