Read Men from Mars and Women from Venus every Thursday, and listen to your sharing after learning.

65438+February 3 1, in the evening, our whole family was unhappy and quarreled. I forgot my skin care and went to bed early.

1 Get up at three o'clock in the morning and start to coax her husband to make him happy, such as the wedding anniversary plan on New Year's Day. He blamed me and my daughter for bullying her, which made him very angry. He didn't sleep well and had a headache. I massaged his head and apologized for my nagging. A woman's natural nagging cannot be changed. Just hug me next time (homework left by Biwing House), because we are from different planets. When I say I'm cooking, I hope you can help me with the dishes and chopsticks. He said that he had to cut back on his work in order to have a rest on New Year's Day. The workload is so heavy that he can't lift his arm. Who did he do it for? I said for this family and our better life. I quickly massaged her arm, and I said I still didn't like your scolding. Good things should not be bad things. I hope a healthy family is harmonious and beautiful. You are an important hug in my heart and my daughter's.

Unless I learn and experience in the environment and help others grow, I can't look at things rationally and distinguish what is most important, otherwise I won't put myself down to coax him.

Seeing Yan Qian's dinner celebrating the New Year, I was very envious of this happy and romantic ceremony. Only when I woke up later did I know that happiness was the most important thing. I am reminded of Biwenhouse's research that "men are from Mars and women are from Venus". I don't want him to change, but I can't. Accept what cannot be changed, and change what can be changed, that is, change yourself and let go.

Thank you, Yan Qian, for showing you this book about getting along with husband and wife written by a famous psychologist and being reminded.

Two days ago, I put the paper with my husband's advantages on the living room cabinet, and he didn't respond. Yesterday? Moved to the dressing table in the bedroom at night. He asked me early this morning, did you find so many advantages for my dad? (Because my topic is Advantages of Old Sun) I asked him: Does your father have so many advantages? See if it's yours. He said I should be called "Sun Xiao". I said, OK, I'll change it to "the advantages of Sun Xiao". These advantages have been confirmed by my son as "basically comprehensive". what do you think?

Hey, many of you are blind. I am so handsome that I don't even know how to write!

That's true. Ok, I'll add something for you, but before that, we paid more attention to the inner beauty, and all we saw was the bright spot of your spiritual level.

I didn't stick it on the refrigerator because he thought it was preschool behavior. Anyway, the result of the incentive is very happy.

Before teacher Yan Qian assigned last week's homework, I sent the contents of the book club to my friends in advance and said, Do you know how much I love you? I confused the partners. He said he must go and have a look when he is free. In the evening, when my partner came home, he and I publicized the contents of our study in Mr. Yan Qian's "other house". Ask him if he saw it. The partner replied that he hadn't come yet.

After I read it to him, I expressed that if I have emotions or nagging in the future, it doesn't mean that I don't love you. It's not a personal problem and I don't need your help to solve it. I just need you to hug me. The partner agreed.

After a day, I just had a little conflict with the big girl and didn't stop in time.

The political commissar of the partner should do a good job of coordination and express what happened with the big girl to the partner in time. Thanks to him. I told my partner that there was a little conflict with the older girl, and I reflected that the older girl was also a Venusian. When she is in a bad mood, what she needs is a loving hug. Please ask him to give us more hugs when we are emotional in the future, because he is too important, and my partner happily agreed.

My daughter and I had a little problem, so he pulled my clothes and dragged me away. Avoid greater conflicts,

I didn't know until I asked him carefully. He said that he was only a little bit to me, which meant that it would be better for him to hug me when there was a contradiction. I seem to have listened to what I said to him.

Ten advantages of lovers:

1. Self-motivated, aggressive and constantly upgrading.

2. Be sincere, generous, generous and great to others.

3. Bringing cohesion and centripetal force to the team is the core and backbone of the team.

4. Most of his friends are recognition of his character.

5. Arrange the medical affairs of family, the elderly and friends.

6. Have a strong sense of family responsibility, and usually buy delicious and easy-to-use home, which is an important pillar of stability and economy.

7. Share children's education more and more, accompany children to grow up, make breakfast, send children, and set an example.

8. Business drilling, accurate business, Chinese medicine andrology first.

9. Frank personality and distinctive personality

10. High pattern, good mentality, good health and good living habits.

Men are more rational animals, with clear goals, in-depth study, great emphasis on personal value and sense of accomplishment, and like to be worshipped and admired.

Friends of Venus, we should practice our eyes more, find more advantages of Mr. Wang, praise him more, sincerely recognize him and worship him more. We must get along well.

Later, I sent my husband ten advantages by myself, and he was very happy all day. I also said that he has a good personality, studies hard at school to lay a solid foundation for his current doctor career, and cares about his family and takes care of the elderly. Finally, the advantages were refined and supplemented, and they were also sent to the family group to continue to publicize the advantages of Mr. Wang.

I attended the book club last week, and the weekend coincided with the New Year's Day holiday. Special thanks to Teacher Apple for reminding me not to finish my homework until Monday night. Considering the way I usually communicate with my husband, I seldom express my good words directly orally or in writing, so I thought of asking my daughter to help. I first drew up a list of the advantages of all family members, and asked my daughter to copy and modify it for me and post it on the refrigerator. Because we came back late on the first day, and my husband didn't find it. The next day, when my husband came back from work, I took the initiative to remind him to check the tips on the refrigerator and said that it was written by my daughter. He looked at his top ten advantages with great interest and said excitedly to his daughter, "Your father has more than ten advantages, and 100 is not enough." Through this incident, I learned that my husband also wants to be affirmed and encouraged by his family.

? Through the two-week study of "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus", I learned that there are great differences between men and women in communication. Men are rational and women are emotional, men like to solve problems, women like to express their feelings, and men usually only pay attention to the attributes of things.

? Therefore, I think it is very important to care and understand each other. Only after learning to communicate in the right way can we manage our feelings better and make the relationship between husband and wife more harmonious.

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

Homework: Write down ten advantages of husband and post them.

Seeing so many sisters in the group sharing the results, I can't be idle, just do it! I think this is a very sacred thing, and we must treat it with care. On the small card, Mr. Wang's advantages were written, and specific supplementary instructions were added on the reverse side. Needless to say, the more you write, the more you work hard. My mind is full of my husband's merits and memories of our past acquaintance. I couldn't help smiling happily …

Sir, when you see its reaction, when you look ahead, am I that good in your heart? Not enough is not enough; Then look at the opposite side and say that it needs improvement, and the corners of the mouth are already open.

I haven't felt this way for a long time. Since the "11", the focus of life has changed, ignoring our lives.

I remember a psychiatrist asked her cheating husband: Why did you cheat?

Husband: I don't love my wife anymore, but I really want to save our feelings.

Expert: Then love her!

The husband has a blank face. ...

Expert: Yes, love her!

In real life, we are occupied by too many trifles or distractions and forget how to love!

It turns out that love is like this. It needs action and hard work, bit by bit. I seem to have found a door to a better life in the future. I want to write down too many feelings, but my daughter's calligraphy class will be over soon …

Clear your mind, slowly turn it into motivation, and savor it in the following days.

The harvest of homework: father and son review their homework, and I am writing about the advantages of my father. I didn't bother them until they finished reviewing. Early the next morning, my husband went on a business trip. Then I knew that he saw my strengths and called me several times a day to say hello and thank Mr. Yan Qian for his homework. This is to deepen the feelings between husband and wife.

My harvest is that some of them are not that I think the other person is bad, but that our thinking modes are different. We accept others' differences, change what we can and improve ourselves, thus affecting the people around us.

It is the other person who wants to change, not me who wants to change him.

Change yourself, I am the root of everything.

I left my homework in the study group yesterday, trying to find out my husband's advantages, and I also want to tell you that I want my husband to respond to a wave.

The advantages of someone in my family:

1. Am I always tall and handsome? 2. gentler and better-tempered than me.

3. Do things calmly and in a planned way? Step 4 work neatly

5. Cooking looks good and delicious? 6. It's not stupid to respect your elders.

7. Don't talk too much? 8. Baby's good father and good role model

9. Treat your parents better than yourself. 10. Peel melon seeds by hand.

He replied:

The advantages of someone in my family:

1. Beautiful and lovely. 2. Care for others and pay attention to details.

3. Lively, sunny? 4. Be responsible for people and things

5. Pay attention to family health. 6. Respect the old and love the young

7. is the overall situation strong? 8. Love learning and hope to be perfect.

9. The child's good mother hopes that the child can have a perfect future.

10. Will study all kinds of cakes and delicacies.

? I've never been to Harmony before. I haven't seen each other for a week, and I choked as soon as I met. Now I have changed through learning in the environment, and he has also been influenced by me. We are all very happy to talk so much now, which has greatly improved the physical and mental health of the whole family.

Last Friday night, I found a good opportunity to promote my study in Nanjing and the big "house on the other wing".

On the last night of 202 1, my husband had dinner with colleagues and family. When eating, my husband, colleagues and his wife always jingle. In order to ease the atmosphere, I interrupted halfway.

Me: Husband, I attended a book club on WeChat.

Husband: You have nothing to do.

Me: I am not idle. I'm trying to manage our old age better. I learned that men and women come from different planets, so they will have different reactions when they meet things. I'll read you an article and see what I've learned. "No matter how much women bother to emphasize that men don't listen carefully, it's always hard for men to get the message, and they still repeat the same mistakes, which makes women complain ..." After reading this article, the Martians and Venusians sitting there began to sigh with emotion.

Me: Husband, I can understand you from another angle after studying in the "House of the Other Wing", and I will better control my temper.

Husband colleague: Sister-in-law is good in this class. I said Brother Hua is in a good mood every day.

My husband always smiles during the whole meal.

I wrote about the advantages of my husband once before, and I sent it to him by mobile phone. His answer is, which of your husbands is so powerful?

? This time, I will write about his merits. I'm going to copy them myself and stick them in the refrigerator. When my son is free, I will ask him for help, just to let him read it carefully and get to know his father's advantages. After posting it, I asked my husband to come and have a look. He said with a smile that the last few points are all related to me (pampering me, respecting me and tolerating me). I said yes, but I wrote the truth. Then our family went out happily. That day happened to be 65438+1 October1. We ate hot pot together and took the baby to the science and technology museum after eating hot pot. I asked my husband how he wanted to come here. He said that at that time, he just felt that the room was very warm, Eva had never been here, and there were many novel things waiting for Eva to explore.

I think this is a good arrangement. On the first day of the new year, I took my children to wander in the ocean of knowledge. I also recall that when we were in love, we went to the museum and found a place where my husband played chess with robots. We had a very happy day.

Me: Husband, I'm attending a book club, and a very powerful teacher assigned us an assignment: write down my husband's 10 advantages and post them in a conspicuous place at home.

My husband and I were in the car and went back to our hometown. I read him the advantages of 10. My husband can't help being as happy as a child. For the first time, I realized that my husband was so happy and excited, and at the same time, I deeply realized that my husband also had so many advantages.

Husband: I think this reading club is good. You should study hard and don't be bad!

Ever since I attended this book club, whenever my husband and I have problems, I think: Anyway, we are not from the same planet, let him go ~

The teacher of the study group of Biyi House assigned homework and found out ten advantages of Mr. Wang. At first, I heard about Mr. Wang's ten advantages. It seems that there are not so many, but I really found more than ten. After getting up in the morning, I told my husband that I was studying Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. The teacher gave me an assignment to find out your top ten advantages. How many advantages do you think you have? Mr. Wang said that he thought there must be more than ten. I said, well, I'll look for your top ten advantages. You came back to me at night. Teacher Wang said happily, who invented this course is so wonderful that you can see how harmonious the advantages are every day. After writing the advantages of Mr. Wang, I showed it to him and smiled like a flower. The long-lost happiness is really touching. Everyone wants to hear positive language and get encouragement and praise from their families. I am very grateful to Teacher Yan Qian for organizing this kind of study, so that each of us can be nourished by love.

If you don't study in the environment, it is estimated that two people will never have such interaction. When we calm down and really appreciate each other from the heart, that kind of happiness arises spontaneously. As everyone often says, there is no shortage of beauty in life, but only the eyes that find beauty.

In order to finish my homework, I wrote eight advantages of my husband, and I can't find them. I asked my husband to help me with my homework.

My husband writes as much as he says. Why do you have to write ten?

I said this is a task that must be completed. If we can't find it, we can ask our relatives and friends for help.

My husband helped me find another one with strong organizational skills to keep my mouth shut.

I said yes! How did I miss this important advantage! You organized and planned all the activities of the school and the boxing gym.

After finding ten advantages of my husband, I wrote ten advantages of myself and my children. I asked my husband whether to stick them on the refrigerator or on the air conditioner. My husband said it was not good for outsiders to see, and he thought we were bragging.

I said this is the law of attraction. If you think well and write well, you will be good.

After we discussed it together, we posted it in the study.

Feeling, from the previous quarrel to the present appreciation. Although my husband is not used to it, he also readily accepts this change.

Constantly remind us to perceive each other's strengths and advantages through writing. Make life better!

My husband took advantage of the New Year's Day break to come to Chengdu to accompany us two days in advance. After the New Year's mountaineering activities, the whole family went home, tired and successfully completed!

My husband accompanied my son to the summit on foot, and I recognized and praised him in time: it's different to have a father! (Although this recognition has become the norm, it is not too much for Doha. ) My husband went back to Nanjing the next day after he came home. After washing and going to bed, the emotion accumulated for a long time finally broke out. I spit him out: parenting education needs his support, and I am unhappy and stressed. Actually, I don't know if he can stand it. Anyway, I must release it. Although he was very tired, he listened patiently and comforted him occasionally. It was not until 2 o'clock in the morning that I finally finished talking to everyone.

Get up early the next day, watching him take the initiative to make an appointment with his son, go downstairs to buy food and cook, and not forget to care about how I slept? ..... To tell the truth, it's hard for my husband to climb the mountain by train, and it's not appropriate for me to drag him to "stay up late and spit". But at the same time, I also felt my husband's love and responsibility (I recognized him immediately). Looking back on our relationship for many years, I have always been a "strong" existence. I always feel that I need to do my best and encourage others. Many things will be arranged actively, and it is difficult to have a positive side. Therefore, the husband is always in a passive role. Years of study and experience in harmony made me realize that I should let go of myself slowly, especially when I get along with people in my work and life. So this time, I also tried to put down the pressure and show my true state and mood in front of him …

Although many problems and pressures still need to be faced by myself, I was cured by my husband's unconditional companionship and acceptance, and I felt his understanding and support for me. I am very happy to have this power of love!

? Send you a nice old song:

I love you from Pin Guan/Fish Leong very much.

This song describes the shy and sweet love between lovers, which makes people sound full of sweet love.

The brisk style seems to tell everyone, don't miss it easily when you meet it. In the long journey of life, cherish fate and enjoy happiness …

Don't let people who are close at hand be thousands of miles away …

"... I love you very much and I want to be close to you.

Why waste time not hugging you?

Sincerity is the most powerful weapon! …