No matter how many people love you, it can't make you better. Only by turning love into a driving force for progress and enabling yourself to cross others and yourself can we really get better.
As the saying goes: "Success is also Xiao He, and failure is also Xiao He." The person who gives you money is the one who loves you and the one who harms you; People who don't give you money make you love you.
People who really cross you are not always good to you, but treat you in the following ways.
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Forcing you to go nowhere.
"God never shuts one door but he opens another", you have to believe it.
Even at the edge of the cliff, there is still a way to go. Either there is a thorny path around you, or "pulling back from the cliff" is also a road.
The water flows to the cliff and becomes a waterfall; When people reach the cliff, it is "the mountain is high."
How can there be no road in the world?
Open the road on every mountain and bridge when it meets water. This is the road.
"Historical Records of Xiang Yu's Biography" wrote: "Xiang Yu was reported, and when he led his troops across the river, they all sank, broke the kettle, burned the house, and gave three meals to show that his soldiers would die, and there was no return."
Xiang Yu burned his bridges and found a new way.
The morale of the Chu army was greatly boosted. After nine fierce battles, Qin Jun was defeated and the siege of Julu was broken.
It takes a lot of courage to commit suicide. You may hesitate. It would be different if someone gave you a hand.
A friend of mine has been running a restaurant. In recent years, several similar restaurants have sprung up next to his shop.
In order to survive, friends constantly improve the menu of restaurants and upgrade the hotel.
My friend said, "I wanted to reinstall the store a few years ago, but I have never made up my mind." This time, I had to do it in order to grab business with others. "
It seems that someone competing for your job is not a bad thing, but a sign of forcing you to succeed.
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Help you secretly.
Read a composition for primary school students.
In March, the school arranged students to find good people. The students went to the street for a long time, but they didn't find a good man.
The teacher took his classmates to the railway station square and gently pointed with his hand: "Let's have a look."
Following the teacher's hand, the students found a middle-aged man stepping on a stroller with his foot to prevent the stroller from slipping backwards.
Under the hint of the teacher, the students found good people one after another.
Some are helping people carry luggage; Some stood behind the old man to prevent him from falling; Some people are helping people get tickets. ......
"Real care is quiet", and all the great help is catwalk.
There are still many good people in the world, but we lack the eyes of discovery and the heart of understanding.
The road of life, you are not destined to be alone. Many people will not always help you, but occasionally they will help you with little effort.
For example, in a strange street, you see a smiling face, which makes you feel warm; When I was unemployed, I saw someone handing out leaflets for recruitment; When it rains, I hide under the eaves of a strange shop. ......
Those who help you secretly, those who moisten things quietly, you need to remember your life and return others' kindness to society.
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I don't care about you.
There is such a question: "Why do parents become fickle with age?"
It's not that your parents don't love you, but that your parents are in danger. I can't help you if I want to.
One day my parents will leave first. How can parents take care of you when they are old and sick?
When you grow up, your parents watch you go away. On the day of separation, my parents were worried about you every day, worried that they would not get along well outside and were not used to eating.
However, your parents are getting unfriendly to you. Until one day, you received a notice that your parents were dying, and you burst into tears.
Life has cycles. Parents, after all, are reasonable people and have long cultivated your independence. I hope you can get married and start a career.
If your parents spoil you, they actually hurt you. You depend on your parents for everything and never use your own brain; A little setback can break you down and you will never recover.
As a man, you should live like a weed. The more indifferent your parents are to you, the more they love you. I don't understand.
Besides your parents, there are many people around you who are "indifferent" to you.
For example, if you go to other places to find a job, you have no money, and you want someone to invite you to dinner, everyone looks at you with strange eyes, but they don't help you; When a person is carrying luggage, he is too tired to stand up straight, but no one helps you pull things. Everyone is in a hurry.
In fact, even if you get hurt and become poor, you may not get sympathy from others.
Especially those friends who eat and drink, when you are down and out, avoid them.
Indifference of human feelings will make you really see the society, know how to make friends and know people. Only in this way can you really adapt to the society, learn to go it alone and learn to rely on yourself.
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Throw cold water on you.
Ma Yun said: "Always keep others' criticisms in mind and forget others' praises."
Those unpleasant words are actually words to help you. On the surface, it is indifference, but in fact it is sincerity. Sincere criticism can put you on the right path and let you really see yourself.
Others deliberately slander you, attack you and even provoke you with words.
Nothing, you should learn to "know good and bad" and find positive things from other people's words. You should try harder to silence those who hit you.
Psychologist Carnegie said: "If you are criticized, it is because criticizing you can give him a sense of satisfaction. This also shows that you have achievements and charm. "
The malice of others towards you is actually jealousy and envy.
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A general said, "Heaven and earth are wider than the belly, and people often cross the boat."
You accept the imperfection of this world, tolerate all people and appreciate all the help. In your life, there will be many people against you.
Crossing others, crossing yourself, is crossing the heart.