Her behavior has simply subverted my three views!
Ten years ago, I went back to my hometown to burn paper for my dead relatives. I want to go to my uncle's house for dinner after burning paper, but my uncle refused. He said, I haven't been to his house for dinner for so many years, so I must go this time.
I can't help it. My family and I are divided into two groups. My parents went to my uncle's house for dinner, and my wife and I went to my uncle's house for dinner.
Now the life of rural people is getting better and better. When they earn money, they will go back to their hometown to build a new house. My second uncle is an exception, because he has a disability, his legs and feet are not good, he can't work, he can only farm in his hometown, and his annual income is very low, so his family still lives in a dilapidated old house!
This time, in order to entertain us, Bo Er deliberately killed an old hen, fished some fish in his own fish pond and cooked a table of dishes, which was very rich!
During the dinner, I met Bo Er's daughter and son, my cousins.
I left my hometown when I was very young and went to live in the city with my parents. Moreover, my second uncle got married very late and got a wife only at the age of forty, so my two cousins are much younger than me. I only met them once when they were very young.
Chatting between banquets, I learned that my cousin is now in the third year of high school in the county middle school.
I asked Bo Er: How is my cousin's study? Are you sure you can get into the university?
The second uncle sighed and said that she studied well, but I was worried. It will cost a lot of money to go to college in other places in the future, which is really too difficult for a family like me. I borrowed a little and sold another pig. There is still a little money saved at home, and the tuition is barely enough, but what about the living expenses? Hundreds of thousands a month, I really can't come up with it.
When talking about this topic, I found that the Bo Er family became silent and sad. It seems that their family is heartbroken for this matter!
I glanced at my cousin. Although we are cousins, we are very close relatives. However, as long as she can remember, this is the first time we have met. In fact, both sides are strangers.
Cousin looked very shy and bowed her head to eat without saying a word, but when it comes to her future tuition, I found her eyes dim instantly.
It seems that she knows the situation at home and is worried about her future.
My heart moved, and I understood a little why Uncle insisted on inviting me to dinner. He is complaining to me and taking precautions so that he can ask me for money in the future!
I looked at my wife next to me, and she looked at me. From her eyes, I think she should have guessed Bo Er's intention.
My wife smiled at me, and then continued to lower her head to eat.
After years of husband and wife life, we also formed a tacit understanding. What she means is to let me make decisions.
I smoked a cigarette and thought, "My second uncle looks really difficult. Give him a hand if you can. Listen to him. They can make up the tuition by themselves. What is difficult is the monthly living expenses. " .
The monthly living expenses of universities need at least 500 yuan, but it should be very tight, so 1000 is much better.
Monthly 1000, annual 12000, four years 48000.
I'm doing a little business outside. Just started a business, and it's getting better. It is no problem to spend 12000 per year.
With this in mind, I made up my mind to say: Uncle, it is your family's nature that your daughter can go to college. No matter how hard it is, you can't give up Tell you what, if she is admitted to the university, I will be responsible for the monthly living expenses!
After listening to my words, Bo Er's eyes lit up, especially her cousin. She didn't lower her head to eat, but looked at me with surprised eyes. She didn't expect me to say this.
The second uncle said: this is not good!
I smiled: nothing, we are all a family, cousins are promising, and our X family is glorious!
Erbo took my hand and thanked me excitedly, and the whole person was excited!
As soon as the college entrance examination ended, my cousin was admitted to the university, and I kept my promise. I asked my cousin to give me a bank card number and deposit it in 1000 every month until she graduated from college, which is four years.
In these four years, when I asked my cousin for the bank card number, I communicated with her once, and the rest of the time did not overlap.
I sometimes want to call her to ask about her study, but then on second thought, forget it.
Although they are cousins, they have little contact and are strangers. Calling her didn't know what to say, and we were both embarrassed. Plus, I have always supported her, and I don't want her to feel short in front of me.
I don't take the initiative to contact my cousin, and my cousin will not take the initiative to contact me.
I can understand, I think: it is normal for girls to be thin-skinned and embarrassed.
Later, my cousin graduated from college and joined a big company. She is doing well in this company. After five or six years of hard work, she was admitted to the middle class and found a husband with a good family.
Unfortunately, when she got married, I just missed my business trip, but I asked my wife to take care of the children and wrapped a big red envelope as a token of appreciation.
Because of this daughter, my second uncle's family collapsed. Two years ago, the old house was demolished and a third floor was built, and the whole family finally moved into a new house!
I am very happy, even a little proud, that the Bo Er family can live a good life, because I funded his daughter's living expenses for four years, which is a contribution to her success.
Bo Er is a grateful person. He brings some local products from his hometown to my home every year. He told me a lot about his daughter.
Once, I sent Bo Er away and came back to sit on the sofa and watch TV. My wife said:
Your cousin is very interesting. We all live in the same city. We didn't know to come to see you for so many years. Anyway, you helped her for four years, but I don't see any signs of gratitude. Your cousin is really not a good person!
My wife's words reminded me, yes, my cousin and I have been in the same city for so many years and have never been to my house once. I gave her four years' living expenses, which was very kind. I don't expect anything in return, but at least I deserve respect, right?
I have been in business for so many years, and I am the most sociable. If someone has helped me like this in the past four years, I will definitely keep it in mind and thank you. This is also the most basic common sense of being a man.
Once, a respected elder in his hometown celebrated his birthday, and all his relatives came to congratulate him.
When I arrived that day, I was caught in a traffic jam, so I came a little late. I stopped the car in a hurry, walked into the hotel gate and met a man head on.
I see. Isn't this Bo Er's daughter, my cousin?
My cousin is talking on the phone while walking. I stood still and greeted her with a smile when she approached.
My cousin gave me a puzzled look, just nodded slightly, and then walked past me with a straight face!
She is so cold to me, have you forgotten who I am?
I can't help it. I already called her cousin. She won't remember who I am.
I gave her four years of living expenses. Will she forget who I am?
Why does she have such an attitude?
The wife next to me looks ugly, but this time she didn't say much, just pulled my sleeve and called me in.
At dinner, I went to Bo Er's table to propose a toast. Bo Er pointed at me and said to my cousin, give your little cousin a toast. He helped you a lot, remember?
My cousin raised her glass to propose a toast to me. She doesn't talk much, she looks calm, just like a relative, just going through the motions!
After the toast, she sat down and never looked at me again!
When I came back from drinking, my expression was normal on the surface, but in fact, my heart was already turning down.
I remembered what my wife once said: My cousin never took the initiative to call me to thank me. After graduating from college, we have lived in the same city for so many years and have never been to our home! Cousins can't be people.
I asked myself: Is there really such an ungrateful person in the world? It simply refreshed my three views!
But I don't regret helping her!
I helped her because she is Bo Er's daughter. Helping her is helping Bo Er! She doesn't know how to be grateful, that's her business. I just want to have a clear conscience!
Finally, I want to say:
Knowing how to be grateful is the most basic behavior of being a man. A person who does not know how to be grateful must be a selfish person. No matter how strong such a person is, the height of his ultimate development must be limited!