You can't hear the subtext, not necessarily because your emotional intelligence is low, but also because the other party used it inappropriately and failed to express it. Communication is a matter for both parties, and you don't need to take the initiative to take responsibility.
Learning to listen to subtext mainly depends on practice, and sometimes you should think more if you feel strange.
When I was young, I once visited a relative's house with my father. This man is his cousin. He is too old to walk out, and his relatives, including my father, often sit around his house. My wife died, my children were abroad, and the economic conditions were good, so I hired a nanny to take care of my daily life. In order to make people visit him more, his family has all kinds of tea, good cigarettes, snacks, newspapers and magazines, and he is not lonely.
I sat down and chatted for a while that day, and the nanny brought snacks. The old man took out a passbook and said to show it to my father. He said: "This is the passbook that Xiaomou (nanny) just helped me with. Watch, bro, right? " Now some bank staff are very irresponsible and often make mistakes in figures. Do you think there is any problem? "After reading it, my father handed it to me and said," No problem, nothing. There is also a small one. These errands really worry you a lot. " The old man said, "Yes, I am a very capable nanny. "
On the way back, I asked my father, "Why is he so confused that he doesn't even trust the bank? Can banks still blame others' money? " . Father said, "It's not that I don't trust the bank, but that I don't trust the nanny. He showed me the passbook to let the nanny know: my relatives know how much money I have, and if there is an accident, the nanny will not move her mind. " I suddenly realized. This is the first time in my life that I understand that there is something in words.