My nephew needs a kidney transplant. I'm a good match, and I'm only 20 years old and just a sophomore. What should I do?

Zhihu has such a problem:

My brother's son has renal failure and needs a kidney transplant. I was encouraged by my family to match, and it is very suitable for transplantation, but I am only a sophomore and just 20 years old. What should I do?

There is a super 40000 high praise replied:

Immediate family members can consider it.

Forget about this nephew.

One of his former colleagues, in his fifties, gave his daughter a kidney. Willing to pay. What can this get back? Don't talk about family and fatherly love. From the most realistic point of view, it is impossible for his daughter to ignore his old age just because she has a mouth to eat.

Can your nephew do it?

Not everyone can repay a drop of water with a gushing spring. Maybe it will be a "farmer and snake" story.

Human nature is complicated. Don't let your family kidnap you.

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In everyone's heart,

Everyone has a devil inside.

On the question of whether to give my nephew a kidney transplant, there is a one-sided view on the Internet:

Don't give.

Netizen "Garlic Jun" said:

I am the beneficiary of kidney transplantation, but I still advise you not to agree. A flat and neat refusal.

I have such an example around me, and my brother gave it to my brother. After the supply, my brother's health became obviously worse and he could not work. My brother thought he was wrong, and finally the two families turned against each other.

When kindness becomes a drag, the benefactor is likely to be "swept out" by the benefactor.

Yeah, like hatred.

Psychologist Kevin Dutton once did an experiment. He found some mental patients and some ordinary people, and then asked them to solve the "tram problem."

The topic is this:

A madman tied five innocent people to the tram track. At this time, an out-of-control tram is coming towards them and will run over them. There is an overpass between the tram and them. You are standing on the overpass, next to a generous person.

The only way to save those five people is to push aside passers-by and stop the tram from moving on.

What would you do?

The results show that:

For ordinary people, they will be reluctant to push people around them; But for mental patients, they are more willing to push the next person in exchange for more lives.

This practice of sacrificing the interests of others for greater interests of others is quite cost-effective in terms of cost and income.

But we are not commodities, but thoughtful people.

If relatives stand on the moral high ground and force you to donate your kidney to your nephew, it is unreasonable and selfish behavior without considering or even sacrificing your health.

This kind of relatives, don't let it be.

Human nature is really thin and cold.

There is a joke circulating on the Internet:

When you are lying on the operating table, your lover may not want you to live; Your children may not want you alive; Your parents may not want you alive; Your brothers and sisters may not want you alive; Your parents-in-law may not want you to live; Your relatives and friends may not want you alive. ......

This is a little sad.

But it also shows the "thin and cool" side of human nature.

As Keigo Higashino said:

There are two things in the world that you can't look directly at, one is the sun and the other is the human heart. In front of human nature, people are always insignificant.

Finson, a famous Danish medical scientist and Nobel Prize winner, wanted to train a young doctor named Harry in his later years.

Finson's assistant George suggested that a friend of Finson hire Harry with a high salary to see if he would be tempted.

However, Finson rejected George's suggestion.

He said:

"Don't stand on the moral high ground and look down on others, and never test human nature. Harry was born in a slum. How can he not be short of money? If you must set a difficult problem to test him, on the one hand, you must give him a relaxed and high-paying job, on the other hand, you hope that he will choose to refuse, which requires him to be a saint. "

Never overestimate human nature.

If you donate a kidney to your nephew, you are "silly and cute". If you don't do this, someone will surely gossip about you. So what? Life without health is painful.

Don't judge the moral level of others easily, but learn to observe the hidden and bright mutual appearances in human nature.

The future is full of uncertainty,

Don't ignore the opportunity cost.

For ordinary people, donating a kidney means:

1. open surgery: obtaining retroperitoneal organs is a major operation; Surgical trauma is not small.

2. Single kidney state: lost the last insurance in the face of urinary system and endocrine diseases. When there are two kidneys, one side of urinary calculi, kidney calculi and ureteral infection can be compensated by the other kidney, but problems such as single kidney status will have disastrous consequences.

Similarly, if you suffer from endocrine and systemic diseases such as diabetes and hypertension in the future, your symptoms and consequences will definitely be worse than others.

3. Psychological shadow: The power of psychological suggestion is very great. After a headache and brain fever, it is estimated that it will depend on it. This kind of psychological suffering alone may haunt you for a long time.

4. Quality of life: You can't squander your body like normal young people. At work, you may fail the physical examination, and it is difficult to find a partner. No one wants to spend the rest of his life with someone who is in poor health.

These are the prices to be paid in the future.

If you don't donate your kidney, you won't have these expenses. Accordingly, the wealth, health and marriage gained in the future are the opportunity costs of kidney donation.

Every choice has a price.

Choosing one represents giving up the benefits of other options.

The future is full of uncertainty, and no one can rely on it except yourself.

And health is the first requirement of living.

Be kind to yourself,

Don't mend your wound with injury.

It is foolish to help others at all costs.

What can I get after kidney transplantation?

The gratitude, material reward or promise of relatives to take care of you for a lifetime.

At the age of 20, I have a lot of time to earn material things. Do I need someone to give it to me?

Gratitude and commitment are unreliable, which needs action to verify.

Never think that a person has a good character and trusts unconditionally.