Flying home from Japan is very late, and the plane is often late. This is what we expect. I ate a simple snack on the plane, a sandwich, an orange, a small bag of rice crust and two cupcakes. I'm already hungry, because I've been wandering around the airport duty-free shop at noon. Before I left, I donated 1000 yuan and bought some snacks for my friends.
Even if we come home late, I will cook for my family as soon as possible, although I am dragging my tired body, because I never worry about cooking, and I am a very efficient person and cook quickly, so I will let my family eat soon.
But when I first got off the plane, I had asked my husband to ensure the safety of my mother-in-law. As a result, I learned that the old lady had come uninvited and was already in our house. I don't know how to turn on the water switch and the natural gas switch! Why did she come uninvited? She said politely that she missed the children, and she cooked for us. She cooked jiaozi from home and brought it with water for her husband and two grandchildren, because I don't eat jiaozi, at least I don't eat her jiaozi.
I never eat jiaozi cooked by my mother-in-law. Thick skin, less stuffing, unpalatable. In addition, eating too much dead noodles hurts my stomach. So the mother-in-law Bao Jiaozi has been providing for the three of them. She would cook me a big pot of rice, but I only ate a small bowl, because it was eight o'clock last night, so I couldn't eat too much. I simply ate rice, scrambled eggs with tomatoes and a sausage.
When we come back from other places, I naturally like to go back to my family. I don't like people coming to my living environment. My mother-in-law suddenly came, and my whole body didn't adapt. I don't like to feel uncomfortable all over, and my face will turn bad immediately. I knew there was something wrong with my mother-in-law. Sure enough, the next day, people were going to the city to find other companions, not to look after the children in our house as my husband thought.
I don't need my mother-in-law to come to my life at all. Now that the children are in primary school, I can take this home, pick up the children, buy food, cook and clean up the house. It has been very good for so many years. We are a family of four. Although sometimes I have a bad temper, I will be nervous and complain a little, but my husband and I made up soon and our life is very good. But once someone intervenes, I feel uncomfortable all over, as if my life is out of my control. This woman is here to compete with me for this control, so I will give up the initiative immediately and I will quit. Come to the whole family Your son married a daughter-in-law and has his own family and life. As a mother-in-law, as a mother-in-law who wants to be smart, you should stay away from, away from, away from the children's lives. This is the wisest thing to do.
How many families, all because of the mother-in-law's uninvited arrival, all because of the mother-in-law's intervention, resulting in the tension and breakdown of the relationship between two people, the tranquility and happiness of the marriage breakdown, so my mother-in-law begged you to leave me alone.
I admit that I am a person who is not filial to my in-laws. Compared with those who regularly give them money and buy clothes and gifts for the elderly every year, I am an unqualified daughter-in-law, because from beginning to end, I feel that this is a person who is not related to me, my own mother, my own biological mother, and my hometown thousands of miles away. I can't take care of my sick life. For a stranger, one, it is because of the appearance of a man that I have an intersection with this woman. We really didn't know anyone before the vast sea of people.
Although I am heartless and selfish, this is really what I think. Although many families are married, it is really difficult to say "mom and dad" to each other. You know, more than 20 years ago, only my biological parents could hold up such a title. Who are you? Did you support me all day? Why did I suddenly get married? It is true that many people have obstacles in their hearts, and I am telling the truth.
I don't like many things and lifestyles of my mother-in-law, so I came uninvited. Although she is an old lady in the countryside, she is still relatively civilized, with a certain ideological understanding and morality. But in the details of life, there is a big gap between us. I have a light diet, like vegetables, don't like greasy food, don't eat big fish and big meat, never touch fried things, and I have to feed my children myself.
I like to prepare rich but not excessive meals for my family. I like balanced nutrition. I don't want my children to eat a lot of greasy food, nor do I want them to eat too much food. After coming back from Japan, I am more convinced that my life is suitable for Japanese cuisine, because I think a Japanese meal is exquisite and suitable, just a little rice, a fish, a bowl of miso soup and a little side dishes. In fact, everyone doesn't need a lot of nutrition for a meal, but we in China often just eat a lot until we are full, and then have a variety of holidays, mountains and seas, and all kinds of delicious food. Counting about 20 to 30 dishes is really a waste.
In fact, Japanese people live a long and healthy life for a reason. The moderation and lightness of this diet must be the main reason. There are no fat people in their country, and everyone is in a hurry, with a moderate or slim figure. And China people always eat themselves out of all kinds of diseases, all kinds of three highs. Japanese seldom eat oil, but I think China people use too much oil, such as spicy and hot fish, pickled fish and all kinds of heavy oil and salt, which is a little unacceptable to me. So from this year on, I will give myself a written pledge to fulfill a military order, and it's good for my friends to invite me to dinner, but I won't go against my will, because I won't wronged myself, let myself have a meal and then be unhappy for several days.
Japanese people always feel not hungry, about 6-7 minutes full. Only in this way can they feel a slight hunger and make their brains run faster and more agile.
My mother-in-law is a big eater. After I got married, she got a little better after repeated preaching. At least she knows that she needs less oil and less salt for her children, but I always complain that her cooking is too salty and oily. Although heavy oil and salt can make food very delicious. So we have a huge gap in diet.
We must admit that it is difficult for people with different diets to get together. Even if they compromise temporarily, the relationship will eventually collapse, so we still knew from the beginning that it would be better to go our separate ways if we couldn't have dinner together.
Just like going to Korea with my best friend, it was tolerable for the first two days, but in the end our collapse. I can't stand her love of all kinds of meat. I said if you like it, try it yourself, so I won't go. As a result, she always asked me to accompany her and even watched her eat. She even said, "Just two bites, my treat!" God, what a person who doesn't understand me! What a person who doesn't understand me! How can such a person become friends or even girlfriends? I was really chilling, so our relationship finally broke down on the day we returned home from our trip. I can't stand a person whose diet is different from mine.
It is difficult for a family to have the same taste, let alone friends and girlfriends, so really don't be with people who can't eat together. Why do you feel wronged? Why should we have the initial intention to fulfill others? What is more important than making yourself happy in this world?
I didn't say a word before I went to bed last night. I washed myself and stayed in the bedroom. At ordinary times, there are only four of us at home. My son is in the lower berth of the same room, my husband is in the bedroom and I am in the north bedroom, so they are all safe. Because I have the habit of reading early, I usually get up early. I'm afraid of influencing others. When I share a room with my husband, I always hide in the bathroom and read books, trying not to make a sound. But then my husband said that the air in the bathroom was not good, so I moved to the north bedroom.
This bedroom in the north is my private space. In the morning, I can turn on the lights, read books, practice leg press slimming and so on, without affecting others, and I can enjoy the quiet morning time myself. This is a wonderful time. I finished charging at morning reading time today, and my heart is full. Then I went out of the room and began to do a family morning. This is the beginning of my life.
But my mother-in-law is here, and everything is broken. I want to vacate this room. My sheets were covered with pillows and things like that. She couldn't sleep, so my parents took all these things away. I couldn't read quietly in the morning, which was a fatal blow to me. So this morning I was in the bathroom, opened a small window and started reading. I told my husband last night that I don't like my mother-in-law living here, and I can't adapt to the appearance of another person in my life. I am used to being quiet and alone, because once my mother-in-law comes, my diet, my life, my cooking and everything together will change, which is unacceptable to me. More importantly, although she didn't mean to, I still feel that I have lost control of my life. I can't control my life I couldn't accept another woman coming into my life, and I didn't want to compete, so I left.
I thought you were going to cook for us, and you were going to participate in my life. Aren't you going to live here? All right, you come and I'll go. In the morning, I hurried out of the house and went out to work without eating.
My husband is going out to work, too. He asked me if I could go home to cook for my children at noon and send them to art class in the afternoon. I said, "Don't you have a mother?" Is your mother not here? Wasn't it arranged last night? "。 Last night, my husband said to her mother-in-law, "Mom, just stay here for a few days. I'll drive you back to your hometown next week. "On Friday, the children had a holiday after returning to school. The children have an art class at three tomorrow afternoon. You can send them to art class and bring them back after class at five. " I know all these words. My husband arranged my life without consulting me at all, which is unacceptable to me.
Because I can go to work, I plan to go home to buy food for my son at noon. After dinner, I can send my children to art class. Imagine if my mother-in-law didn't come, what could I do? Is there nothing I can do? Of course not. As a very confident mother in life, I can always arrange my next day's life in an orderly way. But my husband, unexpectedly, decided to let his mother look after the children here without consulting me in advance! -That's what I can't do! ! Accept! ! ! Things! ! Because I neglected my existence, because I was not consulted, because I can do all these things, because I am the master of my life! !
I'm going to work for breakfast. In desperation, my son said that if grandma was in the city, I knew she would definitely meet friends, because my mother-in-law came to live in my house, which was just a springboard and people had to make plans the next day. My mother-in-law didn't discuss the next day with her husband before. In fact, my mother-in-law had a plan in her heart, that is, her husband got in the way and acted arbitrarily for her husband. Now my husband puts himself in a state where neither side is right!
My husband came to me and asked me if I could go home to cook at noon and send my children to school. I know things will go wrong. So I criticized him for a word or two. I said, "Didn't you arrange for your mother? Didn't you ask your mother to do these things? " Just because you didn't discuss it with me, you know! "My husband's face turned pale and he could not speak. I wanted to end this hectic morning, so I said I could go home and send my son to school, and went out hungry. At first, I should eat some vegetables and milk cereal. At the beginning of a new day, I thought my mother-in-law came and everything was ruined.
This is what I dislike about my mother-in-law. I can't live with her. I used to need someone to take care of my children when they were born, especially before I was three years old. My mother and mother-in-law came to help me take care of the children. Now that my children have grown up, I can take care of myself. I manage my family life well without outsiders. And I have accepted this environment and this atmosphere very much in my heart, so although I am the queen, I have always been arrogant. In terms of housework, although I do a lot and work hard, I feel very comfortable because I am responsible for all this.
I went home to look at the door yesterday, and there were no other people's shoes. I knew all the shoes in our house were those, so I thought, my mother-in-law didn't come either, but I immediately realized that the old rural lady had put her shoes on the doormat at home. You know, our shoes are all outside the door, whether on the floor mat or on the shoe rack, because shoes have a bad smell, which will pollute the air in the room. As a result, I opened the door and saw that it really confirmed my idea. I quickly took out my mother-in-law's shoes. Same as our shoes.
There are too many things about mother-in-law, and there are many, many small things. If I talk about them with my female colleagues, I will be more lively. I never believe in things that my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along well, what's more, I think I don't believe in things that I get along with more than my mother and daughter. Even if it really exists in my life, I can't understand and imagine it. Of course I can't. Because my mother didn't show filial piety in Dear Dad, let alone her in-laws.
My husband said that he knew I wouldn't be filial to my in-laws, but I don't think I have the minimum respect for them, nor for the younger generation or the elderly. Why! Why doesn't the old man do it himself? I thought it was all caused by uninvited visits. Don't you stay away from our lives? Stay away from your son's wife's life! Stay away from our lives!
Yes, I am not filial to the old man and mother in Dear Dad. This is the mentality of a lonely only child. I feel guilty for my parents, not to mention a person who is not related to me! How important it is to be a clever mother-in-law I know I want to be a mother-in-law in the future, and I want to handle the difficult relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I don't know how to face it, but at present, but now, I want to take control of my life. I want to control my life. I can't stand my mother-in-law coming uninvited. My life can't be so messy. If my husband can't accept all this, he will support his parents and I will support my parents.
There are many leftover women around me who are single or divorced all their lives. Sometimes it's good to live a quiet and clean life and take charge of the world by yourself. I understand that my world is too lonely, but my heart is full, because there are words and books. I am a lonely person, walking alone for a week. Please let me enjoy this quiet life, don't interfere, don't do this.