I am the standard nine zero after the family's only child, parents are ordinary office workers, but they are not slack on my education, when I was small, I must teach me to read well, so that when I grow up to have success. After going to college, I talked about a boyfriend, but because it was too cheap, so my parents let me break up with him.
One, went to college to catch up with a boyfriend.Remember when I was a child, because of a score, did not do well, and a few male classmates, playing games on the street, this time after being caught by his parents, he once attributed the reason for not doing well to me in love.
After going back, the consequences can be imagined, directly do not give food, but also let me face the wall. Since then, parents of my studies more strict, more not let me play with men together, for fear that I fell in love with them, delayed the study, but I am also quite obedient, really did not fall in love.
Later, I took the undergraduate exam and went to college in a foreign city.
Later, I was in the university, and I met a man who studied law. He was tall and handsome. It was more in line with my standards, and importantly, he was in the same city as me. It is also in line with my family's request: not to marry too far away. So I started to pursue him like crazy, and I really didn't have to work very hard to get him.
Two, spending money during the love period: each pays for his own.But love on campus is all too unreal, and I'm an honest girl, I won't spend a dime on each other when I'm not sure if I'll make it to marriage in the future.
While many of my friends around me, when they are in love, it is the man who spends the money. The so-called, eat people's mouths soft, take hands short, not to mention in the campus, they simply do not have a source of living, all the living expenses are home parents supply.
So, we are in the process of relationship, we are each pay each. In addition to school hours, when we had free time, we often went out and did odd jobs to supplement our living expenses.
For example, if you go out for a trip, you still have to spend money on food and drinks, and you can't ask your parents for that money. So we often found a small restaurant nearby to serve dishes after classes, earning just enough to cover our expenses.
Third, my boyfriend worked well and made 20,000 dollars.Our entire college relationship time is still very happy. At least I think he is a very hard-working person, and very economical, never spend a penny. He was also very filial to his parents.
I decided to continue to be with him after graduation, who envied the love from the campus to the wedding dress, at least at that time, I was very sure in my heart, non-he is not married. After graduation, we looked for a job in this city, his ability to live up to my high expectations, just work a year, the monthly salary rose to 20,000, he was also promoted to do the manager.
Despite this, I still didn't spend a penny of his money, and he also once told me that he wanted to save money to buy a big house here and live with me. I was full of fantasies about the future and felt that he was a very responsible person.
Four, the first time I met my parents, he only ordered one meat, one vegetarian and one soup.Then another year passed, my parents began to urge my marriage, I decided to introduce him to my parents to know, they learned from my mouth, it turned out that the other side so good, they wanted to meet him.
I guessed that my parents must be very satisfied. The salary was good, the man was handsome, and he was responsible. I told my boyfriend the news, but he refused to take advantage of his busy schedule. I felt very angry this time and asked him if he didn't want to marry me. He said that he loved me very much and was consistent in his feelings. It may be true that he couldn't leave because he was busy with work. My parents didn't take it personally, and then rushed to meet again on the day of a small vacation.
This time my boyfriend agreed, and my boyfriend booked a small restaurant outside, saying that my parents were coming, and that I must treat them to a good meal. The respect and courtesy that should be shown to elders should still be there.
I didn't ask which restaurant to book at that time. On the day of the meeting, my boyfriend and I went to the station and picked up my parents. He greeted my parents warmly, and took the big bag they were holding and had to grab it. My parents had a smile of satisfaction on their faces.
Later we took a cab and went to a small restaurant where we used to work when we were in school. At that time, my heart was a little upset, see my parents, at least in a larger hotel, this private restaurant is too shabby. My boyfriend told my parents that he often worked at this restaurant when he was in college, and the food was very good. My parents looked at it a few times, but walked in anyway.
The owner of the restaurant, who is very familiar with us, came up and told my parents that the signature dishes here are delicious, and that they are old friends who often work on my side of the family, so I'll give them to you at a cheaper price. My parents took the menu and just wanted to order, but the owner of the restaurant said that your food had already been cooked, so there was no need to order. My parents had to close the menu awkwardly. At the dinner table, we exchanged a few pleasantries, when the owner of the dishes served, let us enjoy.
Looking at the table above only a meat, a vegetarian soup, slightly embarrassed, usually I often eat out with him, two people also eat a meat, a vegetarian soup, this is, after all, the first time to see my parents ah, you're so shabby? So, I called to the owner to continue to add food, but was stopped by my boyfriend, he said to my parents, I do not know a little bit of moderation in life above, always wasteful, saying that this dish is already enough to eat, there is no need to waste.
I wanted to say something, but no words came out. When my parents saw this embarrassing situation, they immediately called the shopkeeper over, ordered a few of my favorite dishes, and said that this meal was on them. The shopkeeper wrote down these dishes and rushed to the kitchen to work, I can see that my boyfriend's face is not happy at all. I can see that my boyfriend's face is not happy at all, and he seldom talks at the table. After eating, there are still some leftovers on the table, and muttered in a low voice: waste.
When my parents got up to pay for the meal, I immediately used my eyes to signal my boyfriend to hurry up and pay. My boyfriend saw what I meant, but did not act immediately, and directly muttered in a low voice, did not say that your parents pay? Besides, so many dishes are their own order.
In fact, my parents heard all these words, just not in plain sight. It was also the first time I had ever seen him be so harsh to my parents. After sending my parents away, I was afraid that my parents would not agree, and have been on the phone with them to emphasize: in fact, he is usually very good to me, he has been wanting to save money to buy a big house in the city, so in life has been more frugal.
Parents listened to my words, and did not say anything more, the second meeting is to bring the boyfriend to my home, in order to avoid waste, my mother at home to cook with their own hands.
fifth, up to my house to see my parents, empty-handed.Later, I said goodbye to my boyfriend and made an appointment for a certain Sunday. At that time, when I arrived home was close to evening. Because I was at home on that Sunday, he came from the unit.
When he rang the doorbell, I opened the door for him, and I was surprised when he opened it. I asked him in a low voice, why didn't you buy some fruit? He replied, "You didn't tell me to buy anything, either. Besides, I've already rushed over from work, and I've already given you face.
Said here I am a little upset, it seems to call her to my home, he was very reluctant. Parents saw the two of us muttering at the door, hurriedly greeted over to sit down. When the food was served, it was also my parents who were busy serving the food while she sat on the couch watching TV. When the food was served, he came over and sat down.
Parents greeted him, don't be polite, you can eat whatever you want. He tasted a few bites and thought my parents' cooking was very good. So, one person almost ate two plates of food, and my parents still kept smiling and said, you and my daughter like to eat the same meal.
He just smiled back, and I watched him eat two plates of food by himself, and I didn't have the heart to clip it, so I left it all for him to eat. When it was time to leave he wanted to go with me. But my parents stopped him. He had to go back to the flat alone. From then on, my parents no longer let me have anything to do with him, saying that he is not frugal, and he does not care about people at all, eat a delicious dish, just one hard to eat themselves, not at all think of leaving a little bit for everyone.
Thinking about the time in school, at that time it just seemed that he was very thrifty and frugal because he would encourage me to buy the things that I liked to eat, only I was the one who paid for them. He was certainly generous when the money spent wasn't his. But then, when he knew he was going to spend the money, he was being catty. Saving is a virtue, but it should also be divided into occasions, and meet with my parents, such an important occasion should be to appear generous, rather than care about the few food money.
When you eat with your parents, the younger generation should also grab the money, instead of the parents a polite word, wait until the time to pay, he is shrinking in the corner. The first meeting left a bad impression on my parents. Re-The second time we met, he still didn't know how to be polite, see the elders don't say you want to buy more expensive gifts, at least the fruit must be bought, right?
Some of his behavior at the dinner table,made my mother determined to break up with him, if a man, is truly love you, will be very good to you, he is not harsh, and meet the good food, he is also left to you to eat, rather than enjoy alone. So, he is a selfish and cold person, and does not know how to be polite, which parents are willing to marry their daughters to him?