Letting go is a ceremony of engagement, also called making a promise. At that time, there were not many marriages between men and women through free love, but generally through the orders of parents; The words of the matchmaker. " However, the wisdom of the people has been opened, and both parties to the marriage themselves have a say. Therefore, in the matchmaker, there are big media and small media. Big media is a match between relatives and friends of both sides, while small media is a matchmaker.
Next, the parents will tell their children about the situation, with photos of the other party. If both parties are interested, they can put forward to look at each other face to face. Face-to-face is just a peek at the right place chosen by the matchmaker so that the two sides can meet. After face-to-face, if you don't find that you have a big disability, you must let it go.
It is necessary to choose a special day to transfer the keepsake given by the man to the woman through the matchmaker, and replace the Geng stickers of both parties. The keepsakes are usually rings, bracelets or small gold and jade, etc., because the Geng post, which the man thinks is valuable, is a folded post for writing birthdates of both men and women. Generally, dragon and phoenix stickers printed by paper shops are used. Dragon wind post a passbook two; Different colors, one red and one green. The red one belongs to the man, and the green one belongs to the woman, with yellow dragon and phoenix patterns printed on it. In the middle of the post, birthdates, who is "Ganzao" (the man) and "Kunzao" (the woman) are written side by side. Geng tie case prepared by the man; Ask someone to write. The person who wrote Geng Tie asked for a "all-blessed person", not a "four-eyed person". The so-called "all-blessed person" is a person whose spouse is alive, and it is better to have children, but if his wife is pregnant, she will become a "four-eyed person" and will not be qualified.
At the same time, the matchmaker will bring back the man's keepsake and keepsake to the woman, and then complete the release procedure. The ceremony can also be agreed by both men and women to choose a restaurant to entertain the media, and the two sides will handle it face to face, select the wedding date together, and then go through the ceremony formalities.
Second, the gift:
Gift is that the man formally informs the woman of the wedding date agreed by both parties, and delivers the clothes and jewelry worn by the bride on the wedding day to the woman. There are also gifts for the woman. Gifts include goose wine (double goose wine or single goose wine); Fresh fish, pork leg, lamb leg, cakes, etc. (Pastries are generally Longfeng cake, Zhuangyuan cake and crystal cake) Goose, wine and fish each take a beat. Clothes and jewelry can also be lifted up (a rectangular table with small railings around the desktop and two sticks under it, carried by two people). Other foods are food boxes (rectangular double-layer wooden boxes, which are placed on a wooden frame with a stick in the middle and carried by two people). The above items were escorted by two media (a male media and a female media, all of which were official guests). Afterwards, the woman should
One leg of pig and one leg of lamb were given to two big media to show their gratitude.
Third, the dowry
The dowry is one or two days before the wedding, and the woman will send the items accompanying the bride to the man. At that time, the items prepared by the woman generally included a clock, a bottle, a hat mirror, a tea pot, a food ring, a tea set, a washing utensil, a toilet utensil, etc., together with boxes, clothes, bedding, jewelry, and some families also secretly sent wooden furniture. In addition, there is a long-lived lamp, that is, a copper or tin lampstand for lighting grass. The means of transport are both high-rise and "nest neck" (that is, employees with shoulders). With high lift can be divided into 32 lift, 24 lift, 16 lift. It depends on the woman's financial conditions. If it's less than sixteen loads, find a porter to carry it. In addition to the two media, the escort should be accompanied by two or four male guests. After the dowry is delivered to the man's house, the man will properly place the items in the new house and ask the makeup officer and guest to have a look. Some families also find trumpeters to play outside their new houses, which is called "ringing rooms".
Fourth, the wedding:
The ceremony performed on the wedding day according to the custom at that time is the wedding. "After a long drought, I met an old friend in another country, and the wedding night was spent in to be no.1." In our country, it has always been a great pleasure to get married and hold a wedding ceremony. To this end, the man's wedding ceremony should post a big invitation to relatives and friends, indicating the number of men or grandchildren who are "married".
The bride was married in a sedan chair embroidered with red satin and carried by eight people. There are pairs of umbrellas and mirrors in front of the car, twenty-four or thirty-two trumpeters (including eight drums), plus voiceless sound. Before that, there are various flags, silence avoidance cards, fans, several pairs of golden lanterns, melons, axes, stools, etc., and at the beginning, there is a pair of opening gongs. If the groom welcomes him personally, eight people with green embroidery will carry a big sedan chair, and the groom will sit in it and walk in front of the red sedan chair. As for the entourage, there are media, groomsmen, married people, compliments and so on, and then they go to the woman to marry the bride.
After the wedding procession to the woman, all the bridegroom visits the woman's officiator and invites the bride to get on the sedan chair, etc., and all the celebrants sing congratulatory poems and pay tribute. If the bride is invited to get on the sedan chair, it is praised as "Please invite the upstart to get on the sedan chair, please ..." After three invitations, the old man helped the bride to straighten up. The bride sat cross-legged and dropped the curtain. The groom is still leading in the green sedan chair. The groom usually wears the national dress-blue robe, green mandarin jacket, small hat and green satin foundation boots. When welcoming the bride, she wears red only, and when she arrives at the woman, the woman invites her elder relatives to dress the groom with red again, which becomes double red. Golden flowers are inserted in the hat, and all the contacts are accompanied by the best man
Welcome back to the man, and the groom will be taken care of by the best man to get off the sedan chair and rest inside. The bride's sedan chair is carried straight to the front of the auditorium, and the sedan chair is removed. At this time, the center of the auditorium was illuminated with candles, on which the memorial tablet of heaven and earth was placed, which had been perfumed by the invited "old birthday star" (the man's elderly elder). Between the altar and the sedan chair, there are two chairs on the left and right, with two chaperones sitting at the table and two chaperones sitting next to each other. At this time, the old man brought a tea tray with five cups of sugar tea. The companion sister-in-law and aunt each have a bosom, and the other cup is carried by the old man. When the curtain is lifted and passed through the car, it is presented to the bride, and then the cups will be retrieved one by one. Accompanying sister-in-law and aunt only take tea in hand and don't drink it. After the tea was delivered, the giver praised: "Please invite the groom into Huatang. Please ... "After three invitations, the best man accompanied the groom into the hall. Praise givers praise: "Bow upward" and "Bow to the sedan chair". The groom bowed and quit. At this time, the giver sang poems and asked the bride to get off the sedan chair. The bride will be supported by the old man to get off the sedan chair, stand in the left front direction of the altar, and withdraw the sedan chair. Then invite the groom into the hall to worship heaven and earth and make three kowtows. Stand up after the ceremony. At this time, the giver praised: "Please celebrate the birthday of the old birthday girl, please …" After three invitations, the old birthday girl went to the hall. A longevity stick (made of straw stalks) wrapped in red paper with a happy word inserted on it was handed by the tribute giver. The old birthday star holds a longevity stick in both hands and buckles it on the groom's crown three times first, saying "how blessed and how long a man can live"; Then buckle the bride's phoenix crown three times and read "Yong Fu Shui Gui Yong Kang Ning". Old birthday girl quits after her birthday. At this time, the complier praised: "Husband and wife worship." Men bowing, women hail. After the ceremony, sing along with the bride and groom to the bridal chamber. At this time, the new couple are connected with colored silk, and the groom retreats, leading the bride into the bridal chamber and sitting on the bed side by side, which is called "sitting on the account" (when entering the bridal chamber a few years ago, there was a boy and a girl holding a candlestick. There is a red silk knot and a green silk knot on the candlestick. The two children each hold a candle. Afterwards, red silk was given to boys and green silk to girls. When sitting on the bill, the bride sits first. At this time, the groom took off the veil on the bride's head with the longevity stick used by the birthday girl. Only then did the bride show her true colors. Then, the best man and sister-in-law each hold a glass and invite the bride and groom to drink a "toast". The bride and groom each touch their lips and change glasses, and the bride and groom each drink again. Immediately put on two small bowls of crystal sugar lotus seeds, and exchanged some with each other as before. So "sitting on the account" is a gift. The groom quits and takes a rest. At this time, the old birthday girl sent a burning code. The ceremony of meeting the bride was completed.
Eating the first table meal: Eating the first table meal is a ceremony for newlyweds to eat the first meal at the same table. There is a square table in the hall, on which are all kinds of fruit dishes, wine sets and tableware. The bride and groom sit opposite each other, and the bride sits first. Together with meeting the bride and sitting on the bill, the bride * * * goes out for the first time three times, which is called "entering the husband's door three times". Sitting sideways is accompanied by a sister-in-law above and an aunt below. The best man has no seat, so he has to stand behind the groom. These guests, together with other visitors, can pour wine and cloth dishes for the bride and groom and say auspicious words. But none of the six people sitting here are allowed to really eat or drink. It's just a formality. The wedding was basically over after the banquet. After that, we will worship our ancestors, our elders and the younger generation.