The traditional view of the elderly at home is that "children under 5 years old can't go to the grave", because they think that children under 5 years old are most likely to "see another world" and they are afraid that their children will be "influenced and frightened by another world"; Zichen's mother felt no influence, and advocated taking her children to outdoor activities, which also allowed him to feel the atmosphere of traditional festivals and cherish the memory of his ancestors.
In fact, I think both of them have some truth. In the former, it doesn't make much sense for young children to go to this occasion, because children are too young to understand the meaning of sweeping graves to pay homage to their ancestors, but they just follow the wishes of adults and are not beneficial to children; In the latter, traditional festivals not only have different representational functions, but also have deeper educational significance for children.
So, how old is a child suitable for going? In fact, there is no absolute age limit. The only criterion is the child's understanding and acceptance of "life and death".
For example, parents can tell their children more about the old man who died in peacetime and let them accept it emotionally first. Then let the children know that "life and death" is a very natural law. In this way, with sufficient psychological preparation, it is more meaningful for children to go to the grave with their feelings for their ancestors.
Speaking of this, I have to talk about an embarrassing thing before the children's holiday. When the Qingming holiday was coming, the teacher asked the children in the class, "Does anyone know the story of Tomb-Sweeping Day?" As soon as the voice fell, my baby quickly raised his hand. After the teacher told him to get up and answer, he even said, "It's to pay homage to Qu Yuan!" "
The students in the class laughed loudly when they heard this, and the teacher couldn't help laughing. Moreover, the teacher also criticized the class by name, so that parents should teach some "common sense" to their children. There are several children in the same community who told their parents about it when they came home. Sometimes I feel embarrassed when I meet them in the community, and I always feel that their smiles are like laughing at us.
Catalpa Chen's mother can't stand it, and she is determined to educate her children well and make them sit up and take notice. So I looked up information everywhere and taught my children to know traditional festivals and learn customs and stories every day, but the results were very small, and the children were not interested at all. They memorized the calculations and forgot them in a few days.
It was not until later that this set of "Festival Feast" was discovered. After watching it with the children for a period of time, earth-shaking changes took place in the children, and they were also praised by the teachers in the class group.
Many parents expressed dissatisfaction. "Don't you just know a little about traditional festivals? It's useless. Is it worthy of such praise?" The teacher said that she not only knows the knowledge of traditional festivals, but also her grades have improved a lot during this period. She also knows a lot of traditional knowledge and culture, and many blackboard newspapers are made by her; And know how to respect the elderly and filial parents; When cleaning at school, many children like to be lazy, but she is hard-working.
Only after listening did parents realize that this child is really excellent, not only in learning, but also in quality. So they asked about Zichen's mother and asked her how to educate her children. Mother Zi Chen said, "I also looked for a lot of information and tried many ways, but all of them had little effect. It was not until I found this set of" Festival Feast "that the child's body changed!"
Zichen's mother said that this set of ***4 volumes of Festival Feast contains 8 unique traditional festivals, 19 ancient festival poems necessary for primary school, 69 catchy proverbs, proverbs and two-part allegorical sayings, 24 classical ancient poems on solar terms, and 24 ancient poems with beautiful sounds.
The book contains the origin of festivals, myths and legends, festival customs, festival food, festivals and poems, common sayings, proverbs, two-part allegorical sayings, astronomical knowledge, culture and activities, festival games, etc., which can take children back to the journey of knowledge discovery of traditional festivals once and make them full of interest and unfinished.
Then, the book also contains historical allusions, and children can learn historical knowledge while immersed in holiday happiness. Open children's eyes, increase children's knowledge and accumulate children's writing materials.
The complete set of books is illustrated with pictures and texts. 19 primary school students' essential ancient poems are combined with appreciation, so that children can deeply feel the charm of ancient poems and easily help Chinese learning.
The whole set of books also includes a variety of holiday food making, for example, making Laba porridge on Laba Festival; Lantern Festival rub dumplings; Tomb-Sweeping Day is a youth league; Dragon Boat Festival dumplings; Chinese Valentine's Day is a proper fruit ... Let the children improve their hands-on ability and feel the warmth of the family in the process of cooking and tasting delicious food.
Moreover, this set of books also integrates small games into holiday activities, for example, solve riddles on the lanterns on the Lantern Festival; Scientific knowledge related to Tanabata; Scientific knowledge related to enjoying the moon ..... makes children improve their observation and thinking ability while playing games and watching popular science.
Finally, Mama Zi Chen also said that she not only took a fancy to the help of this set of books for children, but also took a fancy to its gifts. A 40-page exquisite pocket notebook, 24 ancient poems about solar terms, and the reading audio of 24 ancient poems about solar terms were attached to the book.
Parents, we can't just pay attention to children's achievements. I think it's more important to have children's quality. The gratitude of Qingming, the patriotism of Dragon Boat Festival and the respect for the elderly in Chongyang all shine with the brilliance of traditional virtues. We can't let our children leave these qualities and virtues behind. I'm going to put the link below. It's guaranteed to be genuine, the gifts are complete, and the price is very beautiful (4 volumes are only 49 * * *, each of which is less than one breakfast), but it can cultivate children's various abilities and qualities. You can start with your own needs or give them to your relatives and children as gifts ~
Tomb-Sweeping Day itself is a traditional festival with more than two thousand years, and it is also a part of traditional culture. As a parent, I suggest taking this opportunity to explain the origin and allusions of "Qingming" to children, so that children can receive the education of traditional culture in participation, which is more meaningful for their growth!
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