There is such a jingle that "a quiet child will be a demon." Sure enough, my daughter played quietly in the room for a long time. I thought about what she used to do and saw all kinds of toys, picture books and brushes everywhere. So, I tried my best to reason with her and advised her to put these toy books in order; But she looked at the mess and refused to tidy it up.

What should I do at this time? I have to use two tricks-"threat" and "reward". For example, if you don't clean up, I won't buy you a new toy next time; Or if you don't tidy up the scattered things outside, I'll throw them away as garbage; This is the "threat". There are also "rewards", such as I'll show you an cartoon after finishing, or I'll let you eat an ice cream after finishing, and so on.

After reading the book Game Theory and Life, I found that the strategies commonly used in life are also a manifestation of game theory. It turns out that there are all kinds of games in our life, such as daily cooperation, neighborhood conflicts, marriage disputes, labor disputes and so on.

In the popular science encyclopedia of China, the game theory is explained as follows:

For this definition, many people must be as confused as I am and don't understand what "game theory" really means. Then Game Theory and Life is a good introductory book. This book explains game theory to readers. Instead of using boring formulas, it uses real historical events and life examples.

The author Lan Fisher also closely combines game theory with real life and applies game theory to the interaction between family members and friends, making the reading of this book easy to understand.

The book mentions seven common dilemmas in life that affect cooperation. They are prisoner's dilemma, tragedy of commons, hitchhiking, coward's game, volunteer's dilemma, gender war and deer hunting. The author illustrates each dilemma with examples.

In my life, the most common encounter should be the "coward game". That day, my daughter asked me, "Mom, why did you let another car pass first?" Indeed, Japanese delivery is a game.

In the eyes of my daughter, I am probably a "victim" every time, but my strategy is to prevent the worst result and save time and energy.

There is also a dilemma of "hitchhiking"-ignoring others and pursuing our own interests, which is also a common situation in our daily life. The book mentions a case of "hitchhiking" in the workplace-some people always leave things until the last minute, they don't plan their time in advance, they hitchhike at the last and throw all the pressure on others.

Look at your life. Do you often encounter these difficulties?

When encountering difficulties, try the "Ten Tips" provided by the author.

In the prompt of 10, what impressed me most was "introducing new participants". When the author met a quarrel between his parents, he invited a child that his parents didn't like very much to play at home. At this time, parents changed from opposition to alliance. In order not to let the children play at home, they chose to stop arguing and took the author to the zoo.

This is an interesting strategy, which changes the object of contradiction; We often use it in our lives, such as diverting children's attention when they are noisy.

Game theory will not make moral judgments, but accept the facts and admit that selfishness is actually one of our main motives; Game theory evaluates different strategies according to whether they are in their own interests. "

Perhaps the biggest gain from reading this book lies in a new understanding of daily life from the perspective of game theory, and with some new ideas and methods to solve the dilemma, we will not fall into the "fishing net".