Mr. Yang Jiang once said:

"In life, you need to have three self-consciousnesses, which are nothing more than knowing yourself, refining yourself, and voluntarily transforming yourself."

If you think about it carefully, it is indeed true.

Many people live in confusion all their lives, unable to find their direction in life, and always standing still.

But some people have a clear understanding of themselves, are good at discovering their own shortcomings, constantly improve themselves, and move towards success step by step.

The fundamental reason is to achieve self-knowledge, self-control, self-sufficiency and self-healing.

01 Self-knowledge

"The true greatness of a person lies in his ability to realize his own insignificance."

Indeed, a person can only be self-conscious if he does not know himself. Only by facing your shortcomings calmly can you truly recognize yourself.

The recently popular TV series "Dear Child" has become a dark horse, ranking first in ratings.

Actor Ren Suxi appeared without makeup, truly portraying the anxiety of pregnancy and the pain of childbirth. The superb acting skills won unanimous praise from the audience.

She knew that she was not from a professional background, so she insisted on honing her acting skills, carefully figuring out the characteristics of the characters, constantly learning, gradually accumulating experience, and forming her own performance style.

The media commented that the character created by Ren Suxi is confident, relaxed and self-aware.

This is because Ren Suxi has a clear understanding of herself.

She said: "I know where I am weak, and I will improve. I am not afraid of being praised. As long as I don't praise myself, no one can praise me."

Once upon a time, the director of "Partners in China" Chen Kexin invited Ren Suxi to participate in the movie, but Ren Suxi declined.

It turned out that after the audition, Ren Suxi found that the role was far away from her own life, and she was worried that she could not interpret the role well. No matter how Director Chen tried to persuade her, Ren Suxi still refused, saying, "I only play roles that I can be responsible for." I would reject any other role."

It is precisely because of Ren Suxi's clear understanding of her acting skills and positioning and her devoted study of each role that she can go further and further on the road of acting and continue to make great films.

He who knows others is wise, he who knows himself is wise, and he who knows others is valuable.

A person who knows how to understand himself will remain calm when faced with the evaluation of others, and will neither be complacent nor belittle himself.

Act according to your ability and live a transparent and comfortable life.

For the rest of your life, may you be self-aware and strong, and live a sober and strong life.

02 Self-control

I heard a saying:

People are most comfortable, free and happy when they can control themselves.

The older you grow, the more temptations you face. Only those who truly have self-control can withstand temptation.

People with self-control are often more able to achieve their goals and gain greater satisfaction and happiness.

Liu Genghong has been on the screen recently. Grandma in her 70s and children as young as several years old are all doing the Materia Medica Compendium Shuttlecock exercise created by Liu Genghong.

His popularity is not so much sudden as it is inevitable, and all of this is inseparable from his strong self-control.

Liu Genghong, 49, has been exercising for more than 30 years.

He has been exercising for decades. Sometimes I am busy with work and it is inconvenient to go to the gym, so I will use the items around me to assist with exercise.

After having children, he had less time to exercise, so Liu Genghong created the "child-bearing fitness method" to exercise with his children.

During the epidemic, most celebrities showed off their food, life, and jokes at home, but he was the only one who led netizens to exercise through live broadcasts, five days a week.

In Liu Genghong’s view, fitness can not only manage one’s body shape, but also help improve self-control.

He strictly controls his diet, exercise, and daily routine for decades, and has developed strong self-control.

I agree with one sentence:

The difference between people is not IQ, but self-control.

Strong people are not born strong. The reason why strong people can become strong is because they can use self-control to resist the temptations of life and defeat their own desires.

Integrating self-control into life and making it a habit can lead to the best appearance.

The rest of my life is precious. May you and I have the ability to control ourselves, bring our own highlights, and live beautifully.

03 Self-sufficiency

The ancients said:

Look inward for an inch, and you will gain an inch of wisdom. If you take one foot outward, you will have one more foot of trouble.

Expecting changes in the outside world is just asking for trouble. Truly smart people know how to fill their hearts.

Mr. Ye Jiaying, an expert in classical literature, has been wandering throughout her life. Faced with the ups and downs of life, Mr. Ye Jiaying uses poetry to resolve the setbacks of life, enriches her spiritual world with classical poetry, and resists the storms of the real world.

When she first came to Vancouver for cultural exchange, Mr. Ye Jiaying faced many difficulties: leaving her hometown, language barrier, heavy housework, and the translation of Chinese classical poems into foreign languages ??was very convoluted...

But even though In such a difficult situation, Mr. Ye Jiaying still remains at ease.

In the dead of night, a person sits at his desk, looking up information, translating ancient poems, and preparing lesson plans.

After Harvard-Yenching Library closed, she still stayed there and worked alone.

After returning to China, Mr. Ye Jiaying lived a simple life, enjoying the company of classical poetry, and completed many masterpieces that have been handed down from generation to generation, opening the door for modern people to understand classical poetry.

Writer Lin Qingxuan has a saying that is right:

Nine times out of ten things in life will be unsatisfactory. Always think about one or two, not eight or nine, and everything will go well.

Seize the one or two that are satisfactory and forget the eight or nine that are unsatisfactory.

Everyone has different wonderful things, cherish what you have and be grateful for what you encounter.

A person who is content in his heart will always be happy.

To be content and happy is the greatest happiness.

04 Self-healing

In life, we often encounter various difficult problems, and it is inevitable that there will be moments of collapse.

There is no real empathy in this world. Everyone's pain can only be healed by themselves.

The famous psychologist Jung once said: "For ordinary people, the most important lesson in life is to learn to accept yourself. Only you are your own savior."

Jung's childhood was lonely, his mother suffered from mental illness, his parents quarreled constantly, and his character became sensitive and fragile.

When he grew up, Jung began to read a large number of books on philosophy and psychology, study his dreams in various periods, continue to explore inward, and reflect on his growth experience.

As an adult, Jung parted ways with Freud due to disagreements with his academic ideas. Coupled with the misfortune of his childhood, these pressures led to Jung's mental state being very bad and he was at a loss for a long time.

Faced with these sufferings, Jung insisted on reading a lot, writing a healing diary every day, and conducting self-analysis. Rediscover childhood games, practice yoga, travel, and heal your soul.

It was Jung's powerful self-healing ability that finally freed him from confusion and became the founder of analytical psychology and a great psychologist.

I like a sentence very much:

Life is not made by staring at sad things, but by walking out step by step towards the rising sun with your head held high.

Indeed, no matter how uncomfortable I feel, I still have to get through life.

After adulthood, everyone collapses and heals at the same time.

When a person has strong self-healing ability, he will become a strong man in life, overcome obstacles and move forward.

I have heard a saying: "The value of a person lies in the person himself."

Only by being sober and self-aware can you make the right decision at the critical intersection in life;

Be self-sufficient and accept it calmly no matter how good or bad your life is;

Learn to be self-sufficient. The better, even if you are in a low point, you can pull yourself up without fear.

In life, there are some situations that we cannot change, but we can change ourselves.

I hope that you and I can be self-aware, self-controlled, self-sufficient, and self-healing, and be strong in life, wearing armor, not afraid of challenges, becoming more courageous as we fight, and working hard to move forward.

About the author: Zheng Xiaoying & Four-leaf Clover, with a warm heart and a common sense of hiding.