This book is one of the recommended readings in August for the Tian Xiangmei Young Women Reading Group. I suddenly discovered that the name of this group is very long and written in an epistolary style, so you can freely choose where to start when reading. The author writes in the form of 30 letters, roughly divided into eight parts, love and friendship, violence and fear, faith and knowledge, power and order... written to his future 17-year-old granddaughter Lily or readers Lily. It is quite difficult to read this kind of book, let alone write a logical and clear review, so I just picked out some passages in the letters that I felt deeply about, and added some of my own opinions.

In Chinese-style family relationships, parents make huge sacrifices for their children, and the children must be unconditionally obedient in return. Studying, working, getting married, having children...the children's lives are arranged in every detail. On the surface, they are happy, but in fact, the boundaries are unclear and the relationships are tense. Fortunately, due to the improvement of the economy and the improvement of education level, there are now fewer parents who keep the fish eyes for themselves and the fish meat for their children, and more parents agree to share beautiful things together.

Among my colleagues, friends, and relatives, there are gradually more and more girls who will not get married when they reach the marriageable age. After getting married, there are not a few who are unwilling to make do with their lives, and there are also a few who choose to divorce. Women have gone from having to give birth to and take care of children at home, and serve their husbands and parents-in-law, to working outside the home. Many women are as capable of working as men, are financially independent, and have less fear of survival. Finding a man to rely on has become less important. More and more people, especially women, believe that marriage and fertility are not "taken for granted" but are voluntary choices and a clear weighing of interests.

I have a few friends with whom I have good communication. They are the kind of people who have a lot to say when they get together and comment on each other in the circle of friends, but they don’t meet in person. I don’t know if they can be called “friends”. ". Seeing my girlfriends go shopping, drinking afternoon tea, and gossiping together, I seem to be more inclined to be alone, and I enjoy it. When I don’t have to accompany Da Zhuang, I can run alone while listening to my favorite program, listen to music while doing housework, pick my toes and read a book in a clean room, go to the gym to sweat profusely, and eat hot pot alone... The comfort of freedom.

My favorite picture book set by Da Zhuang is "Dudu and Croton". Dudu likes to travel and travels around the world. As for Croton, he likes to play with the children at their home. Dudu told Badou about the excitement of climbing mountains, and Badou said that jumping into mud puddles was also fun. Badou decorated the room, prepared delicious food and waited for Dudu to come home. Late at night, the two of them shared a room with two small beds, chatting under the warm light. This is the best form of friendship in my opinion.

Commenting on a novel is far easier than writing a short novel, evaluating a movie is far easier than making a movie, and discussing a reform in education is far more casual than proposing reform methods... …So we are all talking, and the people doing it are Liao Liao.

This is the first time I heard about this "well frog syndrome", and I agree very much. Some people believe that the success of others degrades people, and the failure of others elevates them, so they should not change when they are together in order to be gregarious.

There are also some classic sentences in the book, such as "The reason equality has become such a difficult thing is simply because we just want to be equal to our superiors", "The truth is the first casualty of war, the individual." Freedom and power are the second." "Old age is a situation that no one can understand." The truth told with malice is worse than any lie you can make up."......

When we see the prevalence of terrorism, when we have the criticized puppy love, we will only feel confused or depressed in vain, but this book can help you clear up your confusion, relieve your depression, and tell you more Many ways of the world.