Yesterday afternoon I went to pick up Tiantian and saw the children running out. Some parents had already gone in to pick her up. As usual, I stood at the gate waiting for Tiantian. Watching her walking out slowly with the teacher holding her hand, I couldn't help but sigh:

Tiantian is always so "calm". Even if she is very happy when she sees me picking her up, she will not shout "Mom" happily like other children and then rush over. She always walks slowly and arrives.

I started chatting in front of me: "Mom, we are learning a new nursery rhyme today." "Mom, look at the little sticker the teacher sent me." "Mom, I was great today. I finished all the porridge."

Maybe it's because I always stand "calmly" at the door waiting for her, instead of rushing up to pick up the child like other parents!

That's too far.

When I was sighing secretly, the teacher called me: "Tiantian's mother, come here." I walked over, and the teacher told me that Tiantian had just kneeled on the chair and accidentally fell down and cut her lip.

Only then did I realize that Tiantian’s little lip was swollen, bruised, and had a bloody streak.

I went over and hugged her and said, "Let me take a look. Well, it doesn't matter. We can just go back and apply some medicine." Tiantian said to me, "I'm great, I didn't even cry." The teacher was still explaining things.

After passing by, Tiantian said: "I accidentally fell down, not someone else who pushed me." I couldn't help but sigh in my heart: Tiantian is really a kind-hearted child. Even when she was injured, she also knew how to seek truth from facts.

Put the blame on others.

I was very distressed to hear this, but isn't this the attitude I want to see?

I disagree with either approach.

First, blaming solves nothing.

No one wants such an accident to happen. Children will not seek out their own troubles. I think most teachers are not so vicious as to want children in their own classes to get hurt.

Things have already happened. Blaming and complaining at this time will not help the matter. It will also increase the resentment between each other and will only make everyone unhappy.

At the same time, I think it is very unwise to complain about teachers in front of children.

The child is left in the kindergarten and the teacher. If an accident such as a fall occurs, the teacher must be responsible.

However, complaining about the teacher in front of children will make them learn to spend every penny and become stingy.

If parents behave reasonably in front of their children, children can learn tolerance from their parents.

Second, parents who act very distressed will only encourage their children's squeamishness and resentment.

Ordinary bumps and bruises are just minor setbacks that children will inevitably experience as they grow up. If parents make a fuss first, they will immediately give the child a psychological hint: "I was hurt seriously and it hurts." Maybe the child has stopped crying.

Seeing parents feel so distressed makes them cry when they think of the pain they just experienced.

If things go on like this, the child will feel that he cannot withstand such beatings.

If you can't even withstand such setbacks, how will you face more setbacks in the growth process in the future?

I think when a child has such a small accident in kindergarten, a more appropriate way to deal with it may be as follows: 2. Regardless of the injury, you should try your best to comfort the child and not create tension in the child.

In fact, after examination, I found that the outer injury on Tiantian's lip was not that serious. What was really serious was the inner part. An area the size of a coin was covered with purple-red congestion. It was the inner injury that made her mouth swell.

But I didn't tell her this. I just told her that it was swollen and that it would get better soon if you put some medicine on it.

When we walked out of the kindergarten, Tiantian said to me: "By the time we perform on Children's Day, my mouth will be all healed!" 3. Help the child analyze the causes of injuries and help him establish safety awareness.

For example, Tiantian's injury this time was caused by a fall while kneeling on a chair, holding the backrest with her hands, and leaning her center of gravity forward. So I helped her analyze the cause of the fall and let her know that such an action is dangerous.

Maybe she will be naughty and kneel on the chair, but at least she knows the dangers of doing so and will not do such actions easily in the future.

5. Communicate effectively with teachers.

Find an appropriate time (the most important thing is that the child is not around), discuss the child's injury with the teacher, and ask the teacher to pay more attention to the child's safety in the future.

I originally planned to find a time in the evening to call Tiantian’s teacher to talk about it, but I didn’t expect that the teacher’s text message came first: “Tiantian, is the child okay? I’m so sorry! You are so reasonable and we feel even more embarrassed.

Thank you for your understanding. It hurts to see my child’s little mouth.”

This text message illustrates two issues. First, the teacher is indeed very responsible. The child has been taken away without any conflicts or unpleasantness, but the teacher is still thinking about it. This is the sense of responsibility; second, the teacher

I know that I am responsible, so I feel embarrassed, and I will definitely pay more attention to the safety of my children in the future.