I immediately replied to a chat record, only to know that at the age of 26, she is now facing an important career choice. I don't know how to judge, it's very tangled. Please consult me.
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Stay in your hometown or go to a big city?
A career choice that may affect your life.
Xiaonan is a native of Wuhan, majoring in finance. Now she works as an accountant in a local logistics platform company. Although the company is not well-known, it has also developed vigorously, with an upper-middle salary and stable work, so don't worry too much. Mom also wants her to stay with her and have a care. Some time ago, her former supervisor went to Shanghai to start a business, and she was very optimistic about her ability. I hope she can go there too. As a first-tier city, Shanghai is developed and has many opportunities. Of course, it's good, but the business of the new company is very complicated, not only professional accountants, but also its development prospects are uncertain.
Whether to stay in Wuhan or go to Shanghai has become Xiaonan's idea for some time.
This question is very representative, and it is not easy for young people entering the society to answer this question. However, in the eyes of career planners, it is not complicated to think clearly. The key is not to give up the "possibility" in life.
Many people may have had this experience: many things seemed unsolvable at that time, but after going through this road, there are indeed many possibilities to solve them, but they are fascinated by their own vision limitations.
In view of xiaonan's problems, I helped her sort them out in combination with her actual situation. The following are excerpts and explanations of the consultation.
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The initial heart is "possible"
Ask yourself what your initial intention is first.
This question is very important! Giving up on this issue is likely to affect the happiness of the whole career.
Compromise may be one of the signs of maturity, but if you deviate from your original intention and give up your dream, it will be difficult for you to be happy. To say the least, even if we have to take some detours, we must give ourselves a convincing reason.
Sea lion: If you don't consider your mother's concern first, which one would you choose?
This problem is not to ignore it, but not to be fascinated by the problem at hand.
Xiao Nan: I still hope to have a long-term development in accounting. From the immediate point of view, stable treatment in Wuhan is also good. Considering the career planning, I don't know how to choose.
How many young people who have just entered the workplace (within three years) really know what their career ideal is? In other words, it was clear before that after entering the workplace, with more and more things I saw and experienced, I was faced with more and more choices, and I was very confused. Many people may not be able to imagine that if you suddenly ask a young man what his initial intention is, five out of ten people will be a little confused at once.
Sea lion: The career choice in the first few years after graduation from university is very important, which may directly determine the career development in the next few years. Especially in the field of vision, once the choice is wrong, the gap will be great.
Xiao Nan: I'm just worried about my future career planning. If I do this, I don't know if it will affect my future career.
Sea lion: When I was 26 years old, I had just graduated for two years, and I had a similar struggle with you. My experience is that in career choice, first-tier cities; Industries of interest, enterprises you yearn for, and temperamental leaders.
Under the current social reality, the industrial development level and vision of first-tier cities are superior to ordinary cities in most cases, so first-tier cities are the first choice. The world is big, life is wonderful and people's energy is limited. The quickest way to get ahead in the workplace is to be professional, professional and expert in a certain industry, so the industry you are interested in ranks second. Good enterprises, fierce competition and great gains. Starting from the bottom is also promising. The leader's temper is very important, but it can't be satisfied, so these two choices rank third and fourth respectively. Of course, from the perspective of career planning, it is best to focus on one field. This principle is consistent.
Xiao Nan: Shanghai is a mixed operation, so there may be more opportunities. I want to strengthen my professional study, so I'm worried. However, following the supervisor will also teach me a lot.
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We should "possibly" guard against post risks.
After clearly understanding the advantages of first-tier cities and their own advantages, the following are specific industry and enterprise issues.
Sea lion: Although there are only a few words to chat with you, frankly speaking, the work you are responsible for sounds unstable or even unreliable. When you first enter the workplace, it is better to follow a company with a good enterprise system and consistent cultural concepts, rather than following someone. Maybe after you go, you should be ready to go to a company with more room for development. Don't run away from one interpersonal relationship and fall into another.
Xiao Nan is very conscious of career planning, which is very good. But she obviously doesn't know enough about "cooperating with things" or "cooperating with people", so she must see the worst first.
Sea lion: Putting career planning on one person sounds too unreliable.
Xiao Nan: Yes, because he works by himself, the project is unstable.
Sea lion: If you like accounting in your heart, you should strengthen your study in this field after going to Shanghai, and you can return to your major when you have the opportunity.
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Family and work are "possible"
After having a clear understanding of the risks of job opportunities in Shanghai, Xiaonan came back to help her sort out her mother's worries.
Sea lion: Judging from your age, your mother may not be too old. Give yourself a deadline, for example, to live your life the way you like before you are 30 or 35. If Shanghai can do well, it is no problem to go back to Wuhan. A stable family and a comfortable environment can be considered later.
However, I understand your family better. Girls will probably go outside, and if they get married, they will never go home again.
Xiao Nan: I was just thinking about this. I'm afraid she'll worry and think I'm unstable and uncertain. Then what should I do?
Sea lion: Worry is inevitable, and so is my mother. After going out, you should come through thick and thin, know yourself and know yourself, and be mentally prepared no matter what grievances you encounter. Treat every grievance as growth, and do every conversation with your mother in the future with a growing mind. Slowly, she will be proud of you and relieved. When there is an opportunity in the future, let her know that you have a plan with her, and it is very important to have this plan in your heart.
Xiao Nan: That's good. But how can I guarantee the future?
Sea lion: Be sure to communicate with your mother well, and don't let her think you are cruel. It's easy to think of this when people are old. Let your mother know that you will be happy to do what you like. After planning, you must reunite with your mother not far away. The reality is that more people stay at home and lose the courage to go out, instead of going further and losing the ability to take care of their families.
Many times, the entanglement of newcomers in the workplace comes from their beautiful dreams of their careers and their heavy worries about reality. In fact, this is unnecessary, and many things should be viewed from the perspective of development. Some seemingly difficult problems may not be problems at some point in the future. It is important to remember this string, always pay attention to the opportunity to solve it and make plans in advance.
Later, I told Xiao Nan about my first experience in the workplace. Peony seriously considered it. Replied to me the next day:
After talking to my supervisor again, I decided to go back to Shanghai. However, what I decided to do this time may be a little off the road of finance, because what I did was related to finance, but not all of it. I want to learn more from him.
I'm glad Xiao Nan made his own choice.
In a word, faced with the career choice of staying at home or going to a big city, how should we choose?
First of all, ask yourself what your initial heart is. Doing what you like is the best career, and this truth will never change. Don't give up the possibility of doing the career you are interested in easily for any reason.
Second, clearly identify occupational risks. Cities, industries and jobs may be difficult to satisfy at some point, but don't go with the flow easily. Remember: most occupational risks can be prevented and controlled.
Third, handle the contradiction between family and career. I have met too many "winners" who think it is sometimes difficult to balance the two, especially in time and distance. That's right! Therefore, it is more necessary to plan ahead and consider it comprehensively. There are countless possibilities for a wonderful life. If you believe in beauty, flowers will bloom.