how to chat when two people just met? We say that two people have just met, so if you want to keep in touch with a girl, then you must be proactive, so how can you keep in touch with her? 1, we should be proactive, because men are generally more proactive, women are more passive, so if you want to keep in touch with him, you must be proactive. 2. You can add her WeChat and chat with WeChat, which is also a way to keep in touch. 3, or the way you contact may be by phone, then the phone is communicated by voice, which can enhance the feelings between two people. 4. You can often ask her out to meet, such as watching movies and drinking coffee. If you are thick-skinned, you can go to her house to play, because at this time, if you have decided to marry her, you can go. 5, you can invite two or three friends to come out together, so that two people will not be embarrassed when they meet, and they will be easy to contact. 6. You can ask friends around him to make suggestions, so that you can also have a good helper and ask him when you encounter any problems. What to talk about when you meet a girl for the first time? Talk about each other's hobbies: Hobbies are a good topic as the opening remarks. Hobbies can be talked for a long time, so that you won't be cold at the beginning. Hobbies can include many aspects, such as movies that have been shown recently, ball games, singing, dancing, climbing mountains, fitness and so on. 2. What are you busy with recently? You can talk about your recent life, such as what you did this weekend, where you traveled last month, etc., and share your past life with her. 3. Tell some things about friends around you: You can also talk about some interesting things about friends around you, which can show that you have many friends, your popularity is good, and the other person's impression of you will be even better. 4. What books do you like to read: You can also discuss what books you like to read, which can show that you are a person who pays great attention to culture and accumulation, and you can also see her character from the books she reads. 5. Where do you like to travel? Travel is also a very good topic. Talk about the places you want to go to each other. You can make an appointment and travel together. You can check some travel guides in advance to avoid talking about what to say. 6. What you like to eat: Nowadays, many people are foodies. Talking about what they eat can help two people quickly find the same language. Talk about the newly opened snack bar with your local characteristics, and it will definitely be heard. How to make yourself chat? First of all, how to make yourself chat is not something to talk about. We should put our efforts into practice and master some key skills. Pay attention to being easy-going when talking to people at ordinary times, and speak slowly, at least so that others can hear their own expression clearly. 2. Don't be distracted when chatting with others. Many people in life give people an arrogant impression, mainly because when communicating with them, their minds are not on the chat, they always ask a question for a long time before answering it, and some even keep silent. This is a very impolite attitude and makes people feel very uncomfortable. 3. In the process of chatting, you should understand each other's meaning, deeply understand what the other person wants to express, such as whether to tell you, share or give you advice, respond with different attitudes to different situations, and never throw a pot of cold water on others when they share happiness with you. 4, looking for * * * the same topic, some people have different personalities, some people come from different backgrounds, when people communicate, there will be some situations that can't be talked about together. In this case, we should look for the same hobbies or experiences in two different lives, otherwise it is really difficult to continue the chat. 5. Chatting is not only about verbal communication, but also about psychological * * *. Sometimes, when others tell you their own things, you should give a timely response, and you can also express your own thoughts on the matter, and when two people communicate together, they should have eye contact to make the chat more enjoyable. 6, chat also pay attention to skills, especially online chat, there is no eye contact between each other, relying on words alone, if there is no skill, you will chat to death, especially the two people who just started at the object, when chatting, you must start different chat modes according to each person's personality characteristics, and remember not to blindly explore a person's privacy, nor just to comment on others. What topic to chat with girls? The coming weekend is a good conversation. There are always things to be busy on weekends. You can ask the girl what to do on weekends. If she doesn't have any plans, you can also invite her to have tea, chat and watch movies on weekends. 2. Things about study (or work) will be more convenient if you are classmates or colleagues. Some interesting things in your school and the new tasks assigned by your boss can be used to start a conversation, and it is not easy to have a sense of distance, so it is easy to narrow the distance between two people. 3. Friends around you, if you two have friends you know, or this friend is the one you know, you might as well discuss your friends around you. They have done something interesting recently, and the chat atmosphere will become more pleasant. 4, hobbies, if you really don't know what to say to girls, you can start with hobbies, not just your hobbies, I think you'd better start with girls' hobbies. You've been chatting for so long, and you've known each other for a while. You must know what she likes. In the time outside of chatting, you can spend more time to get to know it yourself, and you will gain more. 5. Talking about some of her favorite stars is usually something girls do with each other. Of course, sometimes we can use it, especially for some major entertainment events, especially when something happens to a girl's favorite star. Be sure to tell her about the interesting things that happened during the day. If you chat at night, especially before going to sleep, you might as well talk about some interesting things that happened during the day, no matter what. The two just know how to chat. 2. Expression Opening This is the most direct, common and simple opening way, and it can also evaluate the window size of life content displayed by girls in your circle of friends. The dog's head expression that my students usually use most often comes with a frame. This is neither abrupt nor boring, and it is the most practical way for novices who can't chat. However, the disadvantage is that the attraction of the opening expression is definitely not enough. It is necessary to formulate the future strategy according to the girl's reply after you send the expression, which is a high test for social intuition. Second, the opening of the expression pack The opening of the expression pack is most suitable for girls under the age of 25 and some mobile games and secondary circles, because the most enjoyable thing for such girls is to fight with each other and chat with the expression pack. You throw an expression pack in the past, OK, the other party immediately has a sense of intimacy, and then begins to return to you, so the love story begins. What needs to be noted here is that Xiaobai, who is not strong enough, should never be self-righteous and send an expression pack with information related to "sexual suggestion". Third, what is the first thing that you add to each other's WeChat at the beginning of the photo? There is no doubt that it is to turn over the other person's circle of friends, so we can choose a picture of a girl's circle of friends to suppress or * * *, for example, a picture of eating, and we can * * * for this, "I have been to this house, and it tastes good, but XXX tastes better", and if we suppress it, we can choose a girl's selfie "You are too thin" and "You look like a snack" and so on. After that, you can send a photo of yourself, such as a photo in the coffee shop in the afternoon. At this time, you can choose to say clearly what you are doing, and it is best not to say it. If the other party replies to you, it means that she is already interested in you. It is a good IOI test. Of course, it can also be a photo of food, a photo of pets, etc. In short, it is to use photos to find topics and achieve the goal of value exchange. However, it should be noted that sending photos of girls can be. But the choice of 91% is to suppress, never kneel down, such as "how beautiful, where was it taken", which is the most basic frame problem. As for whether you understand what the frame is, you can't hold it here. Fourth, guide the interest. Simply put, it is to raise a topic that interests her at the opening, such as "I will tell you a secret for the sake of your passing so quickly", regardless of whether she is interested in you or not, but she must follow what you said and ask, thus starting a chat. Don't ask me why, girls are naturally curious creatures. What needs to be noted here is that if you can't chat, don't use this method at the beginning, because if you set this as the first link of the trap, then you can't set the next game well, which is tantamount to shooting yourself in the foot, which requires you to have a basis for chatting at ordinary times. 5. Self-invited opening can be used by both Bai and Da Ren, and it works well. For example, "Women's Federation 4 will be shown soon, so it's a good chicken jelly" and "Berry Bros. & Rudd has recently opened a new network, so you must go and play when you have time". Simply put, it means chatting with each other as if they are friends you already know, not strangers you just met. Doing so can reduce her vigilance against you as much as possible in a short time, and it is easy for you to create a harmonious chat atmosphere, and then chatting is much easier. It should be noted that a very small number of girls have a strong vigilance and a thick protective cover, and they will resent this way. The emotional circuit of the other party will subjectively judge that "he wants to hit on me", and the reply at this time may be "Do I know you well?" Haha, it doesn't matter. Bubble learning is born to solve intractable diseases. You can reply to her, "Do you want to be familiar now? I thought friends are familiar from strangers. They just know how to chat. 3 Phonetic skills When you first add to the boy's WeChat, especially for the friends who have never met, the words and pictures on WeChat are actually very cold, and there is no way to give the other person a sense of reality. Only the voice can reflect a more authentic self. Therefore, the usage of the "Phonetic Rule" is: When you add to a new WeChat friend, one sentence must be phonetic in the first three sentences of the initial conversation. Casual chat method Many people who can't chat like to type out all the words they want to say, and then send them to him in more than two lines. But chatting is a very emotional thing. If you send him such a long paragraph of text, it is difficult for him to be interested in reading it if it is not about communication. Because people nowadays are really lazier than dogs, the people who advertise in the WeChat group are also a lot of words. In addition, when chatting, it will affect immediacy. Typing takes a certain time. When you type for a long time, his attention and emotions have long been dispersed. Therefore, when chatting, you should learn to split sentences and try not to exceed 1 lines in each sentence. For example: I just got off work, I'm going to grab a bite to eat, and then I'll go to my friend's to talk about the studio. In this way, you can send it to him in three messages, which will make face-to-face communication more immediate and situational and will not destroy the atmosphere of chat. Of course, if you are chatting with a friend about something that needs a certain length of communication, don't send it in a single sentence, or it will be terrible if the other party opens your dialog box and shows 18 unread messages. Co-frequency skill "Co-frequency skill" refers to keeping the time interval between messages sent by the other party and the number of messages sent continuously as much as possible during the chat, so that you will invisibly enhance the communication after text expression and greatly enhance his willingness to chat with you. Consistency of time means that if the other party often sends him a message and he doesn't reply to you until more than 11 minutes later, then even if you see his reply at the first time, don't respond to him immediately, but you can reply again within 5-11 minutes. The purpose of this is not to punish the speed of his reply to you, but if you don't say something inappropriate, if the other party is slow to reply to you, there must be a reason. Maybe he is busy with the work at hand, may be in a meeting, may be with other people ... At this time, you must know how to slow down the frequency of chatting, which will naturally not give the other party too much pressure and will not expose your sense of need. If the number of messages is the same, you will find that if the proportion of the green dialog box and the white dialog box in the chat interface is obviously unbalanced, you will feel that the person with a small proportion does not want to talk, or that the person with a large proportion is too demanding, so the balance of social interaction is lost at this time. It's the same when you chat with a boy. If he sends you three messages and you only reply to zero, he will probably think that you don't really want to chat with him, and you haven't given enough response, so if this is the case often, he will slowly stop talking to you.