Love needs to be maintained, of course it is necessary. Because Valentine’s Day has a sense of ritual, you can remember the touch of that moment, remember the words you said and the places you visited that day, remember the breeze and sunshine that day, that day The clothes you wore, and the light in his eyes when he stared at you. Of course, the sense of ritual in marriage does not necessarily have to be created through anniversaries and Valentine's Day. In the early days of love, the parents didn’t know what Valentine’s Day was, but they might always remember to get a basin of water for each other’s feet at night; some couples never celebrate Valentine’s Day, but they might definitely do it every time before going out and as soon as they get home. Give the other person a kiss first. What matters is not the holiday itself, but how you treat life and each other with your heart. Whether it is Valentine's Day, anniversaries, or expressions of love in daily life, all of them reveal people's sense of ritual in love, their importance to each other, their cherishment of marriage, and their love for life itself. Finally, please believe that the rituals you have carefully arranged for your marriage have not evaporated out of thin air, but have silently infiltrated your marriage, making your marriage more radiant with the texture and light of happiness as the years go by. Rather than just leaving a pile of chicken feathers. And because of this intention and interest, your life retains a freshness and softness that is enough to resist the ruthless invasion of the soul by time. The bank of marriage, do you save more or withdraw more? An analogy I often give to my friends who come for marriage counseling is, if you treat marriage as a bank account, look at your account. How much have you actively saved, how much have you withdrawn along the way, and how much is left now? The unforgettable feelings in love and the excitement of each other's souls are a big savings; the many romantic little details in love are many small savings; a carefully planned wedding is savings; a beautiful two people Traveling is saving; caring carefully when you are sick is saving; never leaving when you encounter misfortune is saving; being considerate and tolerant to each other after marriage is saving; and the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and children's education issues after marriage is time and time again. Emotional withdrawal; when the wife gives birth to the child, the husband does not come back to accompany her, it is a withdrawal; when the husband complains about work and entertainment, it is a withdrawal; when he works more and spends less time with his family, it is a withdrawal; when one party bears the hard work of raising a child alone, it is a withdrawal; once Mentioning the quarrel over divorce is a big withdrawal; long-term indifference or no sex life is a withdrawal; always refusing to change oneself, but always expecting the other party to change is a lot of silent withdrawals... If you are concerned about your marital status If they are honest enough, many people will be surprised to find that their marital accounts are being consumed rapidly, and they are even overdrawn. ——This is probably the case for those marriages that seem to be stable and have no major problems, but suddenly fall apart one day.