Meng Yun and Jia Lin spit on each other with their brothers and girlfriends at the same time and in different ways.

One said that men are not easy, they are busy in the workplace during the day and have to be courted in love at night;

One said that a woman was too wronged, and she worked hard and endured hardships with him, only to see the young birds gone forever and the candles turned to ashes and tears every night.

each party is well-founded, eloquent and in the same boat, but it is rare to reach an agreement on the reasons for recalling the breakup-"forgetting".

when I heard this, I had a hunch that their seemingly angry breakup would "get what they want" in nine cases out of ten.

The more you feel that you have mastered the truth, the less you will understand each other, and the less things you can achieve to understand and unite each other. Unless someone takes the initiative to turn back, they will definitely go further and further.

They don't remember the reasons for breaking up, but they just refuse to admit their mistakes and let it go, which shows that they are too lazy to have such a fierce communication method as "quarrel", which is the most fatal thing.

they have a deep grudge.

maybe it's because of countless quarrels.

The solution to the quarrel is always that Meng Yun "will be coaxed in two hours" and Jia Lin (people who basically rely on self-regulation in quarreling say that love is useless).

maybe it's because of those self-pity nights. Meng Yun chose to start a business after graduation, and overtime was the norm. In the early days, he often worked overtime all night.

maybe it's because of those promises that never keep. We agreed to buy a puppy when we changed houses, a cinema on Tuesdays, and a vacation in Dolphin Bay ... There was no explanation, no appeasement, no apology, and no satisfaction.

So Lin Jia became more and more insecure.

She was fearless and fully supported Meng Yun. However, there is no end to waiting, and the other person's eyes are still only career, and the occasional sweet words are only used to slap the face.

she urgently needs verification.

She needs Meng Yun's careful company, full of thoughts and surprises, and even the final breakup, she is exploring.

"If you really love me, you will keep me."

but maybe the other person is eager?

At that moment, it suddenly occurred to me that men and children have something in common: they are willing to do something because it is fun and interesting. Once they feel bored and miserable, they will try to escape and give up.

In this relationship, with the increase of age and the long-term accumulation of unsatisfied psychological needs, Jia Lin wants a sense of security more and more, but the way to fight for it is stupid. Repeatedly, Meng Yun feels that it is conducive to being free and unhappy.

in order to restore the happy running in the free world, he doesn't mind breaking up.

even if there is a clank oath, even if the other party has fully supported it ... it's no use.

Love is so realistic, because human nature is realistic.

"Everyone is waiting for the other party to let go first", which means Meng Yun, not Jia Lin.

Therefore, he turned a blind eye to the hint that Jia Lin was pushing a suitcase through the living room, the one-second pause to lock the door before going out, and the new address, and did not actively abandon it or actively retain it.

Like most couples, there may be an active party at the beginning of a relationship, but interaction and maintenance are actually mutual. Regrettably, in the emotional crisis stage, both of them failed to handle it.

the first stage, quarreling.

Many men are evasive. "Can't I afford to hide if I can't be provoked?" Leave it, and it will be quiet; There are also extremes, which are indiscriminate. "I am wrong, my wife is right."

at first glance, the latter is worth advocating, but in fact it is to quench thirst by drinking poison.

First, no one wants to deny himself all his life. Second, the way of apologizing and coaxing is harmful to the improvement of the quality of the relationship, because it does not solve the fundamental problem, but only mediates the contradiction.

The low-level "quarrel" is that one only talks but doesn't listen, and the other only listens and doesn't talk, so they can't quarrel. Or point the needle at the wheat awn, simply vent your emotions and show your breath quickly.

the high-level "quarrel" is to express and clarify each other's true feelings, ideas and needs by revealing problems, and then reflect and improve on each other, so that the relationship will move towards a bright road.

Jia Lin's way is to "hold back" and then "do" to attract attention by quarreling; Meng Yun's handling method is "coax", and then there is no then.

She can't see that she needs to be more independent and grow up; He doesn't understand, it is in "for * * * with a better life" hard work, why in exchange for accusations and complaints?

the second stage, cold war 1-pure cold war.

At this stage, Meng Yun and Jia Lin have different mentalities, one is slightly sentimental but quickly devoted to the enjoyment of single life; A trance is out of control, and I expect the boy I love to come quickly.

if we get back together at this time, we can conclude that we will make the same mistake again soon. Even if you get married, you will get into trouble sooner or later.

cold war 2-each has its own reflection.

Jia Lin's holiday alone is a criterion for her growth. After she came back, she was in good condition and reflected. Badon min also realized that he didn't spend enough time with Jia Lin.

congratulations! The two people's understanding finally shared the same frequency, and the value of breaking up appeared.

if we get back together at this time, there is no doubt that we should answer that sentence-a bright future will bring forth another village.

unfortunately, no one is the only passenger on the train of love. Get off the bus and get distracted, and a new person will come.

Look at their performance again:

Jia Lin saw Zi Wang, who was enthusiastic and generous, surrender voluntarily. "I don't feel threatened at all by the photos of other women, because they don't understand him. But she is different. The fearless eyes in her eyes are very much like me before. I can't love as before ... "

Meng Yun, who has let go of the attitude of breaking up, is like a monkey who was burnt several times to get a chestnut from the fire. Although he is rare in food, he has a deep memory of pain and refuses to make a move easily.

I finally decided to throw caution to the wind, and I bumped into Jia Lin's spare tire.

so the bet is a foregone conclusion.

regret it? Regret, not regret.

five years of youth, five years of caring for each other, from beginning to end, I would rather suffer and endure, but I don't have the courage to honestly face my heart and the needs of the other party.

"One person for life", who hasn't looked forward to it? But it is not easier to gain a happy love than to succeed in your career.

Like success, love is perfect, or it depends on talent-the two souls fit together and hit it off at first sight;

Either learn and understand that psychological needs depend on self-satisfaction. On this basis, we can express and satisfy each other's inner needs in good faith and play happily together.

Qiudong Zheng and Roy in The Hunting Ground have been on and off several times by mistake, and finally they have achieved their careers and completed their love. The reason is that, although they are objectively separated, their love for each other has always been there, and the other is that after some events, both sides are growing. She worships him for "always creating miracles", and he is amazed at the grounding gas of her "goddess" becoming "female nerve".

I remember that there was a topic discussion, "Should the man who cheated on me forgive him?" The reference standard is whether you love him or not, and whether he is worthy of love or not.

If you think about it, conflicts are not terrible, even mistakes can be forgiven. For love, the most important thing is to love each other and be willing to love.

Meng Yun doesn't love it after all.

since he remembers that if he broke up and pretended to be the supreme treasure and shouted "I love you" in a crowded street, he should remember that Lin Jiahui "died of eating mango allergy". Why didn't he rush into Lin Jiahui's house with tears streaming down his face and pretend to be infatuated to confirm her safety?

even if you don't love it, saving a life is better than building a seven-level pagoda, which is much more valuable than COSP's supreme treasure.

Finally, I want to talk about Jia Lin girls.

should I say that her sense of security is high or low? If the sense of security is low, why not marry apart from companionship? If the sense of security is high, marriage and property don't matter, why is it always delicate and touching and timid in love?

So that after breaking up, the career of "living together for * * *" is still his career and becomes sexy in the eyes of young and beautiful girls; Being a good logistical support, she suddenly ran out of money and people, and the person she chose again was a high school classmate who couldn't compare with badon min in terms of money and appearance.

To sum up the feelings of watching movies:

Conclusion 1. Never give up your job for love and grow yourself.

conclusion 2. leaving in a big way is mostly a temptation, and the real departure is silent.

conclusion 3. when breaking up, every unhappiness is a helper.

conclusion 4. love is not easy, and it is done and cherished.