This time I want to talk about my views on relationships.

In the relationship between two people, I prefer each other to be tolerant and considerate, to be able to listen and to talk, to be able to give the other person a hug and a shoulder when they need it. There can be conflicts, but non-violent communication is required afterwards, and both people can support each other.

instead of placing most of the responsibility on one person.

Cleaning requires two people to work together. If one of them is temporarily unable to clean, the other can help temporarily, but it will not always be done by one person.

Two people can go out for an outing on weekends and stay together quietly without feeling bored.

In addition to talking about trivial matters in life, the two people also talk about ideals and life.

Two people can study and participate in activities together, or they can study and participate in activities separately, and they can have their own small circle.

If one person wants to be alone, the other will give them time and space to be alone.

Two people can put part of their money together and use it for financial investment and daily living expenses. Each can also keep part of the money as their own "small treasury". You don't have to let the other party know how to spend it.

I believe that in addition to the initial sexual impulse, feelings also require subsequent rational maintenance and cultivation.

Both parties need to pay for this relationship, including money, emotion, time, and energy, not just one aspect.

Even if there is a conflict, if it does not involve serious discord in three views, both parties must believe that it can be resolved through communication and tolerance. In other words, both parties must have an emotional growth mindset.

Teacher Li Xinpin said that the best way to treat love is not to be anxious when you are single and not to complain when you are in love.

I am not very anxious about my status as a single mother and child for more than 20 years. I just occasionally envy others who can order more food for two people. However, I feel that my attitude towards love is not very healthy because I am worried that my partner is not interested in me.

A kind of constraint. When I want to go somewhere alone, I have to consider whether I should take the other person with me. If I don't take the other person with me, will the other person be unhappy or something.

Maybe it's because I'm used to being alone, so I feel uncertain about living with one more person.

In addition, my ideal relationship is for two people to be tolerant and considerate of each other, but I don't seem to be that considerate of others. I haven't been considerate of others, so how can I ask others to be considerate of me?

So not reaching the ideal standard is one of the reasons why I hesitate to fall in love.

And for me, if the opposite sex is too close, whether physically or mentally, it will give me a sense of crisis, so I will subconsciously isolate a certain distance, let alone develop an intimate relationship with the opposite sex.

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Fortunately, I have discovered that this is a Trojan horse program in my subconscious, so whether I want to get rid of it depends on whether I am willing.