Wen/Shen Liu

At noon, Wang Xiansen and I are preparing lunch in the kitchen. I pick vegetables, wash vegetables, cut vegetables, prepare dishes, and do all kinds of chores. Wang Xiansen's family is a chef who cooks and cooks, and men and women are not tired of working together. My friends all say that Wang Xiansen's "chef" is my boast. If we are not good at cooking, we have to be sweet, otherwise how can we sit back and enjoy the delicious food! There is no such thing as a free meal!

"Mom, you eat melon seeds!" My youngest son slipped into the kitchen with a "whoosh" on his roller skates, and handed me the melon seeds peeled from a small nest.

"thank you, smiley face treasure! Tell me, how can mom be so happy! Have a filial and sensible son! " I stretched out my hand while boasting, and asked him to pour the melon seeds in the small hand nest into my palm.

I left half of it in his hand, kissed his forehead and said to him in a low voice, "Give this to your father!" "

"Dad, here you go!" The son felt his "eccentricity".

Wang Xiansen, who is cooking, said, "I'm busy at the moment! You eat! "

I quickly helped my bewildered son out: "Dad is busy! If you can't make a move, then you can put the melon seeds in his mouth! "

Wang Xiansen suddenly realized something, and quickly bent down, swallowed the melon seeds in his son's small hand and sucked them into his mouth, pretending to enjoy himself. My son slipped away happily.

Wang Xiansen said with a little jealousy, "My son is closer to my mother!"

he is quite sensitive, so we have to enlighten him! So I told Wang Xiansen the story of "having a taste".

In 1951s and 1961s, my parents were both engaged in education, and they were usually busy. My brothers and sisters were taken care of by my grandmother when they were children.

New China was in a state of great need, and the material was scarce. Coupled with the natural disaster in 1961, food was scarce, and the people were struggling. At that time, many families in the Central Plains region fled for food.

Our family is even in short supply of food. The old and the young are small, and no one earns any work. Only my parents' salary can't change much food. My brother and sister are growing up, and as the saying goes, "Small boys eat poor old men". Adults and children can't have a full meal.

A clever woman can't cook without rice. Seeing that the children are as hungry as wolves, in order to let her grandchildren eat more, grandma is reluctant to roll a bun for herself every time she makes pancakes. She often sprinkles some salt in boiled water, puts some peppers in it, drinks water to satisfy her hunger, and doesn't even have enough porridge. This is her "delicious food".

When people are iron rice and steel, and they are really flustered by hunger, grandma will take a bite at the edge of the steamed bun without rolling vegetables when she rolls steamed buns for her grandchildren. Usually, at this time, sensible brothers and sisters will hold their own steamed buns and strive to let grandma "have a taste".

Elder brothers and sisters have gradually developed the habit of letting grandma have a taste first and know how to share.

when I was born, grandma had already driven the crane to the west. However, my mother inherited grandma's parenting method, and every time she rolled a steamed bun for me, she would take a bite first, so I also developed the habit of eating and sharing it with my parents first.

When I became a mother, my mother taught me to "have a taste" before giving the child something to eat. I naturally inherited this parenting method. Of course, I gave myself a share first, instead of taking a bite on the child's food directly. Modern people pay more attention to scientific and hygienic feeding.

I haven't deliberately understood the meaning of "tasting" for many years, but I have passed it on imperceptibly. It was not until I met several things later that I really understood the wisdom and truth of "tasting".

I remember taking my daughter to a buffet once when she was five or six years old. She is short and short, so she can't help herself. I followed her to help and found that all the food she asked me to take was my favorite.

when sitting down to eat, my daughter is very good at taking care of people, taking food from the dinner plate and putting it on my plate. I didn't tell her, but she knew what I like to eat, and my heart melted in an instant. What a sweet little cotton-padded jacket!

I think this may be the habit of "tasting", which made my daughter observe my eating preferences.

There is also a beautiful little girl at the next table, about the same size as her daughter. She sat at the table with her mother, waiting for her father to take the meal back.

Dad brought prawns, ice cream and all kinds of fruits, all of which children probably like to eat. The little girl was so happy that she wanted to scoop all the dishes into her arms.

Dad said, "Good boy, this is a buffet. Dad and Mom will eat it together, and then we will pick it up after eating."

The little girl even said, "No, no! These are all my favorite foods, all mine. "

Dad tried to convince the little girl, but her mother said impatiently, "Hey! Then let her eat! Why don't you go get some more? " So their tables were full of food.

Comparing two children of the same age, the performance is completely different. It doesn't mean that my daughter is better than others' children, and different parenting styles have cultivated children with different temperament and personality.

One Spring Festival, a large number of coconut fruits came into the supermarket at the gate. We are located in the Central Plains, and many children have never seen the real coconut. Since the convenience of logistics, there are all kinds of exotic foods and fresh fruits in the supermarket.

Because I was afraid of cold, I only bought two for my son and daughter to drink, but the daughter asked the salesgirl for an extra straw and asked me to taste it. My son also shouted, "Mom, try mine." Coconut juice is cold and refreshing, with a faint fragrance.

Back in the community, I met my neighbor Xiaomi's mother, who also bought a coconut for three-year-old Xiaomi. I was chatting with Xiaomi's mother, and the children were drinking coconut juice and talking about coconut stories.

We took our children to travel to the south and drank fresh coconut juice. Xiaomi, it's the first time for her to drink fresh coconut milk. After drinking a few mouthfuls, she handed it to her mother, saying that coconut milk was too bad to drink. My children said it was delicious.

Mama Xiaomi took the coconut and waved it. There was still a lot in it, but it was a pity to lose it. But as soon as she took a sip, she quickly threw up. It turned out that the coconut juice had gone bad, so she immediately took Xiaomi back to the supermarket to theorize.

at that time, I realized that it was really necessary to have a taste! Children are younger, they can't taste the real taste of food. When we adults have a taste, we are actually helping our children to control the quality of food.

I remember reading a report: two sisters-in-law, sister-in-law gave birth to a girl, and sister-in-law gave birth to a man. My mother-in-law has a serious preference for sons, and she doesn't like her little granddaughter. My sister-in-law also talks about giving birth to a son by herself. The eldest daughter-in-law is resentful because her daughter has been treated unfairly.

The eldest daughter-in-law blinded by resentment lost her mind in order to get back at her mother-in-law and sister-in-law. She reached out to her little nephew. She heard that infants can't eat salt, so she continued to sprinkle salt in their milk powder.

After drinking salted milk powder for three months, the child developed severe renal failure. This hateful behavior of the eldest daughter-in-law has violated the law and is naturally punished by the law.

But for the newborn baby, I drank salted milk powder for three months. I think during this period, if you are feeding people and can "taste" the baby's milk powder with your mouth, the tragedy will definitely not happen.

A taste of wisdom: It can not only help children to control the quality of good food, but also help children to form a good habit of not eating alone, thinking of others and knowing how to share.

Now, back to my family Wang Xiansen's question, why can't the children remember to share delicious food with him?

when the child gave him candy, he said: I don't like candy, it's too sweet!

when the child gave him an apple to eat, he said, I don't like cold fruit, I drink hot tea.

When the child gave him chocolate to eat, he said: I'm smoking, I don't eat ...

In this way, after being rejected again and again, the child formed a consciousness that if I shared something delicious with my father, he wouldn't eat it, so he lost interest in sharing it. I slowly forgot to share it with my father.

There is another phenomenon. We often meet some adults who tease children like this: See if a child has food in his hand, and then test whether the child is "stingy".

"Baby, let's have a taste of your cookies!" Naive children will naturally reach out and give it to adults to eat. The adult shook his head with satisfaction and said, "You eat! I don't eat. "

after this test several times, the child will not be given food. Adults also say that children are stingy, but in fact, adults have forced their children to be stingy.

As our parents, when children share with you, you should catch them even if you don't eat them, and be kind to them in time and affirm their behavior. Tell the child: I'll put it away first and eat it when I come back. Because what you refuse is not the food itself, but the love and care of your children.