A friend said this when discussing the topic of borrowing money with me.

I felt very puzzled at that time. Isn't it because I am short of money that I borrow money from others? Who is not short of money, who is willing to put down his body and risk being looked down upon and rejected to borrow it? In my opinion, the reason behind "borrowing money" should be poor cash flow caused by car loans, mortgages, illness and so on.

I have few friends who buy cars and houses at my age. Generally, borrowing money from me is more serious-my family is sick. In this case, I try my best to help.

Until later, people gradually borrowed money in ways and reasons that I couldn't understand. I finally understand what my friend said, "Some people borrow money from you just to ask you for some money to spend."

Haozi is my primary school classmate. We were childhood friends until junior high school. After high school, we were busy studying and reduced contact. Later, after I went to college, I had less contact. By chance, he contacted me again, and I realized that he had not been admitted to the university, so I went out to work, engaged in the sales industry, and added me to WeChat.

Through his circle of friends, I learned that Hiroko's job is unstable. Sometimes this month is the promotion of this gym, and next month is the promotion of another company. Occasionally, he also tells me that life is too hard to mix well. Hadron, who had made good friends with us before, deleted his WeChat.

I comforted him that as long as we work hard, we will have a bright future. Maybe Hadron accidentally deleted it wrong. Hiroko responded to me like chicken blood. "Yes, as long as I work hard, I don't believe that I can't make money."

After a period of silence, suddenly one day, he sent a message on WeChat-"Xiao An, are you there?" After I responded, Hiroko began to go straight to the point. "Lend me 300 yuan. I am short of money recently."

At that time, I was still in college and my living expenses were not much. I really can't take it out. So I declined and explained the situation. He didn't return my message. I feel a little guilty. After all, I can't help Maybe he's in a hurry.

The next morning, he exposed a video of drinking and playing cards with friends in KTV all night in a circle of friends, with the text-buddy, be strong tomorrow, and the day when you are drunk today, which is really a top match.

I looked through Hiroko's circle of friends. He hasn't sent out a propaganda message for a long time. Instead, I come to a banquet every few nights and wake up drunk with "chicken soup for the soul" the next day, occasionally asking for money. "The recent turnover is ineffective. Which brother lends some money to my brother for turnover? " The picture is the receipt code of his WeChat.

I suddenly feel that I don't know this man. The once high-spirited teenager is gone.

Later, Hiroko took the initiative to find me. "Borrow a hundred dollars, I am short of money." I take this opportunity to express my sympathy for his work. He said he was too unlucky to do anything and his salary was low. He hasn't been to work for half a year. Young people should find the right direction and talents. These chicken soups that sound fine make me feel very uncomfortable.

Of course, I didn't agree to borrow it this time. At that time, I had already come out to work, and it was ok to lend 100 yuan. But I don't want to encourage him to be lazy and get something for nothing by lending him money.

Life is really bitter. In order to survive, many people have to go through various hardships. When I was in college, my classmate Xiaoya came from a poor family. Even if the poor students are exempted from some tuition fees, her living expenses are very small. At first, Xiaoya went to school while working. She only eats two meals a day. To save money, she never eats breakfast. Later, I worked part-time before breakfast every day to earn some money.

Even now, she has been working outside for nearly a year, and she still maintains the quality of thrift. Poverty is not the most terrible thing. The most terrible thing is that you are still lazy, always trying to get something for nothing and living a frenzied life.

Even if it is really difficult to borrow money from friends in life, you should first make yourself a helpful, diligent, enterprising and purposeful friend. Otherwise, from a friend's point of view, I don't want to hurt you. In terms of money, you have no job. What if you don't succeed?

These considerations are human nature. No one wants to watch their friends fall, no one wants to think that the help they give is harmful to their friends, and no one wants to pay well without falling behind.

After I refused, Hiroko asked me to push Hadron's WeChat to him. I said wechat has no hadron. In fact, I have been in contact with Hadron, and Hadron told me that I feel different from Hiroko. Hadron didn't say anything about it, and I didn't ask in detail. But now, I probably know why.

In recent months, the epidemic has had a great impact on the economy. For most people, not going to work means no income, and I am one of them. Life problems in this period can only be alleviated by previous accumulation.

Of course, I also understand that there are middle-aged people, car loans and mortgages, and living expenses for children and the elderly. It is not that I don't want to save money, but I can't save it.

However, as a young man who has worked in the society for several years, I think he should be able to resist risks economically without other changes.

A few days ago, my classmate Xiao Tao sent a message asking me to borrow money. "Ann, I want to do some shopping. I want to borrow a few hundred dollars. I have just returned to work for less than a month and don't have enough money to buy rent and water and electricity. "

I refused. First of all, Xiao Tao has been working for four years, so have his parents, and he is in good health. He has not bought a house or a car for the time being, so it can be said that the family burden is not so heavy. And I, in fact, have only been working for less than eight months. Moreover, as an adult, if you want to buy something you like, you must do what you can.

Sorry, I'm just an ordinary person. I really can't live frugally in order to make myself have enough ability to withstand the storms of life. I lent money to a man who usually doesn't know how to be frugal, but now he borrows money to improve his quality of life.

I read a lot of articles, which are basically examples of borrowing money and finally hurting feelings. In fact, this is also one of the issues that need to be considered.

Alas, talking about money hurts feelings and you have to bow and scrape. You owe others, and you have a burden in your heart. Why? Work hard, don't bother others, don't embarrass others. Be a diligent, motivated and purposeful person.