However, I can accept my son's eating state.
Once I was talking to my son about the speed of eating. My son said, "Mom, do you know? I am at school, I listen carefully in class, and I have to rush to do my homework after class, otherwise I won't have a chance to go outdoors and play with my classmates if I can't finish it at noon. "
"And during lunch and recess, because many people are afraid of noise, the teacher won't let everyone talk, so I especially want to relax after school."
"But I have to finish my homework as soon as I get home, and there are still many arrangements in the evening, so only the time to eat is the time to relax."
"Eating slowly is good for my health. I can chat with you and enjoy the food slowly. I feel that the fatigue of the day has disappeared, and I can also reserve energy for the next thing. "
My son enjoys eating!
I also talked to my father. After my father retired, he had nothing to do for a day but buy food, wash dishes and exercise.
But everything is in a hurry and regular. I eat in a hurry, wash dishes in a hurry and exercise in a hurry. ...
Cycle after cycle! He kept urging people around him with his eyes and actions, hurry up, hurry up. ...
Looking at the present, everything is in a hurry.
At present, too many people are in sub-health state, many people are anxious and depressed, and the efficiency is not high. How much time does 996 really produce productivity?
Most famous people have something in common. They enjoy what they do, devote themselves to it and live in the present!
Whether it's out of hobby or mission or whatever. ...
People who can really do things with mindfulness that lives in the present, has no distractions and is fully committed will be more creative, efficient and happy!
What is living in the present?
For example, people often wash dishes, which is a housework that makes many people tired of a meal.
How to wash dishes easily?
It seems that every bowl is the object of your care.
Regard each bowl as sacred.
Follow your breath and avoid distractions.
Don't try to finish the work quickly.
Make washing dishes the most important thing in your life.
Washing dishes is meditation! Enjoy it, listen to music and relax. Since then, washing dishes has become a kind of relaxation and digestion exercise!
If you can wash dishes in mindfulness and concentrate on washing dishes, then you can do anything else well in mindfulness!
1.？ How to face the work
When we work, we should know that the purpose of work is to serve others, alleviate their suffering and help others, not to satisfy the desire to be praised or recognized. Then, I realized that the method we use is to encourage cooperation between people, and don't regard this plan as a charity act. Finally, think about the people involved in this project. Are you still looking at this matter from the perspective of who is contributing and who is benefiting? If you still make a distinction between who is the server and who is the beneficiary, he works for you and the server, not for service.
2.？ How to face the person you hate the most?
Sit quietly, take a deep breath and smile gently. Look at the image of the person who makes you most miserable and imagine the characteristics you hate, despise or dislike most. Try to check this person's daily life, what will make him happy and what will torture him. Observe this person's "thinking": try to see through what kind of thinking mode and reasoning mode this person follows. Check this person's hopes and motives for action. Finally, think about this person's knowledge. See if his views and opinions are open and free, and whether they are influenced by any prejudice, narrow thinking, hatred or anger.
3.？ How to treat the world and the world objectively
Many concepts, concepts and standards in this world are "artificial" and everything in the world exists objectively. The universe and heaven and earth are mutually inclusive, and each has its own laws, values, habits and characteristics. We should respect them as they are and not interfere. Don't worry about a lot of vanity! Well, many ideas in the world are human illusions, and many ideas are unrealistic. Then, based on this illusion, eventually everything will go up in smoke. You should see the real world, so that you have the ability and opportunity to contact the real world and have the real world and real life.
Therefore, we should be inclusive of everything and all kinds of people. They born this way. Don't look at people with colored glasses, don't be biased, and don't take your delusions and expectations. Don't think about becoming "like that", but accept yourself and others naturally and live naturally!
No matter what you do, keep mindfulness, observe your breathing, relax your body and mind, keep mindfulness about everything, enjoy it and live in the present.