To be honest, this is a family matter for a young couple, and we don’t need to worry about other people’s affairs. Generally speaking, if a son-in-law earns a high salary, he must be very busy and tired from work. He does not do this intentionally. If you have time, you can go and help her.

A happy family respects the old and loves the young

If the old man has a son and a daughter, then in his later years, the old man can choose to rely on them Two to support themselves in old age. Although at this stage, we often say that it is unreliable for the elderly to rely on their children to support themselves in old age, this phenomenon is a minority after all. Therefore, it can still be achieved for the vast majority of elderly people who want to rely on their children to support themselves in old age.

It’s just that during this process, a special situation will arise. That is to say, some of the old people we have now have only one child, a daughter, but no son. In this way, For the rest of their lives, the elderly will most likely have to rely on their sons-in-law to support them. However, nowadays there are very few sons-in-law who sincerely and down-to-earth provide for the elderly.

After all, there is no blood relationship between the son-in-law and the old man. At the same time, the son-in-law has no responsibility or obligation to provide for the old man. To put it bluntly, even if the son-in-law does not want to provide for the old man, no one will say anything. What. But the key problem is that some elderly people now have to rely on their sons-in-law to support themselves in their old age. Otherwise, the elderly people's lives will inevitably be very bad in the future. So what should we do?

My grandpa is now 68 years old. He has only one child in his life, his daughter. Since his wife passed away, because he does not have a penny of pension and his bank deposits are also very small, he He had no choice but to go to his daughter's house for retirement. At the beginning, his son-in-law was very repulsive to him, but later, he only did these four points, and then his son-in-law changed his attitude drastically. He served him tea and water, and served him very attentively.

This is my grandfather’s self-report

I am 68 years old this year. To be honest, for a long time, I have always been worried and worried about my future pension issues. Because I only have one child, my daughter, and no son. My plan back then was to leave my daughter at home and find a son-in-law so that I could have someone to rely on when I get old, but my daughter eventually got married.

At the same time, I don’t have a pension. When I was young, I was a freelancer, and the savings in my hands were not very fast. I only had less than 80,000 yuan. This is what I usually live frugally. I originally wanted to earn more pension money for myself after saving it, but because I was often in poor health, it was true that I had more than enough ambition but not enough energy.

The most important thing is that my wife passed away due to illness more than ten years ago. Since then, I have been living alone. Although I also want to find myself a new wife, but , given my current situation, who would be willing to be my wife? After all, today’s society is still very realistic.

Maybe someone said at this time, don’t you have a daughter? Can you ask your daughter and son-in-law to take care of you in old age? But what you don’t know is that I have a daughter, but for a long time, my daughter has been taken care of by my parents-in-law. At the same time, my son-in-law has never promised me that when I get old in the future, he will take care of me for me. It's because my pension problem cannot be solved, so I am always depressed.

But maybe God saw that I was very pitiful. Later, my daughter’s parents-in-law chose to go to the south to live with their second son and let their second son take care of themselves in old age. After learning about this situation, I I immediately called my daughter and told her how difficult it was to live alone now. My daughter is also very smart. She immediately understood my true intention of calling her now.

A week later, my daughter took the initiative to call me. She said that she had told her husband that she would take me to live with them. Her husband did not object. What her daughter said was natural. It makes me very happy. After all, I don’t have to worry about my own retirement.

After three days, I packed my luggage, and then officially moved into my daughter’s house, living with my daughter and son-in-law. At first, I was worried that my daughter and son-in-law would definitely live in my daughter’s house in the future. I tried my best to provide for my retirement, and I was full of all kinds of beautiful longings. But after I moved into my daughter's home, I found that my thoughts were too naive.

To be honest, my daughter is pretty good to me. No matter how hard or tired she is, she won’t let me do housework. She just lets me have a good rest and does the housework herself. It can be done by one person, and she has never looked down on me. On the contrary, she always greets me every day after seeing me.

To sum up, when I come to my daughter’s home to provide for me in old age, my daughter not only welcomes me very much, but also truly cares about me sincerely. What I do to my daughter is still I was very satisfied and happy, but my son-in-law's attitude made me feel very uncomfortable.

Whenever I see my son-in-law, I always smile with a smile on my face and take the initiative to say hello to him. Even though I have a lot of troubles in my heart, I do the same to him, but he doesn’t seem to notice. He always has a sullen face towards me. People who don’t know better think that we have some deep hatred, but in fact, there has never been any conflict or misunderstanding between us, and I have never done anything to feel sorry for him. .

At the beginning, I didn’t understand why my son-in-law always treated me in this way. After all, I was his father-in-law, and when he married my daughter, not only did I have no It was difficult for him, but I actually helped him a lot. It can be said that I was kind to him, and he should not treat me like this, both emotionally and rationally.

I wondered if my son-in-law was under too much pressure at work or had too many worries and had no place to vent and release his depressed emotions. That’s why he treated me like this. And it turns out that , my guess is absolutely correct.

When my son-in-law comes home from get off work, I will take the initiative to prepare some side dishes and then have a few drinks with him. At first, my son-in-law was very repulsive, but later, he would take the initiative to come to me for a drink every day. During this period, My son-in-law would also tell me all his worries and concerns, and I would quickly comfort him and enlighten him. After all, I have richer life experience than he does.

Don’t mention it. From then on, my son-in-law not only never looked sullenly at me, but I also clearly felt that every time my son-in-law saw me, he always had a smile on his face.

In addition, I consider that my daughter and son-in-law have to go to work every day, and they will definitely be very hard and tired. Even if they agree to provide for me in old age, I can’t say that I will sit at home every day. , do nothing, and then just wait and eat, right? So, I took the initiative to take on the housework.

Because I have lived alone for more than ten years, doing housework is not difficult for me. On the contrary, I still do housework very well. For this reason, my daughter My son-in-law often praises me. Although this is what I should do, even so, the praise from my daughter and son-in-law still makes me very happy.

Not only that, I think that I have no pension now, and my savings are less than 80,000 yuan. If something unexpected happens in the future, and my daughter and son-in-law are not able to provide for us in retirement, then Will I have to spend my later years in misery?

So, I decided to find a job for myself. While my current health is still good, I can earn more pension money for myself and be prepared. I happened to see that the community where my daughter and son-in-law lived was recruiting people. The monthly salary for a sanitation worker was 2,700 yuan, so I quickly signed up, and the community finally decided to hire me.

It is very convenient for me to go to work every day, and the work is not very heavy. I get off work at five o'clock every afternoon. After get off work, I go home to cook for my daughter and son-in-law, and do other housework. After I was able to make money, I obviously felt that my son-in-law looked at me differently. Of course, my status in my daughter and son-in-law's family also improved a lot. If there was anything at home, my son-in-law would always ask for advice. Here’s my opinion.

Although I have done the above, I always feel that it is not practical to be raised in my son-in-law’s family. After all, there is no blood relationship between my son-in-law and me, and it is not appropriate for him to provide for me in his old age. The responsibilities and obligations of a son-in-law. To put it bluntly, even if my son-in-law is unwilling to support me in my old age and drives me away from home, I will have no choice but to accept my fate, but I do not want to see such an unfortunate ending.

So, if I want my son-in-law to take good care of me in the future and not abandon me, before that, I must always have my son-in-law in my heart and treat my son-in-law as my own son. I saw that my son-in-law’s cell phone was already in tatters, but he couldn’t bear to replace it with a new one. So, I took the initiative to buy my son-in-law a high-end cell phone worth 8,000 yuan. The moment my son-in-law received the cell phone, he was so excited that he cried. .

Also, my son-in-law works very hard at work, and he often complains that he has back pain. Therefore, before my son-in-law goes to bed every night, I will take the initiative to massage his body, even though I am also very tired.

So, from then on, my son-in-law’s attitude towards me has not only undergone a 180-degree turn from before, but also, my son-in-law usually serves me tea and water. Very considerate. My current life in my later years is not to mention how comfortable it is. There are many uninformed people out there who even think that my son-in-law is my son.

From my own personal experience, I personally feel that in old age, even if the elderly do not have a pension, they do not have too much savings, but I believe that as long as you can do these four things , the son-in-law is most likely willing to serve you well by bringing tea and water, at least that’s what I think.