Learn how Korean housewives treat their mothers-in-law. Getting to know people starts with communication, starting with small talk. By discussing topics with your mother-in-law, you can learn about the things she is interested in and understand her habits and values, thereby strengthening your understanding of her. 1. The irreverent daughter-in-law. The representative of irreverent daughter-in-law is none other than Ya Liying from "Miss Mermaid". Her new way of getting along with her mother-in-law has been read by some newlywed women as a classic about how to get along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and they are actively practicing it. Because she was dissatisfied with her son's marriage, her mother-in-law made things difficult for her daughter-in-law. Most people would most likely not be able to bear it and move out to live a comfortable life as two people. However, that was not the case for Ya Liying. She had to get along with her mother-in-law as if she were a friend and could pat her shoulders and make jokes before she left. She didn't just obey her mother-in-law, but fought with her in a battle of wits and courage, making use of all her arguments and quarrels. In the end, her patience and wisdom conquered her mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became closer and closer, as close as mother and daughter. 2. The tolerant wife Zheng Yinzhu in "Watch and Watch" is a nurse. She is enthusiastic, capable, and dedicated. She is loved by patients and colleagues, but she often does not go well in life. She lived with her grandmother in the countryside since she was a child, and only returned to her mother when she grew up. She was not very good at speaking, and her education was far lower than that of her boyfriend Park Ki-jung, who was a prosecutor, so her boyfriend's mother had been reluctant to accept her. However, Eun-joo doesn't care about this. In order to get true love, she often goes to Park Ki-jung's house after work to convince her future mother-in-law. She also willingly accepted the old lady's cynicism and never contradicted her. When she learned that her future mother-in-law was a gourmet, she used her days off to go to the old man’s hometown to learn how to cook. In the end, she finally influenced Park Ki-jeong's mother with her kindness, hard work, and tolerance, and she readily agreed to their marriage. 3. Sacrifice-type daughter-in-law. In the same "Mermaid Lady", Ya Liying's mother-in-law is also the daughter-in-law, and she has a grandma who needs to be taken care of. She was once a top student at the Conservatory of Music, but after her marriage, she did not continue her studies. Instead, she devoted herself to family life and carefully served her husband and the whole family. Regarding her choice, she always said calmly: "Originally, I also have my own career, but for him, I can only choose to be a good wife and mother." Although Ya Liying's father-in-law and mother-in-law are over fifty years old, they are still They are always teasing each other and making little jokes to spice up their lives, just like children playing family games. Every time this lovely old lady had a conflict with her husband, she would yell "Mom" coquettishly and run to her mother-in-law's room to complain, like an angry little daughter-in-law, and she looked very cute. She combines the dignity of a lady with the kindness of an "old naughty child". She is sandwiched between the elders and younger generations, inheriting the family's happy family ties. How Chinese wives steal lessons 1. Start with small talk Getting to know someone starts with communication, so start with small talk. By discussing topics with your mother-in-law, you can learn about the things she is interested in and understand her habits and values, thereby strengthening your understanding of her. 2. Acting in "nasty drama" Don't get it wrong. It does not mean that you and your husband should be overly intimate in front of your mother-in-law. On the contrary, this is the most taboo thing for a daughter-in-law! The "nauseous drama" referred to here is It means that in front of your mother-in-law, you have to show your love and care for your husband. For example, if you live with your mother-in-law, you can co-act with your husband in some scenes in front of your mother-in-law to let your mother-in-law know that you are devoted to her precious son and that you don’t follow any delicious food or useful things. He grabs you; you grab everything at home and outside. At this point, it doesn’t matter if it’s a little bit cheesy or exaggerated. The important thing is to satisfy the mother-in-law. You know, mothers are biased, just to see how you hit the right mark! 3. Standing in the same trench. Generally speaking, it is easy for the mother-in-law to regard the daughter-in-law as a "non-staff person". There is a estrangement in your heart, so in order to make your mother-in-law accept you as soon as possible, you must instill some "ecstasy soup" into your mother-in-law with "higher, faster and stronger", so that she can feel that you are even better than her own son in all aspects. towards her. This is an important trick for getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it never works. Of course, this requires some high IQ and a little big heart. You must resolutely ensure that your mother-in-law has the right to answer any innocuous questions. For example, you must firmly support your mother-in-law's nutrition plan and resolutely not let your wealthy mother-in-law take weight loss pills. This will create a close and harmonious atmosphere, making your mother-in-law feel that you are one of them. 4. Show weakness appropriately. In the old society, "a daughter-in-law took many years to become a mother-in-law." The daughter-in-law was bullied by her mother-in-law, but it is different now. You are young and independent, and her precious son has finally caught up with you. You His position in his mind is at its peak. In comparison, your mother-in-law is just the opposite, so she regards you as a "competitor" and subconsciously resists your "invasion". And these are the manifestations of her guilty conscience and sensitivity. Therefore, she will care about you and refuse to show weakness. At this time, you might as well take care of your mother-in-law's bad mood. When you encounter something that your mother-in-law did not do well, you can be generous, lower your head, and show that you have given in. Wait until your mother-in-law feels better. , presumably she won’t really be done with you. 5. Care skillfully In daily life, learn to express your love and respect for your mother-in-law skillfully. For example, give her appropriate gifts. What does a gift mean? It means whether you have really observed the practical things that the people around you need most in daily life.

Giving gifts is not easy, but as long as you pay attention, you will be able to realize what can be delivered to her "heart". After getting along for a long time, your mother-in-law will be able to feel the thoughtfulness and care you give her. 6. Don’t let filial piety become a cultural relic. In Eastern tradition, the elder is the most powerful. Therefore, in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law is inherently weaker. Respecting her mother-in-law and being restrained and tolerant have become the virtues of Eastern women. But now, the family unit has become smaller, the relationship between husband and wife has become more and more central, and the relationship status of other members such as the parent axis has declined year by year in the family. Just looking at Korean dramas, the image of a daughter-in-law has changed a lot, from being submissive to being brave enough to argue, to establishing a separate family in a small family. It is worth noting that in this process, traditional concepts such as respect for the elderly and filial piety have faded away too quickly. If new communication methods are not used to maintain them as soon as possible, it may be difficult to get them back in the future, and it will also bring about more social problems. Some people say that today, parents can still scream at the love between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in Korean dramas. Maybe in a few years, when we look at these, it will be like seeing an old thing that has been lost, and only emotion and nostalgia will remain. , I hope this day will not come.