I don't know when our wish list has been expanding and we want more and more things. We began to hoard cosmetics, courses and books, regardless of our energy, income and time.

Suddenly one day, I walked into the study and saw a lot of unfinished books on the shelf. Then I looked at the wish list in the shopping cart. A kind of hesitation and loss welled up in my mind. Another good course I like is about to start signing up, only to find that the courses I hoarded before are still in a state of "waiting to read", and suddenly a panic attacks my heart.

It seems that after graduating from college, it seems that at the beginning of the endless comparison with the people around us, we began to involuntarily add to our lives, from the inside out, from colorful clothes and hats in the closet to dazzling decorations in the jewelry box, and then to books and courses that may not be read for a long time on the shelf.

We began to add to our lives aimlessly in the anxiety of comparison, thinking that by adding an element that we lack in our lives, we can solve our anxiety and hesitation about ourselves and the future in comparison and overcome our inner anxiety and uneasiness. On the contrary, things seem to move from the expected beauty to the other extreme, leading to escalation of anxiety and hesitation.

If I remember correctly, it should be a sentence that I accidentally found in a magazine when I first made a vision board and collected information. "In the third five years after the age of 20, do subtraction and learn to focus on what you are best at. Less is more."

A seemingly simple sentence deeply touched myself who was struggling to cope with the busy life at that time. At this moment, it should have been the best time. Uncontrollable desire and endless outward visits and comparisons made me lose my initial heart and lose myself in blind addition.

Fortunately, it is not too late to stop now, think clearly and sort out "who am I, where am I and where am I going?" Perhaps this problem was particularly clear when I first remembered it many years ago, but after many years, the environment has changed, the mood has changed, the desire for expansion has changed, and the thinking is no longer so clear.

Reorganization will not be in vain, it will help us reposition and find the coordinates of life, and then all the choices we make are for our dreams and our initial intentions. Every day is the best day. We should feel with our heart, be grateful and cherish.

In view of the 24-hour, 9-to-5 work every day, waiting for your family and children, your favorite words and books, your obsessed food experience, dividing your time and energy into several cells and focusing on a certain kind of affairs in each time period, it is more likely to enjoy it completely and happily.

This requires us to make a choice in life, give up and deduct the overloaded items appropriately, so that we can have more time and energy to complete our most wanted, desires and expectations, and the resulting satisfaction can be enough to fight against the small regrets that can be seen everywhere in life, so as to shift more attention from others to ourselves now.

Because of calculation and comparison, we are busy doing addition, watching our fast-growing self, mixed with joy and sorrow, rejoicing in iterative growth, and forgetting to feel happy when we are busy. Starting from today, subtracting from life, giving up voluntarily and focusing on yourself all the time is the real love for yourself.

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