Love is cheap, but I didn’t expect that his love is cheaper. What does it mean?
It means that I have not responded to your love at all, or that your own love is not worthy at all. Because others don't love you at all, won't pay for you, and won't respond to you. Don’t be too mean. Respect yourself and love yourself. It’s worthless and you give your love to others too easily.
Female, 26 years old, working as a civil servant in our county. When I first joined, I met a boy. Here I am. For two years, he told his colleagues that he had a girlfriend. We didn't communicate much at first. Later, when we had a private dinner together, we left our contact information and started chatting. At that time, he said that he had just broken up with his girlfriend and was in a bad mood. I asked him why he broke up so smoothly. He said that his girlfriend was too strong-willed, and I thought he had a gentler personality. , I also felt that he couldn’t hold a strong woman, so I didn’t think much about it and chatted with him for a while. At first, I just comforted him about his broken love, but later we started talking about our relationship. We loved each other, but we didn't dare to make it public. We just dated in private and didn't confess to each other, so we got together in a daze.
After we got together, I found that I didn’t know him very well. He always went out to do errands alone. I couldn’t see him most of the time. There weren’t many opportunities to have dinner together after get off work. I didn’t know him all day long. What is he busy with. Later, I saw that he posted photos of food and even movie theaters on his WeChat account, and I wondered if he was dating others without telling me. I found an opportunity to have a showdown with him and asked him what was going on. He initially said that he would go to dinner and watch a movie with his old friends. Later, when I threatened to break up, he told me that he was still involved with his ex-girlfriend and that she came back to see him. , he couldn't let go and wanted to give her some time to make her completely give up on him. I heard that he had lost contact with his ex-girlfriend again, so I insisted on breaking up with him. Unexpectedly, he went on a hunger strike and was listless at work every day. He came to chat with me and asked me to treat him to a meal, otherwise he would starve to death. I couldn't bear it, so I reconciled with him temporarily, on the condition that he cut off all contact with his ex-girlfriend, which he did, and has never had contact with her since. Later I checked his cell phone and it was indeed not there. But I found out that he was in contact with a girl who had just been assigned a few days ago, and when I asked him about it, he said it was because of work. I didn’t believe it, so I added him using my trumpet account. Unexpectedly, he and my trumpet account had a lively conversation. But when asked if he had a girlfriend, he still admitted it, but said that he wasn't ready to get married yet, and he wasn't sure if he could get to the end. I'm very conflicted now. Faced with such a hypocritical boy, I don't know if continuing to be together will have any results.
Such a man can flirt with a lot of girls in a day as long as he takes the initiative, but you treat him like a treasure. Am I thinking of you too innocently, or is your love too cheap? I think it’s both. On the one hand, you are very innocent and can easily be controlled emotionally. On the other hand, he got you at a very low price. Deep down in his heart, your value is very low, so he is destined not to be very fond of you. I cherish you so much.
I advise you to leave this man for two reasons:
1. A hypocritical "love saint" is not worth sticking to at all.
His hypocrisy mainly consists of three points: sentimentality, dishonesty, and irresponsibility. Being ambiguous and familiar with the opposite sex reveals the nature of your love interest at a glance; breaking up with your ex and dating without your knowledge is deception and insincerity; there is no formal and clear expression of love, and there are many situations in the process, which is a betrayal of the relationship. responsibility. Such a hypocritical man has never thought about being responsible for you. What will happen to you? What reason do you have to be with him?
2. Your love is too cheap, and it is difficult for people to cherish things that are not precious.
You can talk about your feelings just by chatting with him. He and you got together without a formal confession. Is there any girl who talks better than you? I think your character must be very simple, and you will accept and never reject other people's emotional investment, right? The more this happens and the cheaper the relationship, the less he will cherish you. This is a common idea among men. Girls who are easy to chase do not have enough long-term attraction for them, and they will not cherish it for a long time if they get it. So many times, you cannot easily accept the feelings of someone you don't understand.
In general, your boyfriend is not a long-term choice. If he behaves like this, sooner or later he will choose another partner, and you will definitely be the passive one when the time comes. Going on a hunger strike, entangled with his ex, and hooking up with the opposite sex are all his routines for interacting with the opposite sex as a veteran, and you are just moved by his routines. There is nothing more taboo in a relationship than this. Don't be moved at any time. Be with someone unless you like him very much and he really likes you.