Lele's grandfather got busy as soon as he came to eat - instead of eating by himself, he had to play the "Food Wheel" game with Lele before he would eat. Lele jumped up and down on the sofa, pointing his finger wherever he went.

When a dish is served, grandpa must feed it into his mouth, otherwise he will not eat it. It takes an hour to finish a meal, and grandpa has to go hungry and stick to the end with a smiling face... Qiqi likes to draw the most,

When it's time to eat, all the dishes become Qiqi's creative materials. After taking a few bites of broccoli and putting it on the plate, it turns into a sapling. Her little hand holds up the black fungus as a "butterfly" and flies around for a long time.

Wrap the noodles around your fingers and eat them one by one, and you have to bite the bun into the shape of a cat... Parents often report that their children like to play while eating, and it takes at least an hour or two to finish a meal.

In the winter, the rice is completely cold, but the child still enjoys it. Sometimes he can't help but feed the child, and the little guy has more fun playing with his two free hands.

If things go on like this, the children not only fail to develop the good habit of eating independently, but also become more and more dependent on their parents, lacking independence and responsibility. Seeing that the small matter of eating has become a big headache for the family every day, what should I do?

What to do?

In fact, although each child behaves like eating and playing at the same time, the reasons behind the formation are different. To improve children's bad habits, we must first find the source of the problem.

Generally speaking, there may be the following reasons for children not eating well: Eating is a kind of exploration. Curiosity is the most primitive motivation for children to explore the world. On the one hand, children deepen their understanding of food while playing with food: "One

How long is a noodle? How many times can it be wrapped around a finger? "On the other hand, when eating and playing, children want to know how adults will react and how much control and decision-making they have.

The former corrects one's own way of interpersonal communication by observing the reactions of others, while the latter allows children to feel capable and promotes the development of their self-confidence.

So it seems that eating is indeed a pleasure worth exploring.

Over-indulging: Children who are used to doing whatever they want do not like the constraints of rules and are always worried about not having enough to eat. This is very common when the elderly are raising children.

If the child doesn't want to eat, feed it. If the child doesn't eat after feeding, try to coax him to eat.

On the one hand, for children, it is a sign of love for adults to feed them.

Adults pay great attention to them when feeding them, and they like this feeling of being noticed and valued.

On the other hand, eating has become a task for adults. He does not need to stop what he is playing at all, he only needs to open his mouth. In this way, over time, eating becomes a busy thing for adults, and the child's dependence becomes natural.

Peers imitate each other. Children learn socially and develop various intelligences through imitation. Especially between the ages of 2 and 5, children will consciously or unconsciously repeat the behaviors of others, and continue to gain a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.

Children after the age of 3 begin to have partners, and the behaviors of children will imitate each other.

If your child’s best friend is also keen on eating and playing while eating, your child will naturally be happy to join in.

Children are not hungry if they eat too many snacks before meals. Sometimes adults let children eat too many snacks before meals out of love, resulting in a lack of appetite during meals and the children can only treat food as toys.

We can advance the time for snacks or snacks, and make it clear with our children that they will not eat for 2 hours before meals. In this way, when meal time comes, they will naturally not be able to resist the delicious meals!

Seeking parents' attention: Children often need to make sure that they have not been left out or abandoned. Some parents usually spend very little time with their children, and may rarely talk to their children even when eating together. Children often want their parents to look at them, accompany them, and communicate with them.

Children feel the nourishment of love from their parents' play. If they do not get attention for a long time, children will use bad behavior to call for their parents' attention.

Not eating well has become one of these exploitable behaviors. Unfortunately, if parents do not realize their children's cries, but just blame and beat their children, it will make the children's hearts even more insecure and unsatisfied, and their emotional needs will not be met.

The dining atmosphere was so boring that the children had to find their own fun. Eating together as a family is an excellent opportunity to communicate and liven up the atmosphere by talking about the interesting things they encountered during the day.

If parents are still holding their mobile phones at this time, or watching TV news, or talking about topics that their children do not understand, then children who have difficulty integrating will choose their own way of playing.

Family relations are tense, and uneasiness suppresses appetite. No child is not afraid of quarrels between his parents.

When parents quarrel, the child's heart is full of fear and helplessness, and he may even feel that he is the cause of the "war" at home. In this case, it may be difficult for him to eat in a happy mood. Playing while eating may alleviate the problem.

Feel the tension.

All of the above reasons may cause children to play while eating. Once we find out the reasons, it will be easier for us to take action to improve them.