/Jing Yuehe
Introduction:
Laroche Foucault said: Love is like a flame, it can't last without continuous activities. Once it stops expecting and fearing, its life will be over.
In a sea of people, everyone is looking for true love I hope there is such a person who will be deeply attracted as long as he looks at him more in the crowd. That person is actually the other half of your spirit: he can read your mind at a glance, read your eyes and know what you hesitate to say. ...
However, everyone who enters marriage has dreams and yearns for happiness. However, many times, marriage will not be as you wish. There is often a feeling of being cheated after marriage: I feel that he (she) after marriage is not as gentle and considerate as before marriage.
This is because people in love can only see each other's advantages, and they like to give up their shortcomings selectively. ...
0 1. Entering the marriage hall because of love does not guarantee happiness after marriage.
Bi Shumin once said: marriage is not just happiness, but celebration, but life and death, it is a test and suffering; This is a brand-new establishment of familiarity with life, and a recombination of wisdom, courage and personality will.
Wen Wen and Jia Liang were introduced to each other Both of them are old enough to talk about marriage, and they both know that they are getting married.
Wen Wen, a white-collar worker in the workplace, is young and beautiful, but he also missed many "opportunities" because of his high vision. And Jia Liang is a engineering male, and in the network company, almost don't have much time to talk about his girlfriend, and finally become a needy family.
When two families in need come together, negative is positive, and there is a feeling of mutual appreciation. After getting along for a period of time, they felt good and decided to have a relationship.
On Wen Wen's birthday, Jia Liang gave Wen Wen a small pendant with a lovely pig on it. Jia Liang said to Wen Wen, I will give myself to you. If I am too busy to accompany you, let it accompany you for me.
In fact, girls are emotional, and sometimes it is not real money that moves them, but something with special significance that can move their hearts more.
Wenwen is no exception. She felt Jia Liang's true feelings for her. When Jia Liang put the pendant on Wen Wen's neck, it also meant that Wen Wen accepted him from his heart.
A few months later, they walked into the marriage hall hand in hand. Parents of both sides send their most sincere wishes to them, hoping that they can grow old together and spend a good time together.
The days after marriage are sweet, and Wen Wen, who has delicate feelings, can really feel her husband's deep affection, and Wen Wen returns her husband with tenderness.
The beautiful love in the world should return to reality and blend in with the triviality of money-obsessed oil and salt. When love returns to the true nature of life, it is no longer romantic and.
Both of them have to go to work, both of them attach great importance to their careers, and both of them neglect to run their own small homes. It may be nothing for a short time. But when you have children, everything is not so simple.
Wenwen complained that her husband didn't care about her and her children. At night, the children cried so much that her husband slept like he didn't hear, so he couldn't wake up. On weekends, my husband is also sitting in front of the computer, regardless of anything.
Jia Liang believes that it is the mother's business to take care of the children, and she will not coax them. Why waste time? As for doing housework, I think men do a lot of things, such as washing clothes, mopping the floor and cooking, so don't count on him.
Wenwen is very wronged. Although she has a mother to take care of her children, she can accomplish those things. But Jia Liang is a child and a member of the family. How can he ignore everything?
Wenwen sometimes complains to her best friend who always gives her advice. You used to know his family, but you thought it was nothing. Why can't you accept it now?
Wen Wen remembers that Jia Liang once said that he did nothing at home, and it was her mother who tried to solve the problem by changing the faucet and light bulb. Even such things as repairing sewers are her mother's job.
Listen to Jia Liang, I never took it to heart. I thought it was him. He certainly wouldn't do that. In fact, family background has a great influence on a person's values. Jia Liang's present situation is the reappearance of the shadow on the child.
02. It is easier to fall in love than to get along, and love will eventually lose out to time.
Professor Xue said: Only you can really convince you, and only after repeated thinking can you form your own beliefs.
In fact, it has long been said that you should keep your eyes open before marriage and turn a blind eye after marriage. It is to tell everyone who is about to enter marriage that they must carefully examine each other before marriage, and once there are shortcomings that you can't tolerate and accept, you should bring them up as soon as possible so as not to bury hidden dangers in marriage.
In the face of her husband's big man, Wen Wen was very angry. But I feel that apart from these problems, my husband really can't pick out other problems.
The mother also advised her daughter that these were trivial matters. As long as my husband has you in his heart, this family will do.
Later, the husband jumped to a bigger company and became a technical consultant, and his salary also increased a lot. A few years later, they changed a big house, and the family's life went up a step.
Jia Liang saw that Wen Wen had to go to work and take care of the children every day, so he said to his wife, I work hard outside. You needn't work so hard.
Later, Wenwen got pregnant and felt more tired. She had to quit her job and go home wholeheartedly to take care of her husband and children.
Slowly, Wenwen accepted this life: her husband paid the family expenses every month, and she arranged everything. She began to despise the meager salary she earned.
The mother advised her daughter that women should not lose their jobs casually, and you still have to go out to work when the children are older.
With the children growing up day by day, Wen Wen has been separated for almost five years. She is used to the current living condition: she is with her children, and when she has nothing to do, she pursues drama, goes shopping and does beauty.
In a blink of an eye, the boss went to primary school and kindergarten. When the two children were not around, Wenwen suddenly found that she had really changed: she lost her former self, her former fighting spirit and her yearning for a better life.
She is only in her thirties. How can she live a life without desire like a retired old man? This is not what she wants. She wants to start her life again.
In the past, when children were around, they were so busy all day that Wen Wen forgot when her husband was sleeping in the study.
Usually, both are children's topics. In fact, they haven't talked to each other for a long time. Let her talk about her husband's recent concerns. Worried about what? She couldn't say a word.
I feel they are more like partners. She bore children for him, and he gave her a carefree life. But she can no longer feel the joy of being attracted by her husband.
Wenwen knew that there must be something wrong with her marriage. But another voice is telling her: don't ask, don't plan, or you will lose.
03. I can't get enough of it. Qin Suming's marriage needs more camps.
In "The Tale of Qipa", Li Dan said: Marriage is a shell, not for us to protect marriage, but for marriage to protect us. Two adults should say the worst things well and make the shell of marriage strong enough. How strong is it? Even if marriage no longer exists, we should be strong enough to protect us.
After the children go to school, Wenwen has time to think about the rest of her life. She resumed her major and began to submit resumes.
A woman, no matter how much money her husband can earn, belongs to her husband. You must have your own career. Only in this way, women will not be passive and will not be forced to be caught off guard when encountering unexpected situations.
The mother supported her daughter's decision and encouraged her to go out. Wen Wen accepted a new job in a small company she used to know.
Wen Wen, who has started a new life, has time to think about the problems between her and her husband. Cautious Wen Wen finally discovered her husband's secret. A year ago, her husband's first love, Ms. Xiao, came back from America. At that time, Ms. Xiao abandoned Jia Liang and went to America alone. Disembarking, the outside world was helpless, and finally she chose to return to China.
Ms. Xiao has been single. She found Jia Liang and wanted to renew her friendship and get back her lost love.
Ms. Xiao took the initiative to show her kindness and used the class reunion to increase the chance of contact between the two. For a time, Jia Liang wavered, and he began to hesitate, wandering between Wenwen and his first love.
Jia Liang even deliberately snubbed Wen Wen, hoping Wenwen could take the initiative to file for divorce. In that case, he can alleviate his inner anxiety and conscience condemnation.
When Wen Wen saw through her husband's mind, she didn't show it, and she didn't have a showdown with him directly. She doesn't want to give her husband away. Because her departure can help others. In front of love, everyone is selfish.
Wenwen knows that she must defend her victory and not let others succeed. Of course, she doesn't want her two children to be unloved, let alone find one for them.
The child began to sleep alone, and Wen Wen and her husband returned to normal husband and wife life. In this way, she will have more opportunities to be with her husband.
Wen Wen said to her husband, "I'm sorry, but I only care about growing up with my children these years, ignoring your feelings." . Now that the children have grown up, we can go back to the old days. Wen Wen took the initiative to hug her husband. The husband didn't escape, but took the initiative to meet him.
With a woman's intuition, Wenwen knew that her husband had her in his heart. The husband will not abandon this family, let alone her.
While the iron is hot, Wen Wen said to her husband, Please arrange when we will go out for our honeymoon. We haven't been out once in more than seven years, and we are all old.
The husband patted Wen Wen's head, as if talking to himself, and as if saying to Wen Wen, "OK, let's go next month." .
Wenwen knew that she had won. She defeated her husband's first love and the invasion of a third party.
Sometimes a woman must stand up bravely to defend her marriage, family, husband and children. Only in this way can you become the final winner in marriage.
Conclusion:
In fact, marriage looks calm on the surface, but in fact it is undercurrent. Only by using the camp can we avoid a sudden blow to our marriage.
Only by communicating more and understanding each other's thoughts can husband and wife know their situation at critical moments and take effective measures in time to save the marriage on the verge of disintegration.
Married life is not an absolute safety zone at any time. As time goes by, many times, love is either lost to marriage or lost to time. In the long decades of life, when time runs out, only brothers and sisters are left.
Because once love begins, it will not develop in the established direction, and no one knows what will happen. This requires us to constantly improve ourselves and our hearts in love, so that we can correctly deal with all kinds of unexpected situations and not let ourselves be black and blue in love!
The above is about what marriage is not easy to wear, and it is about the sharing of marriage. After watching the quarrel between husband and wife at home, I hope this will help everyone!
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