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If you lose your balance, you lose your strength.

destruction is a blessing, and destruction is a change.

Sometimes being out of balance because of love is also a balanced life.

If you have enough courage, put aside everything you are familiar with and make you feel at ease, including your home, your pain and your resentment, and start a journey of seeking truth, both external and internal.

If you really want to take everything you have experienced on your journey as a hint, if you take everyone you meet on your journey as your mentor.

most importantly, if you are prepared to face and forgive the unpleasant qualities in you, then the truth will not be far away from you.

Art originates from life and is higher than life. Art exists everywhere in life, but life is not art. You must discard its dross and take its essence to enjoy the ultimate happiness.

If you want to find yourself, you must abandon all kinds of so-called worldly views and do what you want wholeheartedly, then you will become synonymous with extraordinary.

#111

The movie "Food, Prayer, Love" is one of the 21 movies that I like my own theme. I used my spare time after lunch to watch it. After watching it, I also extracted the classic lines in this drama, especially the sentence "If you lose your balance, you lose your strength", which is very much in favor of this view, because it is not easy for me to do it in my own life.

If you are facing the problem of "balance", it is strongly recommended that you watch this film, especially for professional women who need to balance their families, take care of children and the elderly. To tell the truth, I saw my own shadow from the protagonist Xiaoli by watching this film. I am also a person who is easily anxious, fearful and difficult to relax. I always tie myself too tightly, and I am afraid that I will fall to the bottom for fear of relaxing, and I can't let myself go.

In the film, the woman finally meets a boyfriend who loves her, but because she doesn't open her heart, she is worried that her previous failed marriage and love will destroy herself again and take everything from her, so she refuses the invitation of her new boyfriend to go sailing.

She thought she had made a great choice and wanted to live a meditative and spiritual life alone, but when the witch doctor in Leye said to the hostess,' Do you love your boyfriend? The woman replied, "I love him, but I have to choose to leave each other. I don't want to give up myself. I can't balance." After listening to the woman's reply, the witch doctor said to her, "You have learned a lot, and you can start to be yourself, but you still need to learn one thing, that is, the so-called balance. Sometimes it is a balanced life because of love imbalance."

When I heard this sentence from the witch doctor to the hostess, I felt released. So did the hostess. She opened her heart and decided to cruise out to sea with her new boyfriend and enjoy each other's wonderful time. From this story of the female host, I learned one thing, don't always control everything, open your heart and hug yourself. If you are rich, if you meet the right person, then brave enough to love, be yourself, and the balanced wisdom will eventually return to yourself. What is most important in your eyes and what is your inner desire, then follow your heart.

I suddenly found that the reason why a person's heart is full of fear and powerlessness is also because he can't follow his own heart. After a long time, this fear and powerlessness become stronger and stronger.

#112

Destruction is a blessing, and destruction is also a change. The woman lost everything because of her divorce, but she seemed to lose everything, but gained more. She began to go to Italy, India and Bali alone. During this journey, she began to slowly regain her previous enthusiasm for things, such as language. She liked Italian very much. When she decided to go to Italy to experience life and learn Italian, her best friend said to her, "Are you sure?" The hostess said that she was very sure. In fact, she was also whispering in her heart that she could learn practical skills such as dancing and playing the piano. Why should she learn this useless Italian?

However, the hostess finally convinced herself that I used to study for skills, always to achieve certain benefits or functions. Why should I study for usefulness? Some things don't need to be useful and meaningful, just please yourself. The hostess said, "Every word in Italian is a singing bird, magic and truffle to me." I don't think she can express her feelings with such words if she is not passionate enough.

Because at this time, she knew very well that after her marriage, she wrote and traveled for work and survival, never lived for herself, and lost her former love and enthusiasm for many things, such as food. She was a foodie, but she lost all her love in marriage, and now she wants to find that love for things. She doesn't want to go on like this all her life "without passion, vitality, faith, enthusiasm and vitality".

So, she finally decided to learn Italian. When she arrived in Italy, the first thing she tried was to taste the surrounding special food, learn Italian from a teacher, and gradually fully integrate into the local life, and the whole person's energy was ignited.

She has made many new friends. In the film, when she was preparing to go to an Indian monastery in Italy, her friends saw her off. It happened to be Thanksgiving Day, and the hostess personally cooked food and brought a sumptuous dinner to her friends. When the friends held hands to "offer gratitude wishes", I heard almost every friend's gratitude words mention the changes that the arrival of the hostess brought to their lives, and the hostess felt it because of this group of friends.

I don't think I would have met such a lovely group of friends if I hadn't come out bravely. I also learned Italian and tasted delicious food, and I gradually became cheerful and confident, especially in the scene where I went to eat pizza with my friends to watch the football match. When her friend said, "I'm worried about the swimming ring (belly fat)", the hostess responded, "Don't worry about the swimming ring, I have it, too. If I want to eat, I'll enjoy it. (Do you think it's cool?)

At last, the two of them enjoyed the delicious food happily. This scene really reminds me of my self-reproach when eating dessert. In fact, it's totally unnecessary. If you are too harsh and unhappy, it's not a good thing to wronged yourself. Then, you can adjust your behavior. Don't blame yourself. Self-reproach not only hates yourself, but also others will hate yourself.

In short, since you like it, enjoy it to the fullest, and accept your dislikes, so that you can be more free and easy and be yourself. If you want to find yourself, you must abandon all the so-called secular views and then do what you want wholeheartedly, then it will become synonymous with extraordinary.

I am glad that I have found my own belief, and I am beginning to open my heart, willing to make new friends, and willing to spend time guarding what I love. For example, I like watching movies, reading, playing, etc. At present, I hope you, like me, have the courage to explore, be yourself and find your own balanced life ~