No matter which woman, when she first steps into the marriage hall, she is full of longing.
But in real marriage life, there are often problems of this kind.
In fact, it all has to do with the person you choose with your heart.
If he loves you, cherishes you and respects you, your parents-in-law will take care of him and take care of you no matter what they have against you.
If he treats you like a fool, your parents-in-law will only add fuel to the fire.
At a friend's banquet, we were eating hot pot, but Xiaojing couldn't be excited about the delicious food on the table, and just kept talking about her hatred for her husband's family.
It turned out that her son was only one year old. This time when she went back to her hometown to celebrate the New Year, her mother-in-law left her son behind and refused to take him away no matter what.
Xiaojing's husband originally worked out of town, and now he has left his son in his hometown. Xiaojing is now alone at home.
A family of three was forcibly separated into three places.
The most important thing is that her husband takes it for granted.
Xiaojing's account at the table was filled with anger: They were originally very rich, but of course they agreed to buy a house when they were in love but now regretted it.
Later, our two families bought a new house together. Even knowing that I was pregnant at the time, we bought smelly Sanwu furniture for the new house.
He didn't give me the three gold coins he agreed to, but only gave me an old silver bracelet.
After I got married and spent a month in their hometown, my parents-in-law thought I was a thief and all the room doors were locked.
I still want my baby to leave me now. My baby is so pitiful. His parents are not around for such a young baby.
Listening to Xiaojing's story, I remembered that the contrast in Xiaojing's expression when she was in love was so huge.
Xiaojing told me on the phone that she was in a relationship. When she talked about her boyfriend, I could feel her joy even through the phone.
She said that my boyfriend was tall and handsome, an art student, and could play the flute.
The most important thing is that the family is rich, and the parents-in-law do not have to do anything. They only collect rent at home and live a very comfortable life.
Everything she talked about was how good her boyfriend was and how good her family's conditions were.
But she forgot the most important thing, how her boyfriend treated her and whether he was good to her.
But she was in love at the time, so everything must be fine. They were colleagues, because her boyfriend suddenly wanted to be transferred away, and he wanted to settle things before he was transferred.
So I took Xiaojing to meet my parents-in-law.
Hundreds of kilometers away, Xiaojing met her parents-in-law and felt that her boyfriend's family was strong and that her boyfriend was handsome, so she agreed to the proposal without thinking about it.
I just forgot that my boyfriend needs to be transferred away, which means that when I get married, I have to have a long-distance relationship.
Xiaojing got married happily and spent a sweet honeymoon before her husband was transferred. Although she did not buy the house that the husband promised to buy, she lived in a small house assigned by the school.
Two months later, my husband was transferred to another place.
But Xiaojing got pregnant unexpectedly, and she was alone throughout her pregnancy.
I can’t lose my job, and my belly is getting bigger and bigger.
Prepare lessons, attend classes, and prepare meals in the canteen.
My husband is transferred to the next county, not too far apart, but I don’t know whether it’s because there are too many things to do, or because the love period has passed, and I go back less and less.
It is said that whether a man loves himself or not depends on his attitude during pregnancy.
Xiaojing spent the entire pregnancy recalling the sweet words her husband had said. After thinking about it carefully, she realized that none of them seemed to have been implemented.
After thinking alone, I realized that even if they are passionately in love, their love expenses are almost AA-level.
Maybe she gives more gifts than her husband gives. If other people's husbands find out that their wives are pregnant, they will take care of them carefully, but my own husband doesn't seem to care about it. No wonder her parents-in-law are too lazy to take care of her.
In Xiaojing's thinking, the child was born, a son.
My husband came back after taking leave, and my parents-in-law came to take care of the confinement child.
Xiaojing now feels a little like home, and she wants her husband to apply for transfer so that the family can be reunited.
If the husband uses the excuse of separation and taking care of the family, the transfer shouldn't be too difficult.
But what her husband said next shocked Xiao Jing. It turned out that her husband had really applied for transfer again, but he was not transferred to her place, but to his hometown.
There is a 10-hour drive from Xiaojing's hometown, which makes Xiaojing feel uneasy.
After the baby is three months old, Xiaojing will continue to work.
The child is taken care of by her mother-in-law, and her relationship with her is always bumpy.
But both parties endured it for the sake of the child, until the child turned one year old, and this time they went back to their hometown for the New Year. The mother-in-law said that she would not go there anymore and would take care of the child in her hometown.
Xiaojing had no choice. The child was still too young to go to kindergarten, but she couldn't lose her job.
I wanted to seek help from my husband and talk to him about the importance of parent-child education, but my husband said that he was also raised by his grandmother, which was not a good idea. It would be the best arrangement for the children to be brought back to his hometown.
Xiaojing returned to work, but the child stayed with her grandma, and Xiaojing's heart was also taken there.
Xiaojing bursts into tears whenever she talks about her child.
I feel the same way that Xiaojing misses her children.