This is true, but this situation is more of an exception, otherwise young people would basically not be able to get married.

In the past two days, a piece of news about "a gift of up to 2 million yuan in Putian, Fujian" has been on the hot search, triggering a lot of discussion. The thing is like this: A netizen made suggestions on the "Leadership Message Board" of People's Daily Online about "Putian City's lottery gifts are too high." The netizen reflected: "The general local lottery gifts in Putian City in 2023 are 780,000, excluding the three golds, like The betrothal gifts in Zhongmen and Dongzhuang are as high as RMB 800,000 to RMB 2 million. Ordinary working-class people cannot afford such high-priced betrothal gifts. We hope that the leaders can solve this problem."

Afterwards, various media conducted on-site interviews. Many local residents verified and reported this situation. Authoritative media reports: "We learned through understanding that the phenomenon of high betrothal gifts still exists in Putian, and some villages even start with betrothal gifts of 1.2 million. However, the government is also issuing initiatives to encourage villagers not to charge such high betrothal gifts. And the message board mentioned Many people go out to do business in Zhongmen and Dongzhuang, which are relatively wealthy places."

It is reported that Mr. Zhang is a native of Putian and currently works in Fuzhou. According to his reaction: "Putian gives high-priced gifts. It has always been a hot topic on the Internet. Some time ago, the starting price of a bride price for a family in our village was 1.2 million, while a relative of mine in the next village needed 2 million to get a wife this year. "

I had a friend in college. A good roommate is from Putian, Fujian. He got married last year. Because of the epidemic, I was unable to go to the venue to send my blessings, so I talked to him on the phone. On the phone, he said that the bride price the woman wanted was 388,000 yuan, which did not include three gold coins, clothes, etc. He said that he had to have a wedding, which cost more than 600,000 yuan, and his family borrowed 200,000 yuan in debt because of it. He was sobbing a little while he was talking, saying that he was sorry for his parents, and I could only try my best to comfort him.

I see that people on the Internet often suggest that relevant departments should take control of "high-priced gifts", but in fact this situation is difficult to control, because "one party is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer." You said you would give her a low-priced betrothal gift, but she said you were in love with her and others gave her hundreds of thousands in betrothal gifts, and asked you if she was not worth the price.

Let’s not talk about Putian for the moment. For those around me, including my own wedding, I basically spent about 300,000 yuan (all expenses added up). Although it is not as high as what is said on the Internet, it still makes an ordinary family run out of money or even go into debt. Most of those from poor families who clamored not to give or give less bride price to the woman were single. (Of course, if you are good enough, maybe the woman will "flip" you, don't argue)

Of course, some netizens think that this phenomenon is an exception, and analyzed: "That kind of game is played by rich people. , Rich people versus rich people! I am also from Putian. We also have 68,000 yuan, 200,000 yuan, and 300,000 yuan. It all depends on the situation. People join forces, of course. It’s high, and it’s high for both sides. It’s the same everywhere in the country. There are billions of dollars in wealth, so you can’t just take it for granted!”

This statement is not unreasonable, but in all fairness! Betrothal gifts have really become a barrier for young people to get married. Even if a girl doesn't care so much about the bride price, what about her parents? The older generation is often traditional-minded and cares about face. They think that ordering more betrothal gifts is a guarantee for their daughter and makes them look good.

The incidents of a young man in Shangqiu, Henan Province "hanging a banner to ask for a betrothal gift" and the "18.88 million sky-high price of a betrothal gift" incident in Jiangxi, which were previously reported on the Internet, are vivid examples. I think no matter whether the man has money or not, high betrothal gifts are always a bad social custom. Those who have money can take out the money, but what about those who don’t have money? Will they not get married? Some people may say that this is the time to test your sincerity, but how many people in this society can withstand the temptation of money?

High betrothal gifts must be curbed, otherwise the marriage rate among young people will inevitably decline year by year, which will indirectly lead to a decline in the birth rate and have a serious negative impact on society.