Ordinary people, including me, often encounter stress and emotional disturbances. Most of the reasons why these problems occur are due to problems in our hearts.

Our hearts are too persistent. Some inconspicuous things in life can make our sympathetic nerves tense. The tense nerves stimulate the amygdala in the brain, so our breathing becomes short, our blood pressure rises, and we become trembling.

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When was the last time you felt nervous and worried?

What events make you nervous and worried?

Did those events finally happen?

In fact, when you think about the things that once made you anxious and worried, do they really still exist?

I think your answer must be: "They no longer exist and have disappeared!" You will also think of the sentence: "Most of the time, 90% of the things people worry about will not happen!" Since this is the fact

Yes, then why can’t we still be free and easy?

Are you trapped in self-relationships and interpersonal relationships all day long and unable to extricate yourself?

Looking deeper into the reason, perhaps we have already fallen into a state of self-grasping without even realizing it.

When you fall into this state, you often feel nervous, entangled, and have a low sense of self-efficacy. A small event in your life or a word from someone else may immediately ignite you and hurt your fragile little heart.

So is there any way for us to get rid of the state of self-grasping?

What I want to say is: to get rid of ego, you have to learn to let go.

Is it difficult to let go of the seven emotions and six desires, greed, anger, and ignorance?

It’s hard to let go. It’s really hard to let go. Living a life without worries and worries is something most of us can’t achieve.

Since we were young, our parents and teachers have asked us to have great ambitions, go to a good school, find a good job, and find a good marriage... We are bound by countless greed and desires. Just imagine that you are bound by these things called desires. 23

Ten years later, someone tells you to let go. Can you do it?

So, since we can’t let go all at once, can we try to let go slowly?

Let go of one thing at a time.

I still have a deep understanding of letting go.

I have been a very competitive person since I was a child, and I have also been determined to get into a prestigious school so that I can live up to my parents' expectations and be worthy of my hard work for more than ten years.

At that time, I put a lot of pressure on myself in my studies. In my senior year of high school, I fell ill and was hospitalized because of the excessive pressure. The college entrance examination was approaching at that time. I thought to myself that it was over now and the exam was about to take place. I was still like this.

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Not surprisingly, the results I got were as I expected. I failed the college entrance examination that year and only got into a third-rate local school.

When I was in college, I would blame myself for failing in the college entrance examination. I thought I would be the proud one, but in the end... alas!

For a long time after that, I couldn't get over the shadow of the exam. It wasn't until I was about to graduate from college that I met a good teacher. His words awakened me and made me learn to accept and slow down.

Put it down slowly.

I remember it was winter. The weather was pretty good at noon that day, and the sun was shining brightly. I was walking alone on the playground, and I saw the instructor, Teacher Liu.

Far away, I heard Teacher Liu calling my name, and I quickly greeted him.

Teacher Liu said to me: "Xiao Wu, I think you are a very motivated child, but you are always depressed most of the time. Is there something on your mind?" I described my troubles in short words.

Teacher Liu smiled and said, "What did I think it was? On the marathon road of life, everyone will go to different places. Just because your current starting point is not very good, it does not mean that this is your end point. Human life

The most important thing is to have a positive and optimistic attitude throughout your life! Only when you reach my age will you realize that many times your experiences are really not that important compared to health, life and death. These are just a drop in the ocean."

I didn't quite understand what Teacher Liu said, so I just nodded with trust. As I grew older, and with the passing of several relatives around me in recent years, I gradually understood what the teacher meant.

Now I know that many times the reason why we are disturbed by such and such troubles is because our hearts are too persistent and want to control everything and everything that happens around us. It seems that we can only hold them all tightly.

Hold it tightly in your hands and you will be safe.

In fact, everyone knows that everything in this world is constantly changing, and change is the normal state of development. As human beings, we are all very small, and all we can do is follow nature.

When you learn to go with nature and let whatever happens happen, you will find that your mind becomes broader and the troubles you encounter are no longer troubles.

Many times the so-called trouble is just a thought. As long as you don't empower the thought, it cannot control you.

According to the law of conservation of energy, no matter how strong your idea is, as long as you can ignore it and ignore it, it will eventually disappear.

So how can we let go of our ego?

It is recommended that you let go of one thing that you are obsessed with every day.

Today I feel that I am not beautiful enough, tomorrow I feel that I am not smart, and the day after tomorrow I feel that I did not do something well... Only by taking small steps can you reach a thousand miles. Learn to let go of one thing every day, let it go, reconcile with it, and slowly let your heart

Return to calmness and tranquility.