There is an old saying in China called: Look for soft persimmons to knead. There is another old saying: people are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden. Don't be too kind and gentle, or you won't be bullied. Who will be bullied?

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Yesterday, I spent nearly an hour sending and receiving background messages. A girl confided to me that she was called a "post-it girl" by her colleagues behind her back.

after hearing her story, I can't wait to write a resignation report for her across the screen.

a year ago, she joined the current company as an intern, working as a marketing assistant, mainly responsible for some auxiliary work in the company's market. The reason for choosing this company is that the welfare benefits of the company are much better than those of other companies, but there is also a shortcoming that makes her very upset: the object she wants to serve is three leaders.

and there are two leaders who have a bad relationship, so it is often when one of them asks her to do something, the other one immediately gives her a job, which is not enough. During the internship, she was taught by the hr of the company, "It is necessary to work more and practice more before she can stay. Taking the initiative to undertake some chores in the company can be more popular. " Good name: the law of survival in the workplace.

With her hard work, she finally passed the internship and stayed in this company, but it was also the beginning of her nightmare.

She has never finished her work within 8 hours. Besides the work assigned to her by three leaders, she also needs to help other colleagues do chores, such as copying documents, such as faxing, and even some colleagues want to invite customers to dinner, so she needs to find a suitable restaurant to entertain them.

I asked her, why not leave?

She told me that it is really not easy for a girl to go from a small town to a first-tier city, and her parents also want her to have a stable job. Every time she calls home to tell these things, her family always advises her to compromise and not to have the idea of quitting just because she has done more work.

So she put up with it again and again. Not long ago, she went to the hospital for examination because she was often dizzy. Only then did she know that she had suffered from severe cervical spondylosis at the age of 23.

She is not alone. There are too many things that can't be helped in the workplace. Even some women have to face sexual harassment in the workplace, and they dare not speak out easily for work and salary. Therefore, many times, the other party will think that you are probably just a cat, not a tiger who will be angry, so there will be next time, next time.

At present, many companies are very unclear about the job content, which will also lead many young people to think that the workplace should be like this, but in fact, sometimes it consumes you, and you have been doing chores for a long time. You will find that the next time you change jobs, you don't know where to write your resume, because you are too miscellaneous to dig deep in a certain field.

In the face of unfair treatment in the workplace, what we have to do is to refuse to compromise. On the one hand, we can talk to hr about our recent work situation and problems. On the other hand, if it can't be solved, we can change jobs. What's important is not to wronged ourselves and the great opportunity to accumulate ability.

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There are not a few people who compromise in love, especially many girls. They always think that I love him, so I have to compromise myself to fulfill love, but often it is not yourself or love that you fulfill, but love rat who doesn't care so much about you.

Xiaoling was my former roommate, and we shared a three-bedroom apartment. When we first met, she and her boyfriend had just been together. Every day, you were jealous of us single dog, but it didn't last long. After a few months, she often heard her crying in the bathroom in the middle of the night.

Xiaoling and her boyfriend met at a friend's party. Cheng Huan cooked delicious food, and Xiaoling was impressed by the delicious food. At the same time, she fell in love with this "warm man", so she took the initiative to ask for contact information, and soon they were together.

A few weeks later, Cheng Huan proposed to live together, and Xiaoling agreed because she was alone in Beijing, thinking that she could save a rent and enter the marriage life ahead of schedule.

When we first lived together, we always heard Xiaoling's laughter and laughter. They always shared their delicious food with us. Later, Cheng Huan became fascinated with a game called dota, and we never saw them enter the kitchen again.

Cheng Huan doesn't do anything when he comes back from work every day, and he doesn't talk to Xiaoling. He just plays games by himself. Once, Xiaoling had a high fever of nearly 4 degrees, and Cheng Huan just took her to buy medicine and started the game again. Xiaoling unplugged the network cable angrily. Cheng Huan watched her teammate get cheated and raised her hand and gave her a slap in the face.

Before that, I thought games were used to amuse myself, but that slap woke us all up. It turns out that games can make a person crazy.

Xiaoling was crying in the room, and we were afraid of something, so we went to dissuade her. Afterwards, they became happy and apologized, and the two made up again. But later on, we always heard them arguing and throwing things. Then Xiaoling will forget what happened in front of her and continue to wash clothes and cook for Cheng Huan, as if all this pain did not happen to her.

I met Xiaoling outside buying dumplings alone, and when I saw the injury on her arm, I couldn't help asking, "Why didn't you leave?" She shook her head and said, "I don't want to, I think he will change. I've compromised, and after a long time, he will definitely see my goodness. "

a woman in love can't pull back nine cows, even if the person she is facing is wrong.

Later that autumn, Xiaoling finally decided to break up with Cheng Huan. She packed all her luggage and asked me to say goodbye before she left. She said that what she regretted most was not knowing and being with Cheng Huan, but her compromise. She thought that she could get each other's repentance by giving blindly, but she was wrong.

Love must be a two-way street. A person's compromise will never get the sincerity of the other person, but often it will get the bad side of the other person worse.

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We always habitually overestimate others.

we are used to saying: forget it, don't care. But if you don't care about yourself, who do you expect to care about you? Not everyone will live with good intentions, and not everyone will appreciate your good intentions.

In others, your kindness and enthusiasm may be regarded as weakness, while in others, you may be regarded as afraid to fight back, so if you are too kind and like to compromise too much, don't blame why you are always injured.

when you encounter unfair and unhappy things, you should be optimistic and actively solve them, but also remember not to compromise, because in this era, you can never compromise.

may you always be in my story? Wechat WeChat official account Qing Xin Lantian