I just brought in a new person at the beginning of the year, a little girl born in 1998, who is so tender that she can squeeze out water.

On the first day she joined the company, she excitedly wanted to add me on WeChat.

I took out the QR code and asked her to scan it. It was quickly verified by her, but I heard the little girl say: "Brother, why don't you post on Moments? Looking at you, I think your Moments must be very exciting."

"On the topic of circle of friends, we chatted for nearly half an hour.

It can be seen that she actually regards the circle of friends as a "tree hole" and likes to express herself in it.

When you are happy, post a selfie to show off your beauty; when you are bored, send an invitation to see who is willing to go; when you are sad, post a message and receive a wave of warm concern; when you are angry, send an emoticon and fight while

The picture is calming down... In fact, apart from micro-business marketing, the most common contents in the circle of friends are nothing more than the following: seafood dinners, beauty selfies, surprise gifts, graceful figures, expert cooking skills, sports tracks, travel scenery,

Reading results, etc.

First of all, most of those who chat about showing off their beauty selfies are doing it to increase their sense of presence or what is called “narcissism” in a derogatory way.

Send a graphic message with yourself as the center of the circle and radiate to the entire circle of friends. It can be directly understood as: "The sense of presence is no longer enough and is being recharged." The windows of famous brand clothes on the streets, in front of gardens with blooming flowers, at the tables in companies or coffee shops

... In front of any high-end place, beauties often make V-hand gestures, put up selfie sticks, and stand in front of the dining table for a long time as if they are occupying territory. For such a person, people around her will definitely whisper and think that she is "very"

Narcissism”.

The English word "narcissism" comes from the Greek mythological character "Narcissus".

Narcissus was a young man who was obsessed with his appearance and eventually drowned.

(The story goes like this: Narcissus was a very handsome young man. He was not attracted to any girl. He only admired his own reflection in the water. He eventually died of depression in self-pity. Narcissus turned into a daffodil after his death and still remains.

Watching one's own shadow by the water.) People who like taking selfies are very sensitive to their own image and care about the opinions of others around them, and often have a sense of inferiority.

In addition, excessive indulgence in one's own circle of friends is also a manifestation of escaping reality.

Then he talked about luxury cars and gourmet food. Food and luxury cars are a kind of commodity that is recognized and praised by society. This is also called "display consumption".

Many people buy brand-name goods because they want to show off to the people around them. They are thinking: "Look! I have such high-quality things!" In people's hearts, they all have an ideal image of themselves.

For example, some people want to be rich, some want to achieve success at work, and some want to become more handsome and beautiful... Everyone knows about food and luxury cars! For example, Rolls-Royce... no matter it is

Everyone has a "need for recognition" that desires recognition from others.

People who like to pursue famous brand products mostly admit that they have a strong need because they lack confidence in themselves.

They believe that although they have little strength, if they package themselves with well-known brand-name products, they can be recognized by the people around them.

This kind of behavior that uses other means to make up for one's inferiority complex and want to gain recognition from others is called "indirect self-display."

What they really think in their hearts is not “I want to be like this” but “I want others to see me like this”.

Behind the frequent posting of different images in their circle of friends, there is a lack of "self-trust" at work. From this point of view, they are mostly the type who lack confidence in themselves and are full of uneasiness.

Next, let’s listen to the inner monologue of a girl with good cooking skills showing off her delicious food. It’s very interesting! “I made something delicious, do you want to eat it? I made something delicious, do you think it looks good? I made something delicious.

, I feel great. I made delicious food, but I don’t think you can necessarily cook it..." In Internet language, this is called: cloud eating.

In fact, posting travel photos in Moments is more for sharing and recording.

Quoting a famous saying to talk about the fun shared in the circle of friends, he said: "Have fun alone, have fun with others, which one is happy?" He said: "Not as good as with others." Said: "Have fun with a few, have fun with everyone.

, Which one is happy?" He said: "Not as good as others"~~ Mencius' "King Hui of Liang" "I know you are unhappy, I want to do something for you, but I was not qualified at the time." "So I thought about it.

Some happy things, as long as you laugh, I will be satisfied. "The biggest function of the circle of friends is "sharing". We share the life we ??have experienced and our emotions in the hope of spreading happiness.