At the age of 29, most people are busy with trivial daily life, rushing to the morning and evening rush hour subway, dreaming of getting rich overnight, thinking that life is long enough to have everything they want.
Who would have thought that life would suddenly stop at the age of 29?
A friend of mine was a small clerk when he graduated, with a monthly salary of 2500. It took him five years to be promoted to director, with a monthly salary of over 30,000 at the age of 28. The secret is to work overtime day and night. When others get off work at 6 o'clock, she can wait until 1 1 in the evening and be urged to leave by the security guard.
Why do you spell it like this?
In her own words, this girl who came out of the countryside has no family background and works hard with michel platini, which is her only capital. Over time, desperate has become an inertia. Have a room or a car? If there is a Volkswagen, I still want to change to Mercedes. The higher you climb, the more you want.
Originally, I wanted to make money to ease my anxiety. Finally, I found that anxiety, like making money, has no end in sight. On the other side of life, neglected parents, estranged friends, and even grandma died, she couldn't attend the funeral.
Last year, a physical examination, a friend found a lump in the abdomen, and did not rule out malignant tumors. Before the test results came out, she collapsed and cried, blaming herself for being too desperate and greedy and risking her life for money. Remarkably, it has been proved to be a rare benign tumor, which can be removed by surgery.
She quit her old job and picked up her hobby of cooking again-her dream in college was to be a food blogger. At a kitchen friend's party, she met her own Prince Charming, a food photographer who spoiled her. Two months later, their first food photo album will be published.
My friend is unfortunate. She has a rare benign tumor, but she is also lucky enough. Because of this illness, she rethought the meaning of life. Now she has become a famous gourmet and realized her dream when she was young. This disease is like a pause of fate, which makes her stop in a hurry and re-examine her life.
But in reality, not everyone has the opportunity to be "suspended." Neglect health for work, miss children's growth for entertainment, and lose happy heart for fame and fortune. Many people know that glamorous life is actually terrible, but they don't have the courage to stop. Don't wait until there is nothing you can do and fate presses the pause button for you, then you will seriously think about the meaning of life.
The role of "Little Devil" in Game of Thrones has captured the love of countless fans of ice and fire, and Peter Dinklage has become one of the most expensive actors in Hollywood with this role.
Peter's dream has always been to become an actor, which is too difficult for him with a height of 135cm. Peter spent 10 years in poverty before he met the "little devil". He dusted the piano in the piano shop, mowed the grass and cleaned the honeycomb for a large family, and only slept on a friend's free sofa at night. Finally, I found a relatively decent job-data entry clerk, who worked for six years, because the income from this job allowed him to pay the rent and basic living. But at the same time, the dream of becoming an actor is getting farther and farther away from him.
He re-examined his present life and decided to resign, vowing to be a full-time actor in his next job, even if he didn't have enough to eat and sleep on the sofa, because dreams are more important than temporary food and clothing.
At the age of 29, he got a small and insignificant role in Imperfect Love. With this role, he got one acting opportunity after another, until he met a "little devil", which led him to the peak of his career and started a "real life".
In reality, many people are experiencing what Peter called "repeated work for six years", fearing that once they stop, even food and clothing will become a problem, so they are habitually pushed forward by life. What's more sad is that they are still lucky, thinking that opportunities are all falling from the sky, and they often say "unlucky".
What these people lack is an opportunity to stop and think: whether to continue blindly or adjust their direction. Either a career change, a new love choice, or a self-improvement decision, think clearly about how to spend this life.
Opportunities to change your life will never come by themselves. You need to press the pause button of life. So, try to stop yourself and give yourself a chance to choose again. Maybe there is a whole new life ahead.
When I changed my job last year, I was from naked resignation. I attended several interviews in succession. I was full of confidence, but I met four or five companies and didn't receive an offer. Later, I found a friend who is a human resource consultant. She pointed out a key problem to me, that is, in the process of communication, I always emphasized my past detailed experience and lacked the refinement of my work results, giving people the impression that I had done everything but lacked thinking.
Her suggestion made me very uneasy, because I began to realize that after working for so long, I would only "do odd jobs" mechanically according to the current situation of the company, and I didn't even make a basic summary.
Later, I bought several professional books, sorted out my previous work with the help of the theories in books and online articles, made a summary of more than 40 pages, and then revised my resume. After such combing, I have a deeper understanding of the position I applied for, and I can answer the interviewer's tricky questions freely. I got the offer soon, and the salary was much higher than expected.
Many people in the workplace have the same problem as me, doing one thing for a long time, falling into mechanical inertia and even numbness, and never stopping to think and summarize. A job has been done for 5 years 10 years, but it is repeating the first year. The length of service is increasing, but the mind and ability are still there.
I am very grateful to myself when I was in naked resignation. A casual pause made me discover my own problems, and I had a chance to resume my work in an all-round way, in exchange for full confidence in my future work.
There is nothing wrong with liking money, but the pursuit of fame and fortune is an overdraft for health and personal life, which is not worth publicity. There are many ways to achieve happiness in life.
There is nothing wrong with keeping your place in the workplace, but we should stop and think about where we grew up. Does it point to the distance you want?
It's not your fault that you are afraid of living, but it's your fault if you adapt to the low life because of inertia and don't even dare to stop to examine and improve yourself.
There is an article saying that graduation is a watershed in life, and I especially agree with it. Everyone has been trapped in a set of standard templates since childhood: going to primary school at the age of 6, going to college at the age of 65,438+08, and looking for a job at the age of 22. The textbooks and papers they read are unified. You can hardly see the difference between them except the grades. But your life after graduation depends entirely on your own choice.
Some people have entered the wrong industry, but they want to jump out and are afraid to start again. The cost of starting over is getting higher and higher.
Some people love the wrong person, want to break up and can't stand the loneliness of lovelorn, and they are happy all their lives.
Some people are numb to the daily life without passion and ask him to read more books to improve himself. He said that this is a "Buddhist school", and the longer it takes, the greater the gap with peers will become.
So at the class reunion ten years later, you will find that everyone's situation is very different. But the person who caused today's situation is himself. There is a saying that your temperament hides the road you have traveled, the books you have read and the people you have loved. The profound meaning of this sentence is: how to walk, how to read, how to fall in love, the choice is in yourself, hidden in your temperament, is your control over your own destiny.
When you find that the road has gone wrong, people are in the wrong love, and you are behind, then stop and adjust your direction. If you can't do it once, you can do it twice and start again if necessary. Your life really depends on yourself.