Meeting for the first time-"It's old-fashioned, but it's interesting."
"At that time, I just got back from the United States and knew nothing about variety shows in Taiwan Province Province. Besides, the black man just entered the business, and I don't know him at all. I remember the first time he called me and said,' Hello, I'm the host of Taiwan Province Province. My name is Blake. I want to ask if you are interested in going to the basketball game together. My first impression at that time was that the way this person introduced himself was old-fashioned, but it was quite interesting. "Later, Christine agreed to go to the basketball game with the black people and his friends, but in the end, the black people failed to repair their friends' relationship, but they got closer and closer to Christine.
Christine has only experienced two relationships in her life. The first one started in college and lasted for eight years, while the second one spent nine years with black people. Therefore, she often says that she is a person without the opposite sex, but in fact, she is just a little slow in emotional response. Even if the opposite sex is kind to her, she often doesn't feel it.
"In fact, I am really a slow-witted person, so I often miss many opportunities. I remember seeing a male classmate in high school many years ago. He told me that he always liked me and secretly loved me when he was studying, but I have no memory of it. I only remember that this boy often hit me and pushed me at that time. But when I saw him again, he was married and had children. "
Communication-"He is thick-skinned and thinks differently"
It is precisely because Christine is an insensitive person that when the black man appeared in front of her, she didn't expect to have any development with the boy. "But the key point is that this black man is a particularly active person. He will speak his mind clearly and take the initiative to do what he wants to do. In other words, he has a thick skin. "
In fact, black people expressed their feelings to Christine shortly after meeting her, but Christine had no feelings for him at that time. "I am a particularly rational person emotionally. If a relationship is not tested enough, I will feel very insecure. " At that time, thick-skinned blacks often made excuses to ask Christine out. Christine initially decided that he shouldn't do something for ordinary boys, such as watching movies and taking a walk. "But I am surprised that black people will let me set off firecrackers, so I am often caught off guard by his completely different ideas."
Tempted-"He is too humorous and sincere."
At the same time, Christine has always admired black people's sense of humor, which is one of the important reasons why she can leave a good impression on black people. "I remember our first official date, when he drove me for a ride, and then he suddenly remembered a song, saying that he had listened to it recently and liked it very much, so he wanted me to listen to it. As a result, I burst into tears when I heard it. That song is "I want to have sex with you" by BoyZII M en (I want to have sex with you). I told him it was our first date, and you played this song? In fact, I know he hasn't studied the lyrics carefully, but he just feels good. He is so humorous. "
It took black people half a year to really capture Christine's heart. Christine said that during this period, he did many things that moved her. For example, once black people sent Christine home and said that they would send her flowers the next day, but Christine only asked him to send them to the crossroads every time. Black people never know the exact address of her home. "When I went out the next day, I found that there really was a rose in front of my house! I was surprised, and then I went outside and found a rose in front of every house on this road! It turned out that he was not sure about my home address, so every household sent one ... his behavior really touched me. "
The typhoon brought the couple together.
But only in this way, the black man still failed to impress Christine. What really made Christine feel that this man was worthy of communication was a typhoon day nine years ago. "I still remember that typhoon was called Li Na. At that time, due to Li Na's flood, the road in front of my house was flooded, and the water reached my waist. I didn't have a car at that time, but I had to go out and buy some materials to go home because there was no water and electricity at home.
At that time, black people were very considerate. He drove to the intersection of Christine's house, then went into her house and bought a lot of materials. "Later, I went out with him again to buy some flashlights and other items. At first, he carried me on his back, but when wading across the road, his foot was cut by a submerged bicycle. As a result, I ended up carrying him for tetanus, which was a bit funny. But it is his intention that makes me feel that this person can try to communicate formally. "
Finally, with the help of Typhoon Li Na, black people and Christine finally came together. It was the middle of 2000, and they had known each other for half a year. But soon after they confirmed the relationship, it was exposed in about half a year. "I remember it was at the end of 2000, when we were dating outside and were photographed by the media, so everyone knew."
Get along with each other
Yearning for the life of old men and old women
After the romance was exposed, Christine had a tense relationship with black companies, and they were all worried that it would affect their future development, especially the company to which Christine belongs. "Because at that time, the black man just entered the hosting industry and was just a comedian." The competition of variety shows in Taiwan Province Province is fierce, so the host has to talk about his qualifications. Hosts who are new to this industry and have junior qualifications usually start as comedians, but when they are not famous, this position will inevitably make people feel inferior. Although Christine was still a newcomer at that time, he had released his first album, and soon he was shortlisted for the Golden Melody Award for "Best Newcomer". In their careers, they are slightly different.
Fortunately, black people live up to expectations. In just a few years, his popularity has been greatly improved by hosting programs such as "TV Three Cheap Guests" and "TV Missing Persons Hotline". Christine said, "Black people worked hard and started their own way. I admire him very much. I may not be able to do it. "
The relationship between blacks and Christine has always been concerned by the outside world. Because their image is healthy, and they have been dating for many years, they are quite stable, so they have become a model of the romance of the stars in the entertainment circle in Taiwan Province Province. Christine said that the advantage of an open relationship is that you don't have to hide yourself in the future. You can communicate openly, but everything has its good side and bad side. That is to say, you are often urged to get married by the media.
"Sometimes I feel very upset and helpless. Everyone always asks when to get married, when to have children after marriage, and when to divorce after having children ... The relationship between two people seems to be simplified into these steps. Besides bringing these speeches to everyone, what value can black people and I have? Sometimes I will be very angry. "
If they don't get married, it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with their relationship. For their journey, Christine described it as "a long stream of water". "When I was a child, I saw an advertisement. A pair of white-haired old men and women are walking under the tree. The old woman said to the old man, "Wife, what are you going to eat tonight?" "I thought, God, I'm so happy! At that time, I longed for this kind of life in my heart. At that time, I was still in primary school. I thought that if I could find my true love one day, I also hoped to be with my wife, so I would naturally hold hands and stay together for a long time. "
It is precisely because of the desire to grow old together, Christine treats feelings very rationally, so when this relationship begins, it seems that there is no process of love, but it directly enters a stable stage. It is also for this reason that every relationship of hers will last for a long time. "In fact, when two people's feelings sublimate like relatives, we often don't know how much we need each other and rely on each other, so time is also a good test, because we all know each other very well, and when we are together, there will be no big ups and downs. When we encounter any difficulties, we will calm down. After a period of time, we will feel that we can still overcome it. "
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After so many years, we can still see each other's new advantages
Christine admits that after living with black people for so many years, she sometimes does feel that the distance between them has changed. For example, she went to see The Reader with black people and a group of friends earlier. "In the first half, when there were many bed scenes and nude scenes, the boys watched with relish, but in the second half, when the most touching side of the plot was truly reflected, several of our girls cried. I looked back at the black man and really fell asleep. ...
However, Christine added that these differences will not affect the feelings of two people, but what really needs attention is whether you appreciate each other. "I think it is very rare for me and black people that after so many years, we can still see some new advantages of each other. We often find that there are some new places for us to appreciate, which is quite important."
Arguing about trivial "boring things"
What happens when you quarrel with a black man? Christine gave an example of "boredom": "Quarrel is usually caused by something boring, especially when two children are fooling around." Once, a black man bought a new memory card, the one used on PSP, with a capacity of 1G, and proudly showed it off in front of Christine. "Just then, my friend gave me a card, which was 8G, so I took it out and compared it with him, and then made fun of him for being self-righteous." But I didn't expect black people to get angry, so they left Christine's business card on the ground and walked away. This behavior angered Christine. "I cried because he refused to apologize all the time, but in fact, after I was angry, both of them felt very funny. We just often quarrel about such trifles. "
A distinctive "special agreement"
Quarrel is boring, but what they do together when they don't quarrel is not boring at all, but also meaningful. Christine said that they are very busy now, and they usually have little time to really belong to each other. But every time they meet, apart from eating and watching movies, they have a special agreement. "Since about two years ago, we have been going to a children's cancer ward in Taipei almost every month. On the second day of this year, black people joked that they would take me back to my mother's house. In fact, my mother's house is ward 93, where we play and chat with the children. " Christine and black people have done many such things, and each time he feels that he has gained a lot. "When we give, we are also treated well."
"LoveLife" makes feelings more meaningful.
Today, Christine and the Negro also set up a foundation to raise money for children with cancer. In April this year, they launched an activity called "Love Life" in a common name, advocating "Love Life and Never Give Up" and filmed a public service advertisement. Christine said that they did a lot of meaningful things together, which not only satisfied their hearts, but also made their previous feelings more meaningful. Why not?