In The Ideal City, there is a female No.2 character named Wu Hongmei, who is a college alumnus of female No.1 character Su Xiaoxiao. Although they are alumni, they are best friends. But the personality is the opposite.

Su Xiaoxiao dares to venture and fight, to be angry and to speak, to love and hate. But Wu Hongmei is completely different from her. She is resigned, and she does not want to make progress in her work, but she wants nothing.

Wu Hongmei and her lover Xiaobei got married hastily and lived frugally in the rental house. In order to save money for the down payment, Xiaobei imposed various restrictions and requirements on her consumption. Until one day, Wu Hongmei was ridiculed by her boss that her dress was too old-fashioned. Wu Hongmei came home and asked Xiaobei to buy clothes, but Xiaobei gave him another meal. Under her strong demand and resistance, Xiaobei had to take her to the mall to buy special and discounted goods. When she walked into the workplace proudly and happily in her newly bought clothes, she was ridiculed by her boss again.

Wu Hongmei is looked down upon by her boss and colleagues in the workplace. At work, I was picky and embarrassed by my boss everywhere. So in the workplace, she has no warmth and happiness. The only thing is that I can work with the same system. Two people spit on each other and comfort each other.

After working for four years, she has never been promoted or raised. Seeing that college alumni are small, their jobs are constantly rising, their salaries are much higher than their own, and their positions are also higher than their own. I have a great sense of loss and inferiority.

The great sense of loss made her feel even more inferior. In the workplace, she didn't dare to argue, dare to resist, resigned and cautious. Even so, it is still rejected and excluded by the boss.

During the annual meeting, everyone was singing, dancing and drinking in the warm and lively conference room. She was arranged to stand alone outside the door to welcome guests, drinking the cold wind and shivering with cold. This scene happened to be seen by Zhao Xiankun, the chairman of the board. When the chairman saw that she was wearing short-sleeved professional clothes and huddled with cold, he took off his sweater and put it on her.

Wu Hongmei's eyes lit up when the chairman took off the sweater and put it on her. Throughout the annual meeting, so many people came in and out, and no one found her shivering in the wind. Only the chairman saw her and put on her clothes. Never being cared for, suddenly being cared for, the warmth of this moment came too suddenly, and it also came from the chairman, which made Wu Hongmei feel warm and happy in her heart.

Wu Hongmei's cautious personality has trained her to be sensible and careful. When she wore the chairman's sweater, she was afraid of leaving a smell. She washed the chairman's sweater overnight and dried it with a hair dryer. Unexpectedly, she blew the chairman's sweater. When returning the chairman's sweater with trepidation, the chairman was surprised to hear that she had been blowing the sweater for three hours, and took one more look at this special girl.

Maybe so. From then on, there was such a person in the eyes of the chairman. But Wu Hongmei didn't take it to heart and didn't think about it. This matter passed quickly.

Wu Hongmei's family of origin has parents and a younger brother. Because the family house is relatively narrow, she has never had her own independent room, so she didn't go back for four years, but when she went back again, she wanted to use the money saved by her mother to make up the down payment with Xiaobei, but she was told that her mother took her room money and bought a house for her brother. Not only did her mother not give her a penny, but she asked her to help repay her brother's house.

she refused, she resisted, but when her parents scolded her loudly, she gave in and became weak. In the original parents' home, there is no warm care and understanding.

When she returned to her small home, she was forced by her lover Xiaobei to ask her parents for money to pay the down payment. In life, Xiaobei asked her to be thrifty to the extreme, and she was asked to be thrifty in dressing. Hongmei is exhausted by work and life, and she can't breathe. When Su Xiaoxiao, my best friend, found out, Xiaoxiao generously lent her a down payment of 311,111 yuan, and told her that there was no need to pay it back in a hurry.

At last, she and Xiaobei paid the down payment. With the help of her best friend Su Xiaoxiao, Wu Hongmei joined the reform team, and her salary was increased by 2,111 yuan. Wu Hongmei was so happy that she was no longer picky by her boss, and her salary went up again. Wu Hongmei was in a great mood.

The anxiety in her heart was temporarily put aside. Wu Hongmei happily went to buy a dress, but Xiaobei criticized her for spending money recklessly. Xiaobei told her that although the house has been bought, it will need to be renovated in the future, and there will be a series of places to spend money, such as weddings, having children in the future, and educating children to go to school, so we still can't spend money indiscriminately. The joy of buying clothes is gone.

Working in a big company, everyone else is wearing fashionable clothes, but what she wears is rustic, and every girl has a love of beauty. It is really not an exaggeration to buy a dress, and she hasn't bought new clothes for a long time. Even if you buy clothes, you choose discounted products to buy.

She thought that after buying the house, she could buy clothes. Who would have thought that she was criticized by Xiaobei again, and her heart collapsed. In order to obey Xiaobei's saving concept, she didn't take the subway, but went to squeeze the bus. The bus was so crowded that she was choked by the car door.

She knows that she will have to live with Xiaobei for the rest of her life. Xiaobei will restrict her from buying any clothes, consuming delicious food and choosing the mode of transportation.

There is no affirmation or encouragement in Wu Hongmei's life. She is pushed forward by others and always blamed by others. Even if she works under her best friend Su Xiaoxiao, Zhao Zong, the deputy team leader, forced her to hand in the report in advance. Although she resisted, she wanted to disobey. However, under Zhao Zong's severe reprimand, she had to hand over the report, and was later scolded by Su Xiaoxiao.

whether at home or at work. Wu Hongmei is constantly being reprimanded and criticized. This is inseparable from her cowardly and inferiority complex. There is only one person in her life who has been giving her affirmation and praise, and that is the chairman Zhao Xiankun. When she first talked to her boss about the conditions for recruiting assistants in front of the chairman, the chairman praised her.

The second time, when she helped the chairman tie his shoelaces, the chairman was delighted to find that she was so cautious and ingenious. The chairman gave her a deep look and gave her a positive appreciation, which made her mind flutter. In her view, this trivial matter can be particularly affirmed by the general manager.

Wu Hongmei was affirmed and praised by the chairman for the third time, when the reform group was established. She cleaned the conference room and put it neatly. When the chairman came in and found her alone, the chairman praised her at the right time, saying that she had cleaned up the conference room well and arranged it well. Wu Hongmei knows that in this world, no one has ever discovered her strengths and affirmed her efforts. Only the chairman of the board gives affirmation and praise.

if the affirmation and praise of the chairman gave her a warm heart, then the chairman put on a sweater and she sent her home after working overtime, which made her have a good impression, expectation and more dependence on the chairman.

when she decided that she didn't want to live like that with Xiaobei all her life, she left Xiaobei and went to the chairman.

Wu Hongmei is actually not a material girl, let alone a girl who worships money. If she were a girl who worships material things and money, she would not have chosen Xiaobei at the beginning, and she had suffered so much and suffered so much with Xiaobei.

It's that she lacks warmth and affirmation. When Zhao Xiankun gives her affirmation and praise again and again, it inspires her confidence to create a life by herself. She seems to have found an oasis in the desert, with hope and a goal.

Zhao Xiankun is not attracted by power and money, but by the warmth and affirmation he gives her. Wu Hongmei can't get affirmation in her work. Xiaobei can't give her affirmation or warmth in her life. Xiaobei only gives her the concept of restriction and how to scrimp.

when a person is cold for too long, warmth comes, just like spring. People who have stayed in the severe winter for a long time, when spring comes, how can they not be happy? How can we miss this warm season? I think Wu Hongmei is just like this.

The last straw that crushed Wu Hongmei was not the poverty that limited life with Xiaobei, but the warmth and affirmation. For her, she needs warmth and affirmation, and life has hope and meaning.

In real life, how many parents are very demanding of their children, educating their children with criticism all day, telling them that they can't do this or that in front of their children every day, and finally making them rebel and resist.

Nowadays, many young people are unwilling to live with their parents when they are out of society. It is also because they live with their parents, who use their own outlook on life, values and life to blindly ask their children to do according to their standards, so that their children can live in constant criticism and accusations. Therefore, once the child has the conditions, he escapes from his parents' life circle.

Give affirmation and praise to the other party at the right time, and let others live in a cheerful and cheerful environment. Who will run away? After Wu Hongmei fled, she chose to stay with the chairman because the chairman always encouraged her, praised her, recognized her and affirmed her. Let her feel the meaning and happiness of life.

Giving warmth and affirmation is the best way to keep your lover and relatives around.