1, give the child a bowl of water.

Parents who have a second child know that a bowl of water is flat, but it is not easy to really make a bowl of water flat. After all, there is no absolute balance in the world. What most parents call a bowl of water is always material. They think that buying clothes for Bauer is also for Dabao, and buying shoes for Bauer is also essential. They think a bowl of water is flat. Don't you know that children care not only about material things, but also about feelings. Because many second-born mothers have given birth to Bauer, their main energy is biased towards Bauer. It is often a luxury for Dabao to let his mother play with him, so Dabao is unbalanced. When Dabao showed dissatisfaction, her mother still felt wronged, thinking that she bought Dabao as much as Bauer, and she also cared about Dabao at ordinary times. In fact, it is only material concern, and the children really don't appreciate it.

If a bowl of water is flat, the second-born mother must take some time to accompany Dabao alone every day in a planned way, so that Dabao can enjoy the previous parent-child relationship again.

2. Relaxation needs to balance Dabao's emotions.

Many parents of the second child believe that since Bauer was born, Dabao, who was originally well-behaved, suddenly became abnormal, often crying, rebelling and disobedient, and in severe cases, his mother would collapse.

Because of her mother's tolerant policy, Dabao's mood is not abnormal, but she is also very friendly to Bauer.

3, the same rules, according to different standards of age.

Small things that are usually irrelevant are not too strict with Dabao, but in principle, both babies must abide by the rules.

For example, wash and brush your teeth before going to bed every night. Dabao is a little older, and his mother lets Dabao do his own thing. Because of her young age, Bauer relies on her parents to help her wash clothes. When her mother was bathing Bauer, she said to Bauer, "Look, my brother is great. You can do your own thing. You should eat well and grow up quickly. When you are old enough to do your own thing, your mother will be relieved. " Mom said so, Dabao won't be unbalanced because mom helped Bauer. On the contrary, Dabao will have a sense of pride and accomplishment.

4. Use comparison skillfully to guide children to be aggressive.

In a second-child family, as the baby grows up, children often compete for favor with each other, so parents often feel very headache.

From a psychological point of view, children's love for pets is actually a jealous behavior. Everyone has a positive desire to pursue beauty. When this desire is satisfied and realized, it often produces possessiveness and exclusiveness; When this wish is not realized and others realize it before themselves, a feeling of jealousy arises. When there is jealousy between two children in the family, there will be competition for favor.

In fact, from another angle, it is not a bad thing for children to compete for favor. Parents can use their brains to find ways to balance the relationship between the two children. If the competition mechanism is skillfully introduced, bad things can also become good things.