It is said that maternal love is great, yes. Every mother loves her children, but there are many ways for her to love them. Sometimes a mother feels that she loves with all her strength, but it can bring unhappiness to her children.

Wen Jie was born in 1967. Born in the countryside, I have a brother two years older than her and a brother five years younger than her. She is the only girl in the family. Therefore, parents prefer her, and I don't know how much love to give Wenjie to express my mother's love for her.

in the past, it was the most painful thing for people to have no children. It was said that raising children to prevent old age. Aunt Wenjie lived in Tianjin, and the old couple were both business leaders, which was enviable at that time. In the era of planned economy, Tang Gu's family lived a rich life, eating rice and flour, and living in the family building of the unit. It can be said to be a paradise in the eyes of rural people. But God doesn't seem to make every family perfect, and my aunt is infertile. This is my cousin's trouble, so my cousin asked Wen Jie's parents to adopt one. According to common sense, it is said that her family is related by blood and relatively close. Cousin and Wenjie's parents felt uneasy when they mentioned it, for fear that elder brother and sister-in-law would not agree. I didn't expect Wenjie's parents to be very generous, so they agreed casually. But it's a lot of thinking about which of the three children to give to Tang Gu Wenjie's parents. Wen Jie was seven years old that year and just started school. My brother is nine years old and has been in the second grade, and my brother is only two years old. Wenjie's mother decided to give the only "little cotton-padded jacket" to her cousin.

It was a week before the Spring Festival in 1974, and a family of five got on the train to Tianjin. At that time, rural children had never seen a train. At that time, Wen Jie was happy to sing and dance in the car. Don't mention how happy I am. When I arrived at my cousin's house, I ate delicious food that she had never eaten before. My cousins enthusiastically took Wenjie's family to the park mall in Tianjin. That year, Wen Jie's family spent the Spring Festival at Tang Gu's house. When playing, my cousin always asks Wen Jie if she is at her aunt's house. Wen Jie said innocently, "OK, there are delicious food and fun." "Then live with my aunt?" . Ok, I like my aunt's house. Seven-year-old Wen Jie didn't know that this trip was arranged by his parents and cousins. It's to familiarize her with her cousin first. Is that she left her parents for life.

Wen Jie's parents returned to the countryside with their two sons after the Spring Festival. Wen Jie was left in their cousin's house where they lived in "paradise".

at that time, communication equipment was not as convenient and developed as it is now, only letters or telegrams were available. It takes more than a week for a letter to arrive. Wenjie's mother writes to her cousin every month to ask about Wenjie's situation. Do you miss them? Are you used to it?

Wen Jie misses her parents every day after her parents come back. It's ok to play with her granddaughter of the same age at Grandma Liu's house in Unit 1 of her cousin's house during the day, but at night, her aunt doesn't come home, no matter how much she cries. She always sleeps at Grandma Liu's house and takes her home to sleep. At that time, Wen Jie cried and cried every day, thinking about mom and going home. The seven-year-old child's heartbreaking cry of leaving his mother is heartbreaking to think of. In the middle of the night, I screamed from my dream: "Mom, I'm going home. I'm not here, I don't eat delicious food here and I don't play. Mom, I'm going home. " Cousin went through the legal adoption procedures and tried to coax Wenjie into staying with her. Wen Jie cried for half a year before he forgot his mother? Maybe it's useless to cry, too? I had to go back to my aunt's house for dinner and sleep. How did Wenjie's mother know that Wenjie missed her mother's pain?

actually, why didn't wenjie's mother miss her daughter? For the sake of children's "future happiness", give up what one favours reluctantly. Mother has heard her daughter's cry and called her mother in her dreams many times. I have woken up in my dreams many times, leaving tears of missing when I woke up. Wen Jie never understood his mother's painstaking efforts, nor did his mother fully understand what happiness a child needs most in his heart.

This is a kind of maternal love. I want to plan my daughter's future well, so I can eat and drink well. At that time, I can take over my parents' class after graduation, have a good job and an "iron rice bowl". Finding a partner can better find a good family.

in fact, it backfired. At the age of seven, Wen Jie remembered that she was not her cousin's flesh and blood. Although she changed her name, she also called her cousin mother, but she had an end in her heart. The person who was both a cousin and an adoptive mother was not a good person in her eyes. She lied to herself and separated her from her mother. I hate my mother in my heart, saying that my mother prefers boys to girls, and neither son gives her only daughter away. Wen Jie and his adoptive mother are not on good terms. She had sex at the age of 19 and gave birth to a daughter. I'm not happy. In the era of economic reform in 199, people were laid off one after another. Life has become difficult. Wenjie became a dancer and learned to smoke and drink. Therefore, my husband is in a bad mood, and drinking wine is even more worrying. Wen Jie's husband suffered from cirrhosis due to alcoholism, and Wen Jie died on the road in Tianjin in the middle of the night when he was 33 years old.

Now Wen Jie and his daughter are still living alone, and the adoptive mother and Wen Jie have terminated the adoption contract. Wenjie is widowed, and her daughter is thirty and has no object. Lonely mother and son live in Tianjin, which is the so-called paradise life planned by maternal love for Wenjie.

Let's look at the maternal love of Zhiguo again. Zhiguo is an only child, and his father is the workshop director. Mother is the unit treasurer. Father is very strict, and the mistakes of the country are always solved by violence. But maternal love can warm and protect the country, and every time the country makes mistakes, the mother will hide from her father and let the country escape the pain of flesh and blood. From then on, the country knows that it is wrong and has the protection of its mother. Fighting at school, my mother blocked it, apologized to my classmates' parents and bought gifts. Mother paid for breaking the school glass. Write a letter of guarantee to the school. The most serious time, Zhiguo took his mother's key and colluded with social people to steal the enameled wire from the unit warehouse. Worth ten thousand yuan. But the mother simply knelt down to the leader and begged him not to report the case and not to pursue legal responsibility. She compensated for the loss and cheated her husband. Since then, the country has become bolder.

He knew that his mother was a "patron saint" and that she was capable of handling everything. Since then, he dropped out of school and hung out with social gangsters before graduating from junior high school. If he didn't go home, he began to work as a thug for the underworld. It was their job to rob and steal, and he was a real hooligan. He was repeatedly reeducation through labor and sentenced to no avail. Finally, due to lack of money, he deliberately killed people and went to the road of no return. Ended his life in his twenties

Look, Dabao's mother loves Dabao more. Dabao has two sisters. During the period when the family planning policy was so tight, her parents hid from each other because she was born Dabao. Give the second sister away, too.

Dabao is the apple of his parents' eye when he is born. He is really scared, and he is afraid to hold it askew. Dabao ran and played on the ground, and didn't even let him take off his shoes when he went to bed, for fear of taking off his shoes and cooling Dabao. I never let my neighbors touch and look at my child when I go out with her in my arms, for fear that it will be damaged by the child.

Dabao is seven years old and going to school. He also wants to go with his neighbor's children. His mother doesn't have to send him, but she doesn't allow him. I always ride my bike to school. However, due to Dabao's mother's excessive pampering of her children, neighbors' adults also don't let their children play with Dabao, for fear that their children will encounter Dabao when playing, causing unnecessary trouble.

dabao is getting lonely. Almost stopped talking. I always watch my friends play in a daze at the door, or I stay indoors. In junior high school, Dabao played computer at home and never left the house. At this time, Dabao's mother realized that the child was abnormal. I took Dabao to see a doctor, but I was autistic. Now Dabao still doesn't leave home. He is twenty years old. He hardly cuts his hair or washes his face. He just sits at the computer and taps the keyboard to vent his emotions and vent his inner world in the game.

It's all maternal love here. Maternal love is so great, but what are these maternal love I see? I think it is the legendary abnormal maternal love. Their improper maternal love has brought pain to their children, themselves and their families. Abnormal maternal love breeds children with abnormal thinking. Turn happiness into pieces. Whose fault is this? The child also suffered all the bitter fruit brought by his deformed heart.

I don't know if Wen Jie doesn't go to his aunt's house in that "paradise", there will be no resentment in his heart.

The mother of Zhiguo will not cause a point of no return if she does not give in again and again. Ruined the life of a short twenties. And leave a charge.

if dabao is not excessively spoiled by his mother. Playing with his peers will make him happy and he won't feel abandoned in the world. I won't feel inferior, and I won't shut myself in front of that computer. .....

What do these mothers give their children? I can't figure it out. There is no answer.

maternal love needs science and reason, and it is also a science. How can we make maternal love appropriate? How can I not be a deformed maternal love? This is something we need to explore.