20200721 ??Beishang shared that when the ability rises to a certain height, the problem is no longer a problem!

Mortals always have various kinds of pain.

But pain comes from one's own abilities.

The same problem may not be a problem for Jack Ma, but it is a big problem for some people.

People will suffer when there are some problems that cannot be solved. When they are able to solve the problem, the problem is no longer a problem and the pain will naturally disappear.

After get off work yesterday, I chatted with a trainee in the corridor of the delivery room for nearly an hour.

We mainly talk about family education and family relationships.

The husband of the trainee is a soldier. He is in the army and is away from home every year except for annual leave.

The eldest son in the family is 3 years old and the youngest daughter is 1 year old.

My father-in-law and mother-in-law are here to help take care of their two children.

She is not blaming her parents-in-law, but she feels powerless when talking about these relationships.

However, after listening to her description, even with positional awareness, from her perspective, my heart is still as calm as water, and I feel more sympathy for the old man.

There are several images that impressed me so much that I wrote them down and shared my thoughts: 1. "My father-in-law and my mother-in-law do nothing at home, and they don't bother to cook delicious food for the children." I

Thoughts: I think as daughters-in-law, we must first have a grateful heart!

My father-in-law and mother-in-law have raised my husband, and their mission has been completed.

They have no obligation to help us take care of our children.

Even if they don't help us take care of our children, we still have the obligation and responsibility to support them until they grow old.

Because they raised our husbands.

Now that the two elders have left their hometown and come to the big city to adapt to new lives and help take care of their children, I don't think we should have any demands on them anymore.

They have already done a lot for us!

In that era of material scarcity, food and clothing were a problem for them. Maybe they didn't know how to make delicious food for their children?

At their age, raising children every day may be exhausting!

2. "My father-in-law didn't tell me that he was sick. He didn't go to the doctor or take medicine. He didn't get up to eat, but just slept in his room. The trainee felt very angry. It was not easy for her to take care of two children, and her husband didn't

If her father-in-law is seriously ill, it will be transmitted to the children and it will cause greater trouble for her. Her own mother is sick herself, and she is already exhausted mentally and physically. If she has to take care of her two elderly people, she will simply collapse.

That time she got mad at my father-in-law and my mother-in-law. My thoughts: Elderly people in that era were more economical.

People who are sick usually put it off until they can no longer take care of themselves. This may be their inherent thinking mode.

In addition, the city's consumption is very high. They know that a doctor's visit costs a lot of money, and it is also troublesome to go to the hospital to see a doctor.

Perhaps their original intention was to save money for their children.

I think most of my friends’ parents should have this kind of thinking, right?

Including my parents, my father-in-law and my mother-in-law all think so.

When we saw the motive behind the old man's death, our hearts were filled with heartache and love.

We can talk to him nicely without getting angry.

3. "The trainee's mother was sick. She was pregnant with her second child at the time. She took her first child with her to the hospital for medical treatment. She came home very late at night, and her parents-in-law didn't even say hello. They were fast asleep." Mine

Thought: Everyone wants to be cared for and noticed.

But people in that era, including many people in modern times, were not good at verbal expression.

Maybe they had been waiting for a long time and were really sleepy at night, so they went to bed.

I think greetings from parents-in-law are the icing on the cake, but don’t take them to heart if they don’t.

We never ask others, only ourselves.

4. "The mother of the trainee loves her daughter very much. She feels that her daughter cannot eat well while studying in Guangzhou, and her parents-in-law do not make some delicious food for her daughter every time she comes home." My thoughts: I really feel about this.

I feel even more inappropriate.

It is tiring for the elderly to take care of two children every day, and they are also asked to prepare delicious food for their daughter-in-law.

I wonder if the mother-in-law of a trainee student can also treat her daughter-in-law like this?

My parents-in-law take care of the children for me, which is already a great help to us, and everything else is secondary.

Some people may think that they are also helping their son take care of the children, but they are taking care of their own grandchildren.

But I advise all daughters-in-law not to think like this. The children are our own.

With a grateful heart, life will be happy!

Asking others for everything will only make yourself more uncomfortable.

5. “One time when she was at work, through mobile phone monitoring, she saw that her mother-in-law was accidentally locked out of the balcony by her son.