If you know a boy who has an eye contact and is in good condition online, how can you chat after adding WeChat, so as to make the other person want to explore you?

Give three practical methods. Let's learn them quickly.

1. Be sure to collect each other's information extensively.

Use all the paths you can master, such as the first exposure attraction of social networking sites and the second exposure of information in friends circle or Weibo.

For example, I have a best friend, Xiaoxiao, who chatted on social networking sites for three days and hit it off with a younger brother. On social networking sites, the younger brother only has a photo of work and business, and Xiaoxiao also talks with the financial circles of the two of them about some financial knowledge and opinions. When they meet each other, it is particularly predestined, so it is logical to add WeChat.

This point is called lowering the defense of the other party, and choosing topics that both parties know to close the safe distance. However, after the addition of WeChat, the amount of information came up at once. Xiaoxiao found that my little brother was still a food explorer. Friends circle shared all kinds of restaurants and food reviews every three or five times. It was also a smile of eating goods, and I felt that there were more things to talk about, but the question was how to talk?

here, I first helped Xiaoxiao to analyze the depth information. For example, they are all visiting shops, but we can see this person's taste and consumption concept. Xiaoxiao usually likes homemade food, and spends half a day studying online celebrity recipes on weekends. They pay attention to beauty in cooking and are novel in shape.

Let's look at my little brother's food sharing. Because my little brother is a native of Beijing, most of them are not particularly expensive but very grounded old Beijing snack bars, and there are many group photos and dinners with friends.

Laugh and say, Andy, I feel a little depressed. I feel that his level is not high, and the food he eats is not very expensive and high-grade. You don't know, my cooking materials are very elegant. Isn't it said that if you choose a person, you must choose one with similar tastes, because eating will last a lifetime? How can I make this boy eat tastefully?

It is said that a person's stomach was developed before the age of four, and the other person likes to eat old Beijing dishes. This cannot be arbitrarily considered that he is low and has poor taste. We often say that the three views are consistent in a relationship. For example, you eat fried dough sticks and soy milk every day, and I eat western-style steak every day. But if we live in peace, it is not that the three views are different.

But if you say that I am a China person pretending to be foreign, I say that you are a bumpkin who can't afford to eat elegant food. This kind of mutual criticism is eager to keep up with the direction, which is the difference in three views. We can't tolerate each other. If we want to continue to get along, then we need to seek common ground while reserving differences.

So I smiled and said, Mm-hmm, then I'll just get to know the local customs and ask the boy what's interesting about these small shops or what feelings they have for him.

Sure enough, like a chatterbox, boys began to share their growing experiences and preferences with Xiaoxiao, who told me, don't say, Andy, what he said, I really discovered a lot of food culture that I didn't understand, and I also shared pictures of my cooking with him by the way. He really didn't see that the little girl was so attentive.

do you like my performance better? This is the first step. When chatting, dig deep into the information first. If you find information that you don't agree with, but the other person likes it very much, be patient and understand it. Maybe there is a hole in the sky.

At the same time, you listened to your little brother's sharing, which also gave him emotional value. By the way, you got the opportunity to show your special skills and upgrade your gentle and versatile impression in his heart.

2. Chat back meaning method.

As for the information mining of boys' circle of friends, since my younger brother has shown a lot of old Beijing food culture with Xiaoxiao, for the sake of reciprocity, Xiaoxiao also needs to reveal his preferences. Otherwise, it is easy to have a situation where boys mistakenly think that Xiaoxiao is also interested in small restaurants, so naturally they invite small restaurants to have dinner directly.

smile and say, I really think eating in a small restaurant will cause diarrhea, and I feel sick when I see it. What should I do? Therefore, Xiaoxiao should take the initiative to introduce his usual eating preferences, but because there is a big difference with boys after all, it is not good for my little brother to think that we are not the same person and give up pursuing, so I asked Xiaoxiao to add some ritual things when introducing his preferences.

For example, smile, I especially like hot pot culture, perhaps because I am afraid of loneliness, so the steaming makes me feel very warm; For another example, if you smile and like fine food, you can say that I am a food artist. I think respecting the characteristics of ingredients and giving full play to their best side in life is a respect for food, just as I especially respect your favorite Beijing culture.

In this way, boys will feel that smiling is unique if they let them know their preferences and at the same time it doesn't hinder their preferences. After all, interesting girls have their own personalities, and they are definitely not the same.

3. Grasp the stage to chat.

In addition to food, they also talked about the experience and humanistic feelings of food. During the construction of the chat, both sides released their own connotation to each other. The so-called mutual display, the soul exchange has been completed more than half, so Xiaoxiao and the boys chatted very speculatively, and the boys also invited Xiaoxiao to meet.

however, it should be noted that the first date, even if you two have made good preparations before, still should pay attention to the fact that you are meeting for the first time, and you still have to grasp the stage characteristics of chatting. For example, if a boy wants to establish a relationship with you or even have a relationship with you for the first time, you will feel uncomfortable too soon, right? Therefore, the chat after meeting follows the original rhythm, but also pulls back a little.

You can talk about your work unit and academic experience that you haven't talked about online, which will make both parties feel stronger than asking these questions just like checking their household registration when you are dating in the traditional sense, because knowing the basic information after you have a good impression on each other will make both parties think that everyone is sincere, interesting and reliable.